Earlier groups on “Ageing together in JB” discussed the topic last 3 mths. Most of the discussions centered around where to stay, costs, knowing more about JB, convenience, interesting areas, moving around, transportion and risks staying in JB. Most participants are healthy, vibrant, hot, shoppers, looking fot best buys, eager to enjoy life, and always looking for company to go JB. I see many are in stages 1 and 2 of the ageing process, meaning got money, still working, healthy, can walk, very busy, full of vibrance and essentially mobile and not bed ridden. This brings us to the next discussion. Stage 3 and 4.
What do we do when we reach Stages 3 and 4? We cannot walk and maybe bedridden. And we cannot bathe ourselves, cannot eat our meals and medicine.
At stages 3 and 4, we may have to decide having a maid or move to a nursing home. Maybe someone will decide for us, where we stay. Which nursing home to go to?
Worse still, when there is insufficient medisave and savings run low. If we have filial children or family, they may only see us once a week.
How to afford the next medical appointment and medicine? Where to get a wheelchair? Where to get assistance?
When we decide to stay at home, and no one around, what to do? Youtube movies, maybe. And wait until the daughter-in-law or son comes home with some food.
Getting a maid is an idea, but what does it cost to have a maid at home? Or should we be moved to a nursing home? How affordable is this? In Singapore, JB or Batam?
Many of us dont think of stages 3 and 4. Wait until then, the situation will take care of itself. Maybe, we just gong suddenly and go to heaven.
We shall dedicate the next 3 mths on this topic. For those who are in Stages 3 or 4, not mobile and bedridden, come share with us your experience. It will be truly valuable.
Nothing shy and nothing to show off. Our time will come.
Registration to participate close 15 March 2020.