A story

To share a story I read yesterday

A young guy left his home, country and went working in a foreign country. He got a job and a girlfriend there. He never talk to his girlfriend about his home, even she asked him many time.

After 4 years, something happened that the guy has to come home to handle. He came with his girlfriend. He told his girlfriend there is only his mother in his home and refused to talk anything more about his mother. This gave his girlfriend an opinion that his mother is not a nice, easy get along lady.

To his girlfriend’s surprise, when his mother first opened the door to welcome them, she found that his mother was a very nice lady – kind, sweet and soft talking ……, she is a devout Buddhist, but his boyfriend refused to do any talk with his mother. The girlfriend don’t know why, because she knows her boyfriend is not such kind of person. She asked her boyfriend why, but he refused to disclose.

Due to her curiosity, she asked the mother what had happen to get them into such a situation. The mother told her the following story:

“I has a daughter. The relation between the brother and sister is very good, they love each other very much. 4 years ago, a tragedy happened, my daughter was raped and killed by the neighborhood boy (raper). The boy was caught and was sentenced to death. But I pleaded the court to change the death sentence to jail term. My son cannot forgive me for what I did, left home and not contact me any more”

The girlfriend asked the reason why she do the pleading, the mother said: “When the death sentence is announced, I noticed the deep sorrow in the raper mother’s eyes. I think should give the raper’s mother a chance. so I do the pleading, but my son never give me a chance to explain to him”.

The girlfriend told her boyfriend the reason of his mother, but her boyfriend still could not forgive her mother’s doing

At last, the guy finished the thing he has to handle and intended to leave. His girlfriend tried her last effort to convince him at least to talk to his mother once. The guy promised.

To start the talk, the guy said to his mother: “If you can give me a satisfy answer for my question, may be I will forgive you. In these 4 years, I always think of the raper, I feel the pain in my heart, then you will also appear to my mind, and I cannot stop to hate what you have done. Can you tell me what is your feelings when you think of the raper these years”?

The mother silenced for a while and gave the following answer:
“Sorry son, I cannot give you an answer, because I never think of the raper after the court. What I always think of are the time when your sister is around. The time we live happy together. This will give me warm in my heart. So sorry son, I don’t have the answer you want”

The ending of the story …..it is not important, you can set your own ending for it

I don’t think this is a good story, as what the mother do is far from the human nature (not much people in this world can forgive such kind of thing). What his son done is more prone to human.

Why I share this story, because I have experience similar to it (just a little bit, not so extreme). In a few years back, many people talk about positive think and say they always do positive thinking. But I think positive thinking (also forgiveness) is not a human nature, especially when something not good, serious. Usually the thinking is negative and hate.

I am not a positive thinking guy, actually I am quite negative, but I seldom hate (not because of forgiveness, but because of laziness). As I am lazy, there is not much thing can bothering me.

There is one thing that bothering me for nearly 30 years, and when my thinking of this thing change from negative to positive, I got the peace of mine.

The thing that bothering me is my wife’s jealous, I never fooling around since she is my girlfriend (not due to loyalty but due to laziness, why be so trouble to get two or more girlfriend). I think my wife’s jealous is unreasonable and make me annoyed. This happen even when she passed away, whenever I think of her, I will think of her jealous.

But after I join SHC and know more friends (once upon a time, I tried to be friendly but failed). A new thinking come to my mind. I guess her jealous is due to I have not paid enough attention to her.

If this is mentioned in an Elvis Presley’s song, it should be: “May be I didn’t treat her, quite as good as I should have,
May be I didn’t love her, quite as often as I could have.
May be I didn’t hold her, all those lonely, lonely time.
And I guess I never tell her, I so happy that she’s mind.”

so she used jealous to attract my attention. Even this is not the case, Her jealous should be because she care about me very much, why should I bother?? After I change my thinking, whenever I think about her, I feel warm.

Think positive can make people happy. If you can, try it, don’t just talk it.

Young At Heart

This post will be full of nonsense, sorry

Last week, when I attended a free musical performance in the Esplanade, all the performers are very young, but they said they are “old at heart”. They mean they like the old songs

I always hear someone say “I am young at heart”. I don’t know what they want to expect. How this phrase is used? Can I tell the others “I am young at heart”? This “old at heart” triggered me to google the meaning of “young at heart”

From Google, I found that “Young at Heart” is a movie of 1954 (Frank Sinatra, Doris Day, Gig Young), also there are a lot of definitions for “Young at Heart”. After I read some of them, I still cannot get an answer to my question.

