Author: Lim Tian Soo

Deepavali

Someone just mentioned that Deepavali is 2 weeks away. I am ashamed that being a Singaporean, I have no Indian friend close enough to invite me to celebrate with them. We use to have an Indian kid as part of our gang in teenage years. We always look forward to his invitation at Deepavali because his mother cooks a really good Indian meal. Even up to today, we reminisce about it when we have old boys gathering. But this Indian friend did not get the message, he has since married a Chinese girl…. with all our help in the early days. He is now a Towkay and behaves more Chinese then me.

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Things we will miss

 

My maid broke the last bottle of water-based hair liquid I have. I have visited 5 stores but they don’t sell them anymore. All the hair cream at the stores are Super Hard, Extra Firm Gels that keeps your hair straight  up if you want them. The young men now keeps their hair upright and disorderly. The manufacturors thinks older men either have no money or have no hairs to comb.

Maybe I should try the gels. My few strands of white hair will stay straight up for a few hours if I buy the XXXtra Hard Hair Gel. The only thing is I will feel like an old idiot.

How was your first time?

 

They say TEENAGE is the time when we are curious about our body and there are many first experences. We were curious, inquisitive and experimental. The romantics  say we must treasure our first experience. Practical people like me just try to get more experience and be good at it.  At that age, we often talk about it, speculate about it and mostly the boys boast about it.

Of course not everyone is dirty like me. I am aware that there are  ‘respectable ladies ‘ here in this forum who do not even want to read about IT. I think they are still waiting to savour it.

I believe this saying is wrong. When we are past 45 years old you would find that there are more  first time experiences that will happen to your bodies then you had when you were  a teenager. And we should talk and learn more about them, less we are lead astray.  For example, the first time your hairs starts to turn silver, the first time your hair disappears, the first time we waited till the bus stops completely before we ambark, the first time you walk up the overhead bridge instead of running across the road, the first time you notice you cannot run . Than comes your first heart attack, your first stroke, your first catarac, the first time you make sure to stand very close to the urinal or your feet will get wet.

I am therefore intrigued that there are so few people here willing to share their first experences here.  Are they just waiting for them to happen again than get better at it the next time. Or maybe they want to savour it because it will be their first time. 

I hope, like Jacqualine, Kenneth and others you will be more willing to come forward to share your experiences. There is nothing to be shy about your first time experiences. We are not a teenager anymore and we should learn as much as possible and early. Then perhaps we will not turn frigid  when the next  ‘First Experience’ comes. 

Just Wondering

 

Yes Terence. I was writing this post and some visitors pop-in so I quickly erase whatever I was writing and try to look distinguish. They are gone now, so here it is again.

Last week we read news of these  2 Chiefs of our government security agencies being investigated for practicing IT with one married women and paying for their enjoyment by favouring her with job contracts. Than today, an MP has to go on enforced leave because of his liason  also with a married women. I was thinking if they are sharing this same women.

 I also wonder :

1.  If married women are the vogue this season.

2.  Are they all looking to have Dragon babies?

3.  Are good experienced women so scares that they have to share?

4.  Should  they be encouraged, so as  to preserve an intelligent gene pool?

5.   Is these just a tip of an iceberg?

6.  When can we get to see this Wonder woman and how others can learn from her skills.

 

 

Be kind

 

I went to JB to open a bank account yesterday. I have to drive around the whole complex to find the entrance to the carpark. The carpark was packed and I have to wind my way down 3 floors before finding a space. All the while I curse the bad design and bad maintainence of the building.

Then I got to the shopping center and have to ask 3 people for direction before  I found the bank. I thought the people I met were quite stupid and cannot give proper directions.

I approached the bank reception and was told to get a queue ticket. On the ticket dispensor was this security guard who just gave me a ticket already printed by him. I told myself ‘Mana ada system’. I cannot see any electronic display board to tell me when is my turn and where to go. What a useless bank. I ask a tudong clad lady behind the first dask and she pointed to where I should wait. In front of me with the bank officer was this about 80 year old Chinese Singaporean man. He had his pink I/C on the desk. It looks like this elderly man have difficult understand and deciding what he want but the Malay lady officer had her graceful smile all the time and patiently repeat her instructions. It went on for about 20 minutes. I was impatient.

Just then a very sweet young Malay girl with her colourful tudong  stood up from next to me and invite me with her sweetest smile to have her seat. I did not notice her before.

