In the Mood for Love?

Gong Xi Fa Cai to all SHC Members!

My bi-monthly lifestyle magazine "Silver Lining" finally went to press in December and we have just finished our 2nd issue due to hit the news-stand on Feb 1st. 

February issue will carry a "Love" theme and while I was commissioning the stories to our pool of writers, we ask a married friend to write a story about LOVE and ROMANCE for the Feb issue.  Her immediate response was "when you’ve been married as long as I have, you are more likely to bash your partner over the head with a saucepan than woo him with a candlelight dinner"!!  

It will be interesting to hear your perspective on this topic – whether you are married, divorced, single or widowed.  An appropriate topic since we will soon be approaching Valentine’s in a fortnight’s time :)  So what does Valentine mean to us, the Silver Hairs?

BTW, I would be happy to give out complimentary copies of our Feb "Love" issue to all SHC members.  Interested, please drop me your contact.  

Diana

Author: Diana Loo

Wonder how many of you out there shares the same idea that Life begins only at 50!? :) This is that phase of our life where we want to ponder and reflect on what we have achieved so far. Did we do well, relatively well or are there is more we can do?? And I'm hoping that through this platform, I will be able to link up with like-minded individuals to share some experiences, exchange ideas and to see if there are possibilities for us to add more value and excitement to each other's life through our exchanges and sharing. I work for a publishing company and is responsible for business development. Outside of work, I enjoy the nature, outdoor activities like golf and swimming. Cooking is one of my life long passion and I love all things concerning food! Never had the opportunity to make it into a business or be a celebrity chef yet but quite happy to whip up a meal anytime for my close friends! :)

21 thoughts on “In the Mood for Love?”

  1. Hi Diana Loo,
    I’m interested in a copy of your Feb “Love” issue, but how do we ‘drop’ you our contacts if we do not have your email address?
    And since I’m here writing this, Valentine’s Day has been a cherished day for me as my older daughter was born on that day. So, it does have a special place in my heart.

    Nowadays, Valentine’s Day has become too commercialised and prices for everything related to it become sky high, so much so that many people choose not to celebrate it. Anyway, if people are in love, every day should be special, not only on Feb 14th, don’t you think?

  2. Love, the sweet romance especially in courtship.

    Love entails greater harmony of self with our fellow beings or partners.
    Love brings universal understandings of peace and traquility to a society engulfed in terrorism and death.

    A family love is the first step to foster a love of the people closer to our hearts.

    The world needs greater love to co-exist. Love draws no
    boundary in terms of its expression to people who needs it most – the destitute, the poor, and the under-privileged.

    Love makes the world go round.

    As a young couple, in the mood forlove is like the blossom of a flower,
    the fragrance permeates into romantic rhapsody.

    True love,to survive into eternity is easy said than practised.

    We always admire the old couple holding hands, celebrating
    their golden anniversary (50 years marriage) with the strain of romantic music in the background. But, many of us will never know the amount of
    sacrifice each party had to contribute to the success of such a grand occasion. For many of us, the silhouette of love will linger in the horizon. The sad truth of love’s
    flame turning to amber and up into smoke.

    Asian culture as compared to western norm, view old age love in two different perspectives. Many of us Asian, even the modern ones, take love for granted and gradually lose the flavour to show intimacy of romance.

    Love, to sustain the flame, we need to shield the strong gust of many temptations in the male, to faithfully adhere
    to the marriage creed. Likewise, the female too.

    A gentle hug, a sweet whisper, an occasional surprise, are
    all strong antidote of love.

    Love is a strong emotional attachment of faith in one another. Love can never be lost if well stored in the heart. The meandering occurs only when mutual understanding and trust sip through the crevices.

    “An ideal love is between a deaf husband and a blind wife”

    Regards
    patricklee

  3. EDIT: A gentle hug, a sweet whisper, an occasional surprise, are strong DOSAGE of love. Sorry not ‘ANTIDOTE’ of love.

    patricklee

  4. Hi Diana Loo

    As per (1) by Mary Chan, would also like to have a copy of Feb “Love” issue…..please let us know where to provide our contacts to you.

  5. Heelloo…

    Thanks Patrick and Mary for sharing your thoughts on this mysterious emotion called Love. While love has inspired more acts of courage it has also made people do foolish and irrational things, but still, can you imagine a world without love?

    Sorry for not leaving my details. Please do drop me your mailing address at diana@wordsworth.com.sg and a copy will be mailed to you!

    Diana

  7. Hi DianaL,

    I am sure your magazine Silver Lining has something to do with SilverHairs. And, now you have put a touch of love and romance into your Feb issue. I would like to have a read. If you have a launch, please feel free to invite us. I would attend.

    Terence Seah

  8. Hi Terence

    Yes, you are right. Our magazine is all about the Silver Hairs – sharing our experience and knowledge and hopefully be able to leave a legacy for the next generation. That we are not to be labeled as a “sun-down” industry but still active in our own ways. We have not thought about an official launch as yet as we have been busy getting it off the ground.

    Now that you mention, you have given me an idea, maybe I could “partner” your Mega Event to do our official launch at the same time…since SHC have got so many able-minded people, good for us to showcase all the Silver talents?!? What are your thoughts?