Then I try to define it myself, first I tried to translate it from English to Chinese. I tried a few, and finially I use “???”

I also noticed that for the people they are younger than 45, they seldom say they are “Young at Heart”. But once someone pass 45, they start to say “I am young at heart”. The older they are, the more they said.

So I added two more words in front – “?????”

From there I tried to figured out what will happen when someone is “?????”

My first thought is the mind. When people are young, their mind will be naive, and become more and more mature when they grow older and older, so can the “Young at Heart” means “????, ????” But I drop this thought immediately, as in this IT era, This is not likely the case.

Then I realize the biggest different for young and old are their strength. Generally speaking, the young get more strength than the old. So the “Young at heart” should means their heart is young, but not their strength. To describe in Chinese, it should be “????”

At last, I got a definition I am satisfied and know how to use. Next time when someone ask me to do something, and I think I cannot, I will tell them -“I am young at herart” or more precisely “I am young at heart ONLY”

Some Q and A when I visit outside

When I visited outside last month, I encountered the following questions and answers:

Q and A 1

A lady asked me: “Do you think the ladies here
charming?”

I replied: “Of course. Here, the ladies who were in their 20s
like roses, those who were in their 30s like a love song and who were 40 become
perfect”

The lady asked again: “How about those after 40?”

I mulled over for a while and replied: "No comment. As no matter what their age are, all the ladies here never look over 40"

Q and A 2

A lady asked me: "Do you like the ladies here more, or like the ladies in Singapore more?"

I replied: "I like all the ladies who like me"

Q and A 3 

 One night, it was late, someone knock on my door. When I opened the door, I found a beautiful young lady standing outside.

When she saw me, she showed embarrassed and said: "Sorry, I should knock at the wrong door"

I said: "the door is right , but the time has belated for 40 years" 

A kid in your mind

Once upon a time, a friend asked me:

"Someone said  – everyone have a kid in their mind, have you? If you have a kid in your mind, what is he like?"

I mulled over for a while, and answered:

"I think there is a kid in my mind. When he comes to act, even a boring man like me will become  a little bit naughty, like to laugh and make the other laugh. But the kid in my mind doesn’t like many people, he only comes out when there is a small group of friends and there are someone I like or love" 

I would also like to ask the other members:

"Do you have a kid in your mind? If yes, what is he/she like?" 

 

Two jokes about language

Woke up from the sweet and lovely X’mas Eve last night, already 2:00pm. Wow, ‘Shiok’

When I came to Singapore, and heard this word, I wondered why our Singaporean always ‘Shock’. After a while, I understand it means something like ‘?’ in the HK Cantonese.

This reminded me two jokes about the language in Chinese and like to share here:

Joke 1: "??"

One year when I was young, me and a group of my Hong Kong friends visited Taiwan. When we strolling around, we found that we had lost our way. I saw a beautiful girl in front, then I approached her and asked: "????…".

Without me finished, the beautiful girl open her charming mouth in an ‘O’ form and uttered "?". I looked around and found nothing surrounded me. I turn to the girl and asked again: "????…". The girl looked impatient, but still uttered "?" again….. Why???!!!

After some explanation, I finally knew that she thought I said "????” instead of "????". Oop…. – end of joke 1

Joke 2: "??"

One X’mas Eve, me and 4 friends immigrated from HK went to a friend’s house for a re-union party. As we planned the party will last late and we will leave around 3:00 am, A friend was chosen to be the driver who sent the rest home, so he was not allowed to drink anything with alcohol. 

After the event and on our way home, we were stopped by a barricade in ECP. A person with uniform (the man) approached our car. After my friend opened the window, the man put his head near the car and said: "????".

My friend replied immediately: "Including me, only 5, where got nine? Are you drunk"

Ha ha, he thought that the man said "??" instead of "??" – end of joke 2

Hope this 2 jokes can create some smiles in the X’mas time and must apologize to the members not good in Chinese, may be they do not understand the jokes.

Do you have jokes about the languages (Chinese, dialect, Malaysia, etc) can share?

Merry X’mas and Happy New Year.  

Story about a disciple of the Satan

Watched a joke from the cable TV, I felt quite interesting and like to share. Also inspired by Dan’s post "Puss and Boobs, I leave the end of the story empty. If you have interest, you can finish it yourself. I will give the end of the original one on the coming Tue.