It then dawn on me, what had become of me. I have become a grumpy old man, full of myself and with a mistaken superior attitude. I was blind to the patient, gracious people I was with but cannot see them. I recall everyone I ask for direction and met, including the security guard, had a friendly smile for me while I harbour disdain for them.

I have learnt a lesson form the little Malay girl with her bright colour Tudong. 

 

 

Silverhair got money

 

I just watched an interesting programme on TV about the business of providing for silverhair age group. Countries like Malaysia, Thailand and China are developing retirement homes and all of them are looking forward to good business.

Actually, we the people over 45 years old, hold the largest disposalble income in the world. From corporate chiefs to the retired, we actually are in control of more money than the younger ones.  And yet the marketing people only consider markets for children, teenagers and young adults, and when it comes to older people they only offer us retirement homes. Even when we discuss the subject here in this site, we thing about retirement home for ourselves. How about the time we have to spend before we need retirement homes. There are still a lot of life left before we sit on the wheelchair and wait for death.

We are still physically active even if we cannot exert ourselves as vigorously as the young. But there are many things we can do and should do instead of lying down preparing for death. The industry should provide for us but this can only happen if we demand it. They will listen because we control most of the money.

I think one of the problem is that most of the time, we tend to think in terms of the future. That is why we are preoccupied with retirement homes and eldercare. How about fashions that can make us look good now as we are…not younger. Entertainment places more suited to our taste. Golf games with fewer holes. Lighter footballs played on smaller fields. etc

OK you guys think of more and maybe start a business to earn some money from the rest of us. I am sleepy now……..maybe a special bed for our age with old partners?

Take Care

 

Here is an information for our cyclist and rich members who lives in expensive condos.

In a BBC report today. ‘ Edinburgh University scientists found minuscule particles produced by burning diesel can increase the chance of blood clots forming in arteries.

The blood clots can then lead to heart attacks or stroke.’

So cycling or running on the road in heavy traffic may not be a good idea. Also those of you rich people living in Condos, the monthly mosquito fumigation is basically spraying diesel fumes in your estate.

 

Great Lovers

I was about to unsubscribe my Straits Times newspaper for lack of news. But
todays front page news in the Home section is about this 60 over years old
accountant suing his former girlfriend for $400,000 he spend on her and she in
turn counter sue him for half share of a $1.24M flat. Now that is news. I am
grateful to ST for this brilliant piece of reporting and will continue to
subscribe.

It concerns me because this guy is about my age and in the same profession.
It could be me!!!

Also I am sure there are lovers among us happily exchanging gifts while
whispering sweet nothing this evening ……it is time to contemplate. Or am I
the crude unromantic guy?

The facts of the case sounds quite straight forward, so I am sure you all
have your own opinions about who is wrong and what is the best way to settle
this case.

Lets hear you, especially the ladies, we men need to learn.

Ghost Month

 

Last year I had the opportunity of watching a ‘Ker Tai’ performance at Choa Chu Kang cemetery. There were 3 lorries decorated with brighly coloured lights and each had its own sound system. The performers were beautiful girls with little cloths. They sing on top of the lorries while the convoy parades among the tombs in the cemetery. I knew then that ghost are horny and they will remain quiet if we satisfy them at their premises.

I am looking out for them this month. I am also horny.

Do you believe in ghost? I have never seen one despite looking out for them. The nearest I  get to them is someone who knows someone who have seen one.

During this month,  they are suppost to be all over Singapore, so I am watchful….for the ghost, not the scantily dressed ‘Ker Tai’ singers.

 

 

 

You are next !!!

Last week we watched on TV, a video clip of this frail old woman sitting naked under a running fan. She then get toss onto her bed unceremoniuosly like a sack of manure. Whilst on the bed, she got slapped for groaning.

I am sure this scene get repeated in other old folks home and indeed in normal households. YOU may eventually be the next victim!!

The incident shows that money cannot buy care. You can pay the nurses 3 times more than thay can get at home but you cannot get them to care for you unless they have it from within. You can give your children all your wealth and intelligence but that does not mean they will care for you. Our Ministers gets 100 more salary than an average citizen ………(censored by author) 

This post is to solicit ideas on how WE can avoid being ill treated when we get real old.
Here are a few ideas which comes to my mind….just for discussion. 

