This is meant for members to seek advice on relationship,friendship and even parent\/child problems.While I do not claim to be Mr KNOW-ALL on every subject I have been analysed by the DISC system as being equitable ,fair and objective and a good problem solver(in real life good at solving other people’s problems but not my own problems).I am not a qualified phsychologist but I do have good old COMMONSENSE to steer me through the minefields of different opinions and solutions.<\/p>\n
I may not be the best man for this job even though my buddy TIM voted me the champion writer(biased opinion since he is my buddy…blush ,blush) regarding the Tan Chin Boon debacle but I actually respected and agrred that Charles Chua’s observations about polarisation into 2 camps was particularly succinct and spot on.Although I do not agree with his conclusion that the initiator is laughing at us at the ruckus he has made.In the words of Ronald Koh …right or wrong that is the beauty of SHC.While Charles Chua and myself do not agree on everything but at least we agree on the more important things and like TIM(we don’t always agree) we continue to be mature about it and respect each other despite our opinions.<\/p>\n
Perhaps my harsh criticism of the over the top responses may not be entirely(most were and deservedly spanked verbally) correct for all but for some though harsh and biased may have been appropriate in that context with the benefit of hinsdsight and reflection.In the end I think both Charles and myself were wrong in our conclusions…I said he would disappear if he did not apologise and Charles on the laughing at the ruckus part.If I am not mistaken although he was a noshow in the forum by 24 Aug and I was disappointed he did not respond further in at least a limited apology that he is still attending functions with the support of some members(can anybody confirm?)<\/p>\n
I have been fooling around and having FUN with supposedly gambling(investment if you win consistently and definitely more productive returns than TOTO and 4D if you have the expertise.Tim I have a proposal for you… tip 4D consistently at least in theory on the forum and bet on your lucky numbers and see who wins more or looses less in the long run…hello must tip before draw ,OK?).In this post I would like to share serious workable advice and solutions to personal problems.<\/p>\n
This is how this post should work:<\/p>\n
1) somebody poses a problem(if you are shy you can also present it as a friend’s problem)<\/p>\n
2) I give advice and offer a possible solution<\/p>\n
3) other members(jury) offer their inputs and advice<\/p>\n
4)Review and I will give final advice. Either I shift my opinion slightly or entirely(not likely)to incorporate these inputs or if I disagree than I have to state why.<\/p>\n
5) Initiator of the query has the option to comment and let us know whether he\/she is taking the advice with a pinch of salt or implementing it.Over time report back and review whether it has worked or otherwise<\/p>\n
Remember if criticisms are shot like arrows (even at me) than we should all remain COOL and not take it personally for the sake and interests of our fellow members.Do not take this post too (hot under the collar or steam between the ears)or indulge in name calling. or 4 letter words.(no hints or codes also)Attaching a label or tag after backing up your point with reasoning should be the order of the day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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