This is a story about a very clever disciple of the Satan (the Devil)

Long, long time ago, the Satam and his disciples were living on a very high mountain.

One day, Satan gathered all his disciples, asked them to go down the foot of the maintain and each had to pick two piece of rock back.

One of his disciples (very clever one) thinks that, from the top to the foot of the mountain is a very long distance, and our master has not mentioned about the size of the rock, why don’t I just pick two very small rocks back? He picked two very, very small rock and back to the top of the mountain. After all his disciples returned, the Satan says:"The rocks in your hand will become two bun with the same size of the rock, and they are your dinner tonight". That night, the very clever disciple sleep with a nearly empty stomach.  

The next day, the Satan asked his disciples to do the same thing. The very clever disciple thinks this time I must pick two biggest rocks back. He did so. After all his disciples returned, the Satan says: "throw one of the rock you pick out. The distance of the rock reach will equal to the size of the bun you got for you dinner tonight, the further, the bigger; the nearer, the smaller". Then the very clever disciple sleep with another nearly empty stomach night again.

The next day after next day, the Satan asked his disciples to do the same thing again. The very clever disciple thinks, this time, I will pick one smallest rock and one biggest rock back, so I will sure win no matter what my master say, and he did so….. 

I will stop temporary the story here. Whoever have interest, you can continue it. No right, no wrong, just for fun. 

TGIF

Two riddles

Like to share 2 riddles to the members

The riddles

  1. What machines like to hurt themselves most (???????????) (a type of machine)
  2. What is the heavies noodle in the world (??????????) (a type of food)

Person eligible to guess – Members proficient in Chinese and English

Person restricted to guess

  1. Karen Thio – you canot do riddle 1 as I have already told you the answer
  2. Cat Yeo – you cannot do riddle 2 as it is created by us in the dinner, remember?
  3. Joy – you can do both, but please don’t change them into fairy tales

Warning – there is a side-effect for these two riddles, many people like to scratch their head while guessing, and cause some degree (light or serious) of hair drop, I won’t take responsibility for this

Enjoy the riddles

Story of Husband and Wife, Not a joke

A story from Eleanor Chan, I put it on the post to let more members read it. Don’t want anyone miss it. May be you had read the story before (like me), let see will it touch you again (like me). The story:

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A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything and talked about anything. They kept no secrets from each other except for a shoe box the little old woman placed on top of her closet. She cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about it.

For all of these years, he had never thought about the box until one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover.

In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and brought it to his wife’s bedside.
She agreed that it was time he should know what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money totaling $95,000.

He asked her about the contents. ‘When we were to be married,’ she said, ‘my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me if I ever were angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.’

The little old man was so moved that he had to fight back his tears. Only two precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him twice in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with happiness.

‘Honey,’ he said, ‘that explains the doll, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?’

‘Oh,’ she said, ‘that’s the money I made from selling the dolls.’

Jokes: men and women

So many jokes nowadays, like to share some:

Wife: Honey….. What are You Looking for?
Husband: Nothing.
Wife: Nothing…?? U’ve been reading our marriage certificate for an hour?
Husband: I was just looking for the expiry date.

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Q – What is the Difference Between Mother & Wife?
A – One Woman Brings U into this world crying… & the other ensures U continue to do so.

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Wife: Do you want dinner?
Husband: Sure, what are my choices?
Wife: Yes and no.

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Wife: You always carry my photo in your handbag to the office. Why?
Husband: When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the problem disappears.
Wife: You see, how miraculous and powerful I am for you?
Husband: Yes, I see your picture and say to myself, "What other problem can there be greater than this one?"

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Girl: When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden.
Boy: It’s very kind of you, darling, But I don’t have any worries or troubles.
Girl: Well that’s because we aren’t married yet.

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Son: Mom, when I was on the bus with Dad this morning, he told me to give up my seat to a lady.
Mom: Well, you have done the right thing.
Son: But mum, I was sitting on daddy’s lap.

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A newly married man asked his wife, "Would you have married me if my father hadn’t left me a fortune?"
"Honey," the woman replied sweetly, "I’d have married you NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE"

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Father to son after exam: "let me see your report card."
Son: "My friend just borrowed it. He wants to scare his parents."

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Interviewer to Millionaire: To whom do you owe your success as a millionaire?"
Millionaire: "I owe everything to my wife."
Interviewer: "Wow, she must be some woman. What were you before you married her?"
Millionaire: "Billionaire "

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Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I’ll be yours forever.
The guy replies: Thanks for the warning.