We have to show care to others and hope divine justist exist. 
Give caregivers kindness and hope they will return kindness.
Give them money, little at a time,  in return for a little care each time.
Tell them the video camera is watching and recording them.
Tell them GOD is watching them?
Tell them about Hell, for people who mistreats the old.
Have policeman stationed in all old folks home.
…more….

On a rainy day

On this raining wet day when we a marooned indoors, it is
time to reflect.

I am able to feed myself by watching my investments. But I don’t
read financial statements or pay attention to financial experts. Financial statements
and expert advises are fast becoming more fictional by the day. I do pay
careful attention to political developments in the world. All investment
markets are influenced by world events. If you can read it right, you can make profits.

This post is to tap on the brains and experiences of members
on your reading of current political events. It is not about politics as in
which government is better. It is about political and social events affecting
our investments.

To start of, there is now an important change in the Middle
East. The ripple  of toppling dominant
governments have started in Tunisia and now in Egypt and a smaller extend in
Yemen. Saudi stock market is shaking.

 There are still many dominant
governments in the Middle East. This  revolutionary
change of government if continued. will eventually affect the world supply of
fossil fuel, world economy and your investments.   This
may be the biggest political upheaval this century but I may be wrong..

Let me have your views on the world today.

You have nowhere to go in this rain anyway.

My Thought for the New Year

Today is 1/1/11. 10 days later it will be 11/1/11. 10 months
later it will be 1/11/11 and 10 days after that it will be 11/11/11.

The 1s’ looks like someone up there is wagging his finger at
us. We pollute the earth, fight each other, the wealthy live off the sufferings
of the poor, countries with more  weapons
are feared, there are more holy men and promises of wealth and heaven. Greed
seems to be the creed.

But if we stop to follow this wave we will be left behind
and be servant to the rich.

What to do eh?

Food For Thought

I have been reading up on how to avoid heart attack and have found the answer. It is to eat only plant based food. That means not eating anything that moves, including what comes out of them, like milk and eggs.  Doctors have found out that the muck we accumulate in our blood vessels and intestines can be clean up if we eat only plant based food. It will also reduce our excessive body weight, prevent diabetes and avoid cancer.  Your internal organs can actually become ‘younger’.  Mainstream doctors do not like this solution because it will reduce their income from selling you drugs and surgery. More and more retired Doctors are preaching this cure because they have already made their money and can become ‘real ‘ doctors.

But do what I tell you to, don’t do what I do.

This post is to follow up on Kenneth’s idea of sharing  good hawker foods which he posted on Rosalind’s thread which is on the subject of cooking. Please share on this thread of any good hawker stalls you have eaten yourself.

Food is like sex, they taste better if they are forbidden or unhealthy.

Those going for the Vegetarian lunch (Wed) 1-Dec. @ 12.15pm :

  1. Charles Chua
  2. Hou Chong
  3. Tian Soo
  4. Dan Huang
  5. Geraldine T
  6. Debbie O
  7. Yatsing
  8. Steven Chan

Those going for the "Fattening" lunch (Wed) 8-Dec. @ 12.15pm : (meet at the gelatin pork and shark meat stall. For those uneducated in this dish, that is on the first floor of Jalan Berseh Hawker Centre, in the middle, facing Desker and Rowell Rds)

  1. Charles Chua
  2. Tian Soo
  3. Dan Huang
  4. Ivan Lim
  5. Debbie Oh
  6. Kenneth Tan
  7. any more ??

Sat, 21 August Beach Party @ Sentosa

Programme :     emoticon

3 – 7 pm     Tea-Time  –  Alfresco (Sheltered)

  • Free flow of Tea & Coffee
  • Samosa & Spring Roll  (limited – so, do come early)
  • Beach Games (by game master – Yat Sing)
  • Swimming, Sun-bathing, Dancing, Card Games or just relax, ………. anything goes

7 – 10pm     Dinner Time   –   Indoor

  • Buffet dinner  –  Menu :
  • Fresh Garden Salad, Chicken Dopiyaza, Fish Masala, Dal Tarka, Vegetable Jalfrezi, Aloo Gobi, Naan, Steamed White Rice, Fried Papadum and Dessert – Kheer.
  • Free flow of Soft drinks
  • Alcohol – limited (by bar tender – Ivan Lim)
  • Dancing intermittent with Karaoke (by DJ – Jeffrey Gan with his latest sound system)

How to find us : 

  • By LRT – get off at the Beach Station and walk towards Palawan Beach.  We are next to KouFu Food Court.
  • By ‘Free Hop-on Hop-off’ Sentosa tram/trolley – get off at the Palawan Beach Stop.
  • By Car – park at Palawan Beach open carpark @ $3 for 8 hours;  or park at Beach carpark (covered carpark) @ $5 for 1st 4 hours (from 3 – 7pm) and $2 per entry after 7pm.

