Dear friends <\/p>\n
A chance remark recently by a fellow member whilst we were socialising, prompted me to comment on the<\/p>\n
above.<\/p>\n
The first Iconic CCM I came across was in the early 70s when the mahjong host(a friend’s friend) wife literally had to cater to the four players’ needs – preparing the table, serving refreshments and after we stopped by 5pm for happy-hour drinks, she had to walked up and down from the third level as the elevator stopped at the 5th level(Stirling Rd, Queenstown flats) to cross the road and buy Or-luak, chai-tow-kuay and rojak and two bottles of stout and mind you she was mid-way pregnant with her first child.<\/p>\n
After serving us the food as well as getting the utensils, she had to wiped off the iced-water stains spilt earlier by her husband and minutes later to mop off some chilli sauce carelessly spilt by yours truly. The host had discouraged a friend to render assistance with the remark "not to worry…..leave it to her…….<\/p>\n
woman’s job".<\/p>\n
My take is up to the mmid-70s, a woman when admitting she had a husband which has turned out to be below par, would console herself with the thought "Well, its just my hard luck, but at least I have a family and children. Just look at Ah Choo, approaching 30 like me, in fact some months older than me, and still with no prospect in sight" But two decades later, this below-par husband would have been chucked off,<\/p>\n
"Good riddance!"<\/p>\n
Increased intellectuality and economic independence means the female’s attitude and mannerism now do intimidate some "lacklustre" males. Parental influence to some extent navigate one’s selection of absolute pragmatism. "He smokes, you smoke……..who is going to stop smoking if you want to have a baby next time" "Son, I don’t think you can afford her, she’s a single child you know, chauffered throughout from young" "Your wife will still be working after marriage…..so, no need to serve you coffee, even once in awhile?" "Yes, you’re lucky, he’s well-off, but see that his mother in future don’t "lord" over you, cause rich women tend to ‘knuah suay simpu boh lew’. These were comments I overheard at my family’s clan- gatherings through the years. Perhaps, Peranakans tend to be more concerned over their childrens’ marriage selections. <\/p>\n
My take is unless one upholds the thought that "man is meant for procreation" then pragmatism will prevail. <\/p>\n
Regards<\/p>\n
Abel Tan<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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