Hi SHCians<\/p>\n
With due respect, do pardon me if my comments on the above ruffle some feathers.<\/p>\n
There are a few hundred University-educated Malay women now in their mid-30s and older whom are resigned to the fate of being lifelong spinsters unless they are willing to become second or third wives because their age group has a disproportionate ratio of three females to one male with a university\/higher learning education. Many of their parents are on-off distressed because it is the Malay culture to "berumah tangga"-get married. Now the university\/polytechnic educated Malay males below 30yrs old are equal in numbers with their female counterparts.<\/p>\n
Singlehood is a boon as there are no family-vines hindering our mobilityparticularly if one lives alone. But on the other hand living alone means that if one decides to stay indoors the whole day and it happens that one does not make a phone call throughout the whole day and neither is a incoming call received, then one becomes dumb for a period of 12\/13hours.<\/p>\n
As our hair recedes and turn more greyer when our age cross the half century mark and when we tend to become more homily, the spectre of loneliness creep steadily upon us, perhaps more pronounced for male Silverhairs as the womenfolk do not refrain\/disdain from participating in relativess organisational activities. Usually two-thirds of the participants in CCs’ and social clubs’ activities are women.<\/p>\n
The "inducement" that triggered me not to remain single happened in early 1999 when a divorced pub-cum-mahjong kaki died of a heart attack and his corspe was undiscovered more than 24hours later untill three of the deceased mahjong kakis, including yours truly, called over one Sunday afternoon and by a fortunate coincidence the three of us arrived within seconds of each other at the lift lobby.<\/p>\n
Thus, it is compulsory for Silverhairs to maintain a healthy lifestyle. A fit male single-Silverhair may wish to consider tying the knot by turning to marriage agencies depicting foreign women as increasingly more grey-haired male Sporeans do during the past decade. Yours truly was quite fortunate in not having to "search here-and-there" as my Indonesian wife was a maid baby-sitting a family two doors away from my quite regular-mahjong-host cousin’s unit which was on the second level and where my wife often baby-sitted at the corridor, a position my cousin’s visitors would have to passed first.<\/p>\n
A "younger" female Silverhairs perhaps may wish to ape Julia Roberts’ "Eat, pray,love" and who knows? <\/p>\n
The Babas, Malays, native Thais, Filipinos are not recticent in marrying later in life(mostly second marriages) perhaps they are more accomodating of the warts & moles of a spouse, albeit at times they can be quite blinkered. They believed "Berkembah, bertaboh hiburan – twins create merriment"<\/p>\n
Abel Tan<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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