Photography :  (by our renowned Photographer – Sockie)

Rest assured there will NOT be any video clips made for public websites but photos will be posted in SHC website for members viewing.  Those who do not wish their face to appear in SHC website, kindly refrain from taking group photos as it is not fair to others in the group to have to have their pictures censored because of you.

Last Day of Payment :   have been extended to 19th August.  (Please scroll down for payment details.)

Those who have name tag – PLEASE bring along and wear it throughout the event.

When I was about 18 years old, I use to go camping at Changi Beach just behind where the British Army had a Survival School. behind the school, this stretch of beach was quite secluded. Sometimes we would organize Beach Parties there. By about 2 am, after most of the guests have gone home, a few of us guys would go ‘skinny dipping’. The few girls that were still there would pretend not to watch when we strip but after we get into the water they would shout comments at us from the beach.  I still remember 2 comments even up till today.

  • “Beware of the fishes, they might mistaken yours for a big worm”
  • ‘Don’t shake it more than 3 times…….it is call masturbation”

I am organizing our August  monthly meeting at  Palawan Beach, Santosa.  It will be a Beach Party, but we will not go ‘skinny dipping’ because at our age, I think we will look gross. Even the police would not want us in their station. They will put us straight into the lunatic asylum. I know this will not stop some of you from doing it.

My friend who owns Samudar Indian Restaurant at Palawan beach in Santosa has agreed to let us use the Restaurant on Saturday 21st August.  The restaurant has an alfresco dining area and an aircon dining hall. It can accommodate 200 people.  There are showers on the beach in front of the restaurant and changing facilities nearby.

We will start the party at 3pm. You can swim, play with balls, build sand castle or just enjoy the sea breeze. I need volunteers to organize a few beach games. For those who prefer to stay indoor, you can relax and talk or play board games.   At 7 pm we will have Indian Buffet.  The alfresco dining area which is on a wooden deck and the aircon dinning hall are both very suitable for dancing. You can dance anywhere at any time. You can also do it at the beach but we have to organize sound system outside. You can also pretend to be a teenager on your first date and bring a partner to the bush….there are many dark bushes but tissues are not provided. If you want to sing KOK we have to organize our own portable system because the Restaurant have no KOK licence. We leave the Restaurant at 10pm but you can stay at the beach as long as you like.

Public transport to Palawan Beach is by LRT from VIVO City. It cost $3. Those who drive, pay $7 per car regardless of the number of passengers. The buffet would cost $20 per head.  We will provide tit-bits from the collection of $5 each from those who pay after 31st July.  Those of us who are there in the afternoon should at least buy a drink from the Restaurant to help them pay their staff who would serve you.The restaurant would waive corkage charge for alcoholic drinks we bring. But please don’t bring any other outside food or drinks into their Restaurant.

Dress code will be ‘as little as possible’.  Opportunity for you to show your legs, tummy and butts,  if they are still presentable. I will bring some fig leaves for those who want to be like Adam and Eve.

Now I need the following volunteers

  1. Treasurer to collect the $20 $25 from every participant even if you don’t want to eat the buffet.
  2. Bouncer to throw out those who didn’t pay.
  3. Member registration – Irene Poh has volunteered
  4. Many beach game organizers.
  5. A disco King or Queen to organize the dancing and provide the music CD. They do have a sound system in the Restaurant.
  6. A KOK King/Queen to organize the singing.
  7. And of course, as many ‘gilah’ participants as possible to make it fun.
  8. Also new members, you can come fully clothed to make new friends.
  9. Matchmakers to make sure no one is left alone at this party
  10. Me???…….    I oversee lah.  Girls, remember to wear skimpy clothes, so that I have something to see.

Make your payment to Karen Thio POSB Savings Account number 121-86818-0

Payment before 1st August is $20. From 1st August please pay $25. The last payment accepted is 17th  19th August. 