    Please drop me your address for the copy to be sent to you.

    Diana

  9. Diana Loo ,
    I think your magazine will appeal very much to us silverhairs , but I hope it doesn’t stress too much on the belief that only couples can be happy in their latter years as I do believe that singles can be happy, if not happier, too.
    Most magazines portray happy, elderly people in pairs, one male and one female and seldom singly or in the company of other singles (Don’t mistake me. I’m not talking about gays and lesbians).
    I’m looking forward to reading your magazine and perhaps hope to contribute to it.
    Thanking you in advance for the copy.
    Cheers

  10. Mary-C, absolutely !

    As a single again, nobody can say anything if I were to couple with Mary today, with Merry tomorrow, with Missy the next day and Mani, their Mummies……..ok it can be very messy but happy.

    Married couples, dont worry, you arent left out. Go enter into a pact with your other half that releases you from the bind (while holding true to the bond of love and trust)and then for as long as the pact remains valid, go out and enjoy the coupling…………..

    Wow, I can see so many gals raising their hands, beckoning and winking at me……………..wow, like the Ox, I’ll have to work very hard not to break any heart………..

    Haha, Sengh, you’re already looking for precedents to pen your draft huh?

  11. Hee Tim Liu.
    I’m glad you used the word “IF”.
    Ladies, you are welcome to Tim’s fantasy..
    ” Wow, I can see so many gals raising their hands, beckoning and winking at me……………..wow, like the Ox, I’ll have to work very hard not to break any heart………..”

  12. Diana Loo.
    In my opinion, Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be reserved for lovers alone, as it tends to be.
    It should be an opportunity to express love in general.

    There are many different types and levels of love,
    ‘romantic’ love between couples, love for our parents, our children, love for our close friends, love for our pets, even admiration for certain people in one’s life.

    I have always had gifts for and from both my daughters on Valentine’s day and I have even received cards (many of which were homemade, which made it more treasured) and gifts from my students, both girls and boys.

    It should be just another opportunity to show love for someone, with a card or a gift or simply a flower. The pleasure in giving is as great as receiving.

  13. Diana,
    Congrats on yr magazine!! Valentine Day can be celebrated with anyone & anytime so long there’s LOVE (eg. platonic).

    Have sent you my contact in a separate email – look fwd to receiving a copy of the magazine. Regards

  14. Hi Diana,

    Congrats on yr magazine. Would like to have a copy. And hopefully find out if “love” really exist at all? Or is it just a myth, for fairy tales only? I’m sorry, but I do not believe in Valentine’s Day at all.

    My email address is lydiaykchin@yahoo.com.sg

    Pls contact me, as I do not know how to contact you, and don’t think we’ve met? We can discuss more on Valentine’s Day via email.

    Cheers.

  15. Dear Diana,

    Thank you so much for giving SHC members the opportunity to post our thoughts about “What does Valentine mean to us, the Silverhairs?”

    First of all, shame to say I have never celebrated Valentines’ Day with anyone all my life except little notes from my students.

    I do know and understand what does it mean in terms of love, it is free of and unconditional, it doesn’t mix various needs, conditions and demands from your partner. Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return, no judgement, no restrictions, no limitations and no expectations.

    Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistance that they satisfy you.

    Love is true giving. first is care, demonstrationg active concern for the receipients’s life and growth,

    2nd is responsilility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs particularly emotional needs,

    3rd is respect, the ability to see a person as he or she is.

    Have a fruitful Ox year!

    Thanks once again and cheers!

  16. When I was in Secondary school, Valentine means going out with a bunch of school friends, chit chatting in a coffee shop over a cup of cold drink, and teasing one another, hoping that the girl whom I like, would give me some attention.

    Then, I started work, but was without a girl friend. Valentine means working night shift, and waiting for the night to pass as quickly as possible.

    Finally, I found a girl, and for the first time, went out to a disco. The first drink was rum and coke, $12 at the Beach Road Hotel. She had a fruit punch. And, I bought her a rose. We danced and we went home.

    The second time around, yes with my second girlfriend, it was a bit more elaborate. A nice western dinner, some roses, romantic chitchats, and then go home.

    Nowadays, I try to have a valentine night out each year. And, it gets nicer each time, with my wife and son.

    I wont be around during Valentine Day. So, I like to take this occasion to wish Happy Valentine Day to all the SHC guys and gals. Let love blooms. Remember, even with SilverHairs, “Love at first sight” is still valid and works.

    Terence Seah

  17. “When I was in Secondary school, Valentine means going out with a bunch of school friends, chit chatting in a coffee shop……………………..

    Finally, I found a girl……..the first time, went…to a $12 Beach Road Hotel. She had a……..punch……

    The second time……..with my second girlfriend….(we)go home………….”

    Sengh, so that’s your Valentine progression? For sure, you have become more kiamsiap, less romantic and certainly, go straight to the point very quickly.

    (Since I am too lazy to hunt for the badminton thread, will borrow space here to say that I have not been a regular for the same reason………too lazy to sweat…….)

  18. Dear Diana,

    Thank you so much for the copy of Silver Lining magazine, I have received this evening.

    May subscribe for my leisure reading.

    Warmest Regards!

    Have a wonderful weekend!

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