Moving on with Paperclips

Hi Paperclips members,

It has always been my hope that Silverhairs members are able to find like-minded friends. Since the club started in 2005, our activities are generally participated by about 80% females and 20% males. However the Club itself has registered about 60% females and 40% males. The question has always been why the inbalance.

As we get older, especially after leaving full time work, our colleagues carry on their lives. Nowadays, many senior club members find that our children are having their own family life. And for some, they leave the nest home. For others, our spouses leave us naturally, either through a divorce or to another world.

At some time, we are all left alone, with an empty apartment, no one to have lunch and dinner with. We have time to travel, but we are unable to find someone with common interest. Obviously, no one to chat, go out with, hold hands together, go to a cinema together or travel to nearby Penang together.

Very often, we then try to keep busy. Spend time with grandchildren. Watch Korean movie or roam Changi Jewel alone. Better still, some find our local kopitiam a place where we can debate the budget or find out more about CPF life from neighbours.

I had hope that SilverHairsClub will be a platform for members to find new friends. Today, I read an article in Channel News Asea on dating apps. I guess the article suits the 25-35 age group. But I believe the dating apps suits single SilverHairsClub members. The Paperclips program is for singles only. Plse read the article below.

I plan to be in Spore in May, and am thinking of having the next monthly gathering with the topic “Dating for SilverHairs”.

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/big-read-short-finding-love-age-apps

For members planning to join the mthly gathering, the date will likely be 13-18 May 2019.

If you like to speak on this topic, please contact me at 9489-4360.

Terence Seah

Life partners for single Seniors

It’s been a long time since I last raised the issue of dating for Seniors.  Recently I had a chat with a few members, and the same topic arose.  I would like to revive the issue for discussion; give some serious considerations to the issue and perhaps plan for a dating event for Seniors.

Among club members, some of us are single; others are divorced; some are separated while others are going through the divorce process.  For some, the spouse has left the world.  There are reasons why some of us are single or single again.  Life can be lonely, as we walk the path thrugh our SilverHair years.  There is so much to live for; for our siblings, our friends, and for the freedom to see the world.  We have also SilverHairsClub members; many of whom have become close friends.

But, in our private life, we still want to have a close partner; someone whom we can chat from morning till night, hold hands as we stroll around the parks, hug one another when there is the feeling of sadness and pain.  To have a partner to live together as we walk towards the end of the rainbow.  For those who have a spouse or a partner, you will know what I mean.

For some of us, being single is a choice.  For some, having a life partner can make a difference to our everyday life.  No one can predict the outcome of having a partner; neither can we have a guarantee of a more meaningful life.

Many of our friends are singles or singles again.  And we know they would like to find someone who can share the rest of their lives together.  As we have read in the newspapers, the country places a lot of attention to young adults.  But, Seniors deserve attention too.  In this Post, I hope we can help our fellow members, friends and other Seniors who are singles to find someone who can be their life partner.  Let’s do something.

If you share the same concerns, I would like to ask you to join me in a discussion group, to discuss what we can do; and perhaps organise an event, specially for our single or singles again Seniors.  We keep the options and ideas open.  Feel free to discuss with ideas and thoughts.  Keep the warm water flowing, so as to encourage participation among singles and non-singles.

If you would like to join in the “planning committee”, please email terences@SilverHairsClub.com. We will likely have regular discussions over Whatsapp, followed by a meeting sometime end March.

 

This is a sensitive topic for some, so your encouragement would be great.

Terence Seah