Who are coming –

  1. Tian Soo (EO)emoticon
  2. Irene Poh (Registration)emoticon
  3. Dan (Matchmaker)emoticon
  4. Joy (Matchmaker’s boss?)emoticon
  5. Geraldine – foreign talentemoticon
  6. Caroline – (Registration)where the boys are emoticon
  7. Annto – to the beachemoticon
  8. Karen (Treasurer) emoticon
  9. Hyacinth  – water babyemoticon
  10. Jeff Chanemoticon
  11. Francis M – Fred Astair reincarnatedemoticon
  12. Catherine K – Ginger Rogers reincarnatedemoticon
  13. Sockie – this girl can shoot shoot shoot ?  emoticon 
  14. Lina Ng – from everywhereemoticon
  15. Hou Chong – can show you what is down underemoticon
  16. Suchang – from MAS partyemoticon
  17. Lily H – (Disco Queen)emoticon
  18. Yatsing – play $69/$96 gameemoticon
  19. Andrew Yeung – emoticon
  20. Janet C – (KOK Boss)emoticon
  21. Ivan Lim – bring Bombay Saphire ginnemoticonemoticon
  22. Peng Peng – the singeremoticon
  23. Christina CL – the walkeremoticon
  24. Eliza Chua – like Miss Dolittle?emoticon
  25. Lina Tan – from Equinox buffetemoticon
  26. Steven Chan – companion for men  emoticon
  27. Charlse  C – my travel buddyemoticon
  28. Lilian T – from PPemoticon
  29. Feztus – from Yunnanemoticon
  30.  Daisy Yeo – sell tissues emoticon
  31. Eyvonne Chew – hope to meet youemoticon
  32. LaiFong – can help to enjoy  emoticon
  33. Richard W – from RTS studioemoticon
  34. Marg T – from Taiwanemoticon
  35. Catherine Ho – hope to meet you.emoticon
  36. Ronnie Sow – Engelbert H and Tom Jones.emoticon
  37. Regina Sim – new friendemoticon
  38. Peter Chee – new friendemoticon
  39. Grace Ng – 1emoticon
  40. Grace Kang – 2emoticon
  41. Dolly l – (Bouncer)emoticon
  42. Lin Chuah – the golferemoticon
  43. Agnes Seow – masuk twice, come twiceemoticon
  44. Thomas Loh – young handsome MCemoticon
  45. SK Chuaemoticon
  46. Gabrella C – men are hungry and hornyemoticon
  47. Veronique Leeemoticon
  48. John Howeemoticon
  49. Helen Kuekemoticon
  50. Rosalind Leeemoticon
  51. Ronald Lamemoticon
  52. Nina Chooemoticon
  53. Biraemoticon
  54. Annie Gohemoticon
  55. Nelly Sohemoticon
  56. Lim Geok Suanemoticon
  57. Oi Chengemoticon
  58. C Jemoticon
  59. Dennis Hoemoticon
  60. Lydia Chin emoticon

Photos by Sockie & Karen

IT

We are not allowed to talk about SEX in this forum. Rightly so, or else it will degenerate into an XXX rated forum populated by dirty old man and old cows still in heat. So we will not discuss about the techniques and how best to enjoy SEX. In fact, we should not even use this dirty word. Let’s call it ’IT’.

When we were young and have a question about IT, we were suppose to ask our parents, teachers or any respectable older person. Now that we are all over 45, who do you ask if you have a question about IT?  Your parents may be senile if they are still alive.  You may now be the teacher yourself and suppose to come up with the answers. There are not many older person around, except in Silverhair clubs and the like. That is why I raise these questions here.

Is IT good for the health of older people? We are talking about both physical and mental well being here.

At what age should you stop IT?

Are there any difference between men and women?

Tiger Woods have been extraordinarily successful in golf, up till when he was discovered to have IT with too many women. My golf kakis said, that is why he has been successful and not so now that he cannot have more of IT. There is a report by a doctor who speculates that IT relaxes your muscles, calm your nerves and improves your concentration. But Tiger Woods is a young man. Would we have the same effect at our age and would it have the same effect on women?

It is generally believed that as we get older most of us gets grumpy and listless. But not  all. I wander if there is a correlation between happy older people and IT?

If you believe that IT is good for you, my next question is, would too much of IT kill you?  So how much is good for you?

What should I be when I grow up?

The year 2009 will very soon come to an end. All of us will be one year older and one year closer to death.