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A wife asked her husband: "What do you like most in me my pretty face or my sexy body?"
He looked at her from head to toe and replied: "I like your sense of humor.

Bachata links

Hi all dance lover

Surfed the YouTube today and got the following 3 sets of links connected to the teaching of Bachata. I found them quite useful and like to share with you.

Set 1 (only one link)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WBCq0cSxvEE 

Set 2

What is Bachata Dancing?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJvT7iVZGCg

How to Do Basic Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ees9Z1Cq05g&NR=1

How to Do Forward Back Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lvwljldiaro

How to Do Left Turn Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Nxj0sthzww

How to Do Right Turn Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ek-SZDIRqc0

How to Do Both Bachata Dance Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_-lfEVWvjc&NR=1

How to Do Pivot Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mg1p45bj1lc&NR=1

How to Do Step in Place Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1oMvHWAf14&NR=1

How to Do Swaying Hip Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YaYuJ0JMrs&NR=1

How to Put Bachata Dance Steps Together
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4h7I0CQwZzs&NR=1

How to Do Basic Partner Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFhsc3f7CM8&NR=1

How to Do Front to Back Partner Bachata Dance Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pGU2QN10HnE&NR=1

How to Do Partner Bachata Dance Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwzY14CO0Cg&NR=1

How to Put Partner Bachata Dance Steps Together
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7vMZve9iJjg&NR=1

Conclusion to Bachata Dancing
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tc0I6LeMZ9c

Set 3

Side to Side
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKEWYDBWs-s

Reverse Basic Steps
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGMT0OPmf0U&NR=1

Forward & Back
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qu8q-_w5OGQ

Bachata Dancing Body Movement
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdUy6NsXZ_E&NR=1

Right & Left Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPJh43WMVHQ

Outside Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pBP4Z0IrCvM

Inside Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EXh0gCSwBx4&NR=1

Hammerlock Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZlsjnl142c

Reverse Cross Hands Turn
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTK9cc3UieI&NR=1

Cuddle Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhRp5mfUP_M&NR=1

Two Handed Turns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBfGx7C0KT8

I found the turns in Set 3 is quite useful, you can use them in a lot of dances like RnR, Disco Rock, Rumble etc, etc 

Hi ladies, if you need a partner to practise the steps, please considering me, ha ha. (Just bantering)

The Ghost Story – “Ending Wanted”

Yesterday (Saturday), I had a meeting with friends. In the meeting, one friend from Hong Kong (came to visit us) played a game with us. The game is that he told us a story, but with no ending. Then every one creates our own endings for the story. The ending must change the story into a ghost story. Quite interesting and would like to share with friends in SHC

The Story part is:

The time was approaching 4:30 am. An exhausted taxi driver was driving his taxi toward a cemetery. It seemed he was rushing home.

Suddenly, he saw a person dressed in long white waving on him. The face of the taxi driver started to turn a little bit green. He drove near the person and found that it was a girl with long hair. The hair was so long that her face couldn’t be seen clearly.

When the taxi driver stopped the car, before he had time to respond, the girl opened the door and jump into the back of the taxi. The girl sat there, lower down her head and kept quiet. Time stood still for a couple of minutes, the taxi driver seemed to have make up his mind and asked: “lady, where are you going, I’m going to send my cab to the next shift, some place I cannot take you”.

The girl raised her head slowly. She is a very beautiful girl but with a very pale face and bloodshot eyes. She told the driver: “Don’t worry, just drive around this cemetery until I tell you to stop”. Upon hearing this, the face of the driver turned greener.

The driver drove round and round the cemetery. The girl sat there silently. After a few rounds, the driver seemed have lost his patience and ask: “Lady, why you take a cab to go round the cemetery at this moment?”

The girl stopped for a while and started telling the driver her story – exactly a year ago, she and her boyfriend had been to clubbing. After that, they wanted more excitement and rent a taxi to go round the cemetery. When they doing so, an unexpected heart attack took her boyfriend’s life. She came here tonight to relive that moment, so as to commemorate his boyfriend’s death. ——- The story part ended here

The ending part is started as: “At this time, a cock crowing from the cemetery pierce through the silence in the air”  —- to be continued.

The story must be a real ghost story, the word count should be within 100 words, the shorter the better (Does this look like a composition homework?)

If you like to try, welcome. I should be fun. I’ll tell you the ending from me on the coming Wednesday.