For April, I have set a date for Thurs, Apr 14, 2011, time late afternoon to evening. Please put this date in your diary.
From feedback, Hans Cafe at Upp Pickering seems to be a good location and well received. But, for this gathering, the hope is to do something slightly different. in case, you are worried, the change will be very slight. Well, maybe it will all be standing room, within an open area. No dinner, but maybe some finger food. Soft drinks, wine, if we can afford it.
The venue should not be a function room; function rooms are boring. We cannot afford to have chairs or tables. Maybe some dividers to demarcate a square, with a small entrance for us to squeeze in. Hmm, we will have a small registration team. Maybe we have a mic to introduce the event. Gosh, no singing, karoke and no dancing and no games.
The objective again is not to put our butts on the chairs or sofas. Everybody walks around. If you dont like somebody, you can just say you are going to the rest room. The SHC name tag is compulsory. If you are shy, just say "Hi, my name is Timothy Liu. And what’s yours?". If you are the "Everybody knows me" type, keep smiling.
Dress code: Aiyah, no slippers, and remember "Just look good and feel good".
Strictly for registered SilverHairsClub members only. No discussions on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM.
And the best part of this event is we haven’t found a place, near the MRT. And what it will cost us. Have fun. And, you are invited to to give your thoughts, ideas and suggestions on how to hold such an event. Oops, I thought I should be the EO for once. If you like to help me, please let me know.
Terence Seah
#25 Terence,
Sorry, Terence. I have not been following the forum closely so please pardon me for asking ‘Who is the new CM?’
Thanks
Ros
Hi everybody,
Due to a change in my life’s schedule, I have to make some changes to the way SHC is being managed and run. As such, I have decided not to pursue the concept of the April 2011 monthly gathering, and that I shall leave future monthly gatherings to be managed and decided by the Club Manager. Of course, I do hope some of the positive points be picked up.
This also mean the new date will be decided by the Club Maanger.
Terence Seah
Hi Rosalind #22
Yes you met me at the last round table business gathering. It looks like I did not create much impression in our first encounter.
I look forward to knowing you better hopefully in another SHO social gathering where the ambiance is more condusive
for interaction. Who knows, may be we can click to borrow a word from Terence’s #8. Cheers
Robert
halo robert ,
when i join this club abt 3yrs back..my 1st event ,i join was the annual dinner & dance.i , register2 help out in their committee but sad to say i had a very long bad flu on me.as such i didnt help..till de actucal day i was fully recover.there after i attend the party..
u , know what i see all of them was really dress up like a superstars.i did not wait for others 2 know me..my style is very time i see someone i dun know ..i must do the talking 1st so to let others know i am not de quite & shy types..
1st time , i met lina ng ,ah nee susan chan & karen thio ,
i joke & we all had a very good talk till 2day..
so any newbies , pls dun feel shy..talk to any1 you meet..
most of the shcians memebers are very friendly.when i was still agreenhorn , i also find guys like james tan ,malcom , dennis , roonie , ben ,tim liu , richard kee , paul kong , charles chua & many more all very frendly.. till 2day ,i ve known about almost 100 members or so..
so , like wat lydia chin say wear a red bright shirt lah..hahaha mai pai sei lah ( dont need to be shy )
sam huat
Hello Robert! Are you the Robert I met at the last Round Table Gathering? Sorry I asked because there are other Roberts in SHC just as there are Rosalinds. :p
Cheers
Ros
Dolly #19
In my few comments, I am refering to the new members in general rather than directing at myself.
In fact, in one of the dancing sessions ( 1 March 2011) I saw a lady whom I have not met before dancing Cha cha gracefully at the floor.
I have attended only a few lesoons on Cha cha, So I did not know whether I would meet up to the occasion. However, I plucked up my courage and approached her. To my delight she accepted me without hesitation.
This is an example where I did not wait to be approached.
So please do not generalise
Robert-O
At the next gathering, try coming in a bright shocking pink shirt, or better still, match it with a colourful wig. You can borrow it from Terence. That’s how I first noticed Terence! And then put a huge sticker “Hi.. I am Robert-O… how are you getting by..” there.. now everyone reading this post know you ……. keke :)
Cheers, Lyd.