When we were young we look forward to a new year and cannot wait to be old enough to date and party. Than as we grow up, we compete for a position in society and accumulate wealth. Now that we have counted our money and keep ourselves comfortable enough to have the time to log in this forum, I wander what next.

Do we still need dreams and embition to give us drive and energy to live on. Many of us have worked hard when we were young, so that when we get old, we can be comfortable and enjoy life. But now that we are here, what is it that we should be enjoying. If we eat too much we die. If we exert ourselves too vigorously, we die. If we just rest and sleep we also die. There are many enjoyable things which the young do that our body cannot follow. But if we do nothing death comes earlier.

So what is it that we should wish for in 2010?

Man

I join this forum about 1.5 years ago.

Before I join, I read about this new member who in his profile was writing about his marrital bliss and somehow it offended a few members,  culminating in him withdrawing his membership. The members involved in this quarrel were both males as well as females.

Next, there was this male member who was disliked by other members for his ego and boastful posts. He was mercilessly attacked. Again the active parties were both males and females.

Than there was this male member who questioned if divorcees are as relax as happily married women. Of course he gets it from the divorced women but I was suprised that some men also join in the fray.

Of course none of you can miss this episode of 2 educated SHC men almost coming into blows during a party organize by SHC member.

Two weeks ago we had 2 guys quarrelling about who is the better IT guy and other men including yours truly(shame shame) took out our keyboard and join in.

This week, the physical confrontation between men which did not happen before was again revived and eventually stopped by Terence.

It occurs to me that ALL quarrels in this forum involves men. There are suppost to be much more female members than males in this club. Why are the women not quarelling among themselves but men are involve in every occasion.  Do man become grumpy and quarrelsome when we grow old? What happen to girls when they get old……do they become more lovable?

Giving To Charity

It is nice to know that there are many charitable people in SHC. I hope the spirit of giving will continue because it is fun and you get a sense of peace. Singaporeans in general are alway quick to give money to international disaster relieves and whenever there is a hard-luck storey in our local newspapers. Many people are happy to give to baggers and monks in our streets, even when street bagging is illigal here.

But very often I observe major confusion with giving for charity and trading for better returns. When we give to charity, by definition, it should be a one way traffic with no personal returns other than…feel good.

Many years ago, my wife literally picked up a dirty old man living in Pulau Ubin. The man was about 80 years old with totally no income. He lives in an abandoned and delapidated school building. The village people give him free food regularly but he has no toilet facilities and walking is difficult for him, so he does not clean himself and defecate near where he sleeps. With the help of a few volunteers, the man was cleaned and eventually put in an old folks home. He had $800 ‘coffin money’ which he carefully guarded. The money was passed over for safekeeping to the Old folks Home Administrator. We visited him regularly, but as he gets older and becomes senile, he starts scolding us and accuse us of stealing his money each time we visited. The adminterator always laugh it off but I was young and felt indignant. Eventually we stop visiting the man.

Now, that I am older and becoming senile myself I come to realize that I was not really  charible because I had actually expected gratitude in return. If I was really giving for charity,  I should not have been affected by his scolding and continue to give……like the Administrator do.

When we give and hope to go to be honoured or go to heaven or gain merit points for better rebirth, is it charity or trading?

I recently made a tedious detour from my trip in Northern Thailand to see if I can help an orphanage started by a Singaporean. About 100 meters before the village there was eracted a huge religious icon announceing the village and its orphanage. When I reached the village there were even more religious icons everywhere but I see no children in the orphanage. We ask the few people people around and they say ‘sometimes there are children’. It is obvious that the Singaporean has been very successful in propagating his religion but I did not see the same level of emphasis in looking after disadvantaged children.   

Again, is this charity or has charity been used to spread religion?

It is always a big concern now whenever we give, whether we had made the sacrific to the correct cause and whether the money has gone to the correct people. But we must also ask ourself if we have done the  sacrifice in good faith or just trading. 

Let’s hear you views.

Viewpoint on prostitution

Now that some of us are going to visit a brothel in Karimon, it is good time to get your views on Prostitution.

We are all brought up to shant prostitues. They are  the scorn of almost all societies. They are evil people with no morale. They break up families, spread deceases and are shameless. Many religions forbids protitution as a profession or using this service.

To prostitute oneself is to sell your body in exchange for money or other  benefits. When a parent arranges for a daughter to merry a rich man or when a girl chooses a man for financial security we call them ‘clever girls’.

