A taboo subject which nobody likes to tread but should we avoid it? One’s own funeral – stone cold frightening – some of us said they’d avoid seeing.
Am I the only brave one? Don’t think so. Are you also like me?
Many years ago a head of department whom I knew who passed away due to cancer, planned her own funeral – I remember singing the hymn, one of things that she selected herself when she was still with us.
So when there’s a service for one’s customized pre-planned funeral, I was curious and took a look, asked questions, mulled over it, and went for a second appointment in the office of the company in Sin Ming Road. Young boss in her late 20’s following her father’s established business. Smack all round me along the four walls were respectable looking “boxes” – white, mahogany in gloss/matt finishing, slim looking – slim is the “in” thing nowadays, why, even coffin designers are joining the fray.
So we went through the checklist – flowers that I like or dislike? Some ideas how to start building up your photos for a montage if you like, how you’d like to be clothed, the venue for your resting place and the place of the wake, even the catering, even a collection box that’s secured – and how many would you expect to be visited, LOL, and what is your budget. Nothing new to know about, but I see – this is a personalized service and my body will be handled with utmost respect by the same gender, and I will not shock my loved ones and friends when my hair is skillfully coiffeured. And it’ll not be so mournful – it’ll be a time to reflect and celebrate my life.
My friends are quite puzzled, amused – why need to do this? Never heard of this kind of service and anyway, this will be taken care of by our loved ones – let them handle, they say. But how about opening your mind to it and maybe it’s the beginning of one’s acceptance of one’s mortality and overcoming the fear of death. My time will come so I’d rather plan it and spare my family of all the preparations and work – but knowing my wishes, family and friends (and I too) will have peace of mind knowing that funeral arrangements are done according to my wishes.
Sounds too morbid to talk about it? Someone told me this morning that I’m too perfect. True,true, got my will done, all my insurance mapped out. Do you ever think about it? My friends had a good laugh. Will you too?