Robert,
I just cant understand leh.. y must wait 2b approached rather 2 approach others lor especially 4 guys.. rite? Cheers.. Dolly
Hi Frisna #!5
Are we trying to avoid the issue by coming up with euphimisms by saying a person who assumes a quiet and shy disposition or with silver hairs can cast a charm to other people.
I see in nature, that a male lyrebird diplays a fantastic attraction-seeking movements by making an elaborate show of his long tail feathers. This is a courtship performance.
Many of us do not resort to this extent to attract attention.
But I have atended a few MG’rings by adopting a quiet demeanor, yet no beautiful ladies (or not so beautiful ladies) came to say “Hello, Robert, may I introduce myself. I am Lucy ……….. how are you getting by.”
I was bewildered, for I am tall and with a not-so-bad physique and with few strands of silver hairs (without a pouch).
I have resigned to the fact that this is the norms in SHC
and as Terence has said that he is not sure this can be changed .I think that this is also the general consensus within the club. So as the saying goes “In Rome do what the Romans do”
Re Frisna #15
Dear All
So you see, even shy ugly old man gets approached by beautiful ladies in this club.
So for those new members who feel left-out here, there is no excuse, it is all up to you.
Since the demise of the East is Red, few hunger for a feel of (sic. at) east.
A Journey to the West is more exciting. You get to sit on the white horse (itself a prince transformed) next to the handsome monk, his hands clasped and wont run all over you.
Any guy with you on this Journey will get to spar with spiderwoman (limbs opened wide to push, that’s how spiders spar) and a tryst with everyone living in Amazon Queendom.
Hope you will be free for April’s MG’ring then i dont need a chair.
With another pairs of arms, you will make a sedan chair for me to ride on. Literally I will be on a high chair with an elevated view and will get to move around without nothering to walk.
Botanical Gdns gets my veto. Our folks are shy, monyets are not. So when it comes to the Banana Peeling gaame, the participants will all be monkeys. They cant tell the difference btwn bananas Terence brought for the game, and his very own banana which is his game.
And then it will be game over for him………..
Hi Terence
if i’m in town and free, would certainly help you to make everybody feel at east either standing, sitting or lying down. as for Tim’s 1 & only chair i’d help him to man the time and collect payment.
as for location, agree with Tim to use the speaker corner (several of us can speak to promote SHC), Botanical garden will be a good place too.
PS: Tian Soo, i think it’s not your silver hair that attract but rather your quite/shyness that made ppl (me) approach you for handshake couple days ago…
All of us here have been a new member once.
From day one I find the people here friendly and accepting. That is why I am still here.
In trying to understand why, I am sure when I first meet everyone here none of you know if I am poor or rich or have a job, so it must be my good looks.
But then, not many here are as good looking as I am because it takes time to grow real silver hair. But I see most members happily dancing and laughing. So maybe this place attracts people who just want to have fun.
Lets stay this way.
Hi Robert,
Yes, it is nice of you to have the new members at heart. Many of the older members have made efforts to integrate the new members with the current members. And, many have organised activities for the general membership. Sure, there is more that can be done; and you too can play a part.
Perhaps, we have some psychologists in our group, who can shed some light on group behaviour. Why groups gather? I am no expert, although I tend to favour we continue to take the positive view and continue providing opportunities for SilverHairs to meet new and more friends.
Maybe you or Tim or other fellow members can eleborate on their observation, and what can be done.
Great feedback.
Terence Seah
Hi Terence #8 and Tim #6
I feel elated already after two prominent members of SHC have praised me on one hand amd made recommendations for me to organise an event as an EO on the other.
Firstly, I would like to elaborate on Terence’s argument on grouping behavior as inevitable direction and he is not sure that this can be changed. To a certain extent this is true as people of the same trait tend to flock together. My contention is on the question of acceptance of new members by the club. Have they been given the chance to prove that whether they can click with the groups who might have vested interests and alienate the new members. Like what Tim has said, they came out of the meeting feeling disorientated and bewildered..Perhaps, apathy seems to be the contributing factor considering that the club has over three thousand members. ( Note: I stand to be corrected if the above quoted number is wrong)
Terence
Can’t be there in April; is that why you picked this month to do the standing thingy? Would have gladly raised my bird to help.