I can only think of 2 reasons why a women would want to bcome a prostitute. First, There are women who required to sell their bodies because that is the only way they or their family can survive. Secondly there are those who choses it simply because it is a better option than doing ‘proper’ work.

The women in the first category must be honurable. They work is hard for their money. They not only endure dirty old man but also the social disgrace and scorn they receive from proper ladies and men.  They do not resort to stealing or cheating.

The group of people that chooses to be prostitutes, they do it after assessing their own assets and weight their options. This is a same as what we all do when we choose a job or career. You do what you are interested and/or can give you maximum returns in wealth and happiness. It is a job, perfectly legal in Singapore. It is legal because it does not infringe on the rights of other citizens.

If we consider morals, the bankers at Lehman Brothers and corrupt politicians, they are by far much worst. A prostitute can show as much as she/he can to the buyer and the buyer gets what he pays for. A prostitute may transmit a desease to the customer but the customer can avail himself with protections. A banker and politician would deliberately take advantage of people by lies and deceits and yet we regard them with high esteem.

Does prostitution provide a service to the community? I think they must do, otherwise we would not see it florishing in all countries even in those that make it illegal.

I have difficulty figuring out what is so wrong with protitution, but I would not want my children, if I have any to be protitutes because they will pay a high price being marginalize by society. But why?

Death

Now that we are in the 7th Moon period when the dead is walking among us. I wander how they are. Perhaps they have their monthly meetings just like SHC or do they do it once a year and always on earth. Do they have a blog to decide where to meet? Who is their blog administrator?

Death is for sure. Unfortunately we do not know when, that is why we have a hard time planning for retirement. It will be so much easier for us to decide how much to spend each month if we know when we don’t need the money any more. Most of us end up living poor and dieing rich.

  • At which stage do you consider yourself dead?
  • When you heart stops beating?
  • When your brain stops processing signals?
  • When you cannot recognize you spouse and children?
  • When you defecate on yourself because you are not able to go to the loo? or
  • When you stop enjoying sex?

Modern medicine is able to give us longer life. But how many needles and tubes do they need to insert into you before you consider yourself dead? Are we living a longer life or just dieing a slower death?

Most of us do not fear death but are afraid of pain. When we are enjoying, the Teochews call it ‘Hor Si’ which literally means ‘good death’. Should we than concerntrate on how to have a good death rather than long life?

We are all over 45 years old, some of us may live over another 45 years but we WILL die. I think it is time to learn how to have a ‘Hor Si’. We should do it like planning another holiday. I always enjoy my holidays.

Guides needed

We have an Organic Vegetable farm in Singapore. Apart from growing and selling vegetables we give educational tours to schools and the public.

We are looking for gudes to help show visitors round the farm.  If you are retired and interested to pass on your knowledge of nature to children and the public. This may be a job for you. It is a free lance and part time engagement. After training and acceptence we will call you as and when we need help.

We pay a small allowance of $50 for for half days work. For location and information about the farm go to www.greencircle.com.sg. We are accessble by bus.

Requirements:

  1. Must have keen interest in environmental issues.
  2. Have some knowledge of vegetables and plants.
  3. Physically healthy.
  4. Likes interaction with people from 3 to 70 years old.
  5. Use to speaking infront of groups.

This is not a career, we are only providing outlet for socially conscious senior citizens who wants to leave behind some knowledge for future generations.

Tian Soo

Lim Tian Soo – Profile

I just join and Terence suggest I put in my profile.

I am 61 years old. My hairs are totally silver. Had a heart attack 2 years ago, so now anxious to enjoy life more before the next attack. Now retired and keep busy with trying to stay happy, healthy and alive in this order of importance.

I love outdoor activities. Use to do diving, sailing, played racket games, tracking and jog. Now not allowed to jog but the doctors didn’t say anything about cycling.  Still plays golf weekly and eat myself silly after each game. Do regular Chi Kong exercise in the hope of keeping myself healthy and alive. Love to go exortic places and just watch people. I am very quiet in a large crowd unless giving a speech.

The problem is that my golf kakis are young and working. My older friends are also still working hard to accummulate money they don’t need. I don’t like to go holidays during weekends and public holidays, jostling with other Singaporeans. 

Maybe I can meet some ‘young’ people and do things like driving into little towns in Thailand and Cambodia.

Lim Tian Soo