Read with interest regarding your reply to Robert as to what happened in the initial gatherings and so on and so forth…..and how the chairs came about. Keekee.
My cow-cent worth; treat standing gatherings like some cocktail thingy – minus the cocks, of course. Mingle without being overbearing and if people are not friendly, move on.
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Quite true, Terence.
In my observations of folks attending these MG’rings, the newbies came with high expectancy, hoping to find oysters and olives. But when they left, some looked disorientated, bewildered and must hv thought they cd hv made more friends from a zoo visit.
That’s why if a MG’ring has a theme, a programme like the one you hv planned for us in April 2011, the prospect of interaction is promising.
Do put one chair at this Standing-Only Gathering. I will sit on it and those who hv weak knees and need some rest, will sit on my laps. No charge. No massage. I shall keep time.
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Hi Robert #5,
Strangely, the SHC culture is developed by members over the years. And during this time, groups are formed. I am not sure if this is something that can be changed; although I tend to think groups are the inevitable direction. Why? Because, SHC’s objective is to allow SilverHairs to find new friends and make more friends. Groups gather because they click.
This is why the monthly gathering has to be on each month. After a member finds a new friend; he/she can increase the network by coming to the montlhy gathering and find new friends. I guess if there is mutual interests, it helps the new member.
I think you are doing well; getting to know more SHC members. I have said a few times; be active and be seen. I would be most happy to have you lead a monthly gathering. Would you like to do the Mar monthly gathering? I am not in Singapore, in Mar, so you will be free to do something different. Like to try it,
Terence Seah
Hi Tim,
I have always been amused by our monthly gathering. Groups sit down; a new comer joins in; and no one moves. In the early days, when monthly gatherings were first organised; the idea then was not to have chairs. But, many said, aiyah, SilverHairs need chairs, after standing for 15 minutes. So, I let the trend continue.
Somehow, I see there are places we can have such events; shopping centres have plenty of open spaces; hotels too. Riverside walks; swimming pools, Boat quay steps; Tim Liu’s corridor; our Merlion arena; someone’s office premises; country clubs. Shy, not sure if the venue is suitable? speak to some of the seniors; or your match maker.
Terence Seah
Well, Robert-O, I have at least 2 things to say.
First, you are a good EO, speaking at least from my personal experience of yr organising the k’ok. You spiced it up with an impromtu competition, put out a decent spread of finger food and talked thru noises which wd hv made you an outstanding parade commander. Or a 7-month auctioner.
Second, though no more a prolific writer, any mention of Tim Liu will invariably elicit a response from him.
“Tim Liu’ have been used as examples. Terence used it when he wanted to tell the world what “still looking good” is. Everyone cd call his bluff there. Tim Liu was both amused and pleased to know that he still has this crush for him. Terence’s post on “Walking Thru Life with a Mate” says it all of his secret love for a guy. He is checkmate even as he continually checks on his mate.
No, I am a recluse, unknown to many otherwise i wd be in showbiz or try my luck as an independent in Joo Chiat as well.
Next, you ask me not to be “construed”. Not sure what you mean here but suffice it to say that I hv never and will not con anyone thru and thru. Conning another briefly for some fun I will do. The real me is “com-true” – committed to the truth.
MG’rings?
Of those I hv attended so far, I will rank the one held in December 2010 at a Jap restaurant and the one in Oct at the Flyer Bistro as the best and 2nd best respectively.
Activities were planned and there were smthg for everyone to do, cheer or merely watched to enjoy. “Aimlessness” ro “clueless” didnt exist. Action-packed events rarely breed zombies;; everyone zooms in on the activities.
So, my ardent wish is that come April 2011, the MG’ring which is planned as a standing session, will hv plenty for everyone attendee to stand up for. Will Terence S K Seng pull a bunny out of his hat in this Year of the Rabbit? Or will it be a collection of shoes, shawls, teeny weeny bikinis which Sengh will pull out under his turban?
Let’s wait and see. This anticipation is itself a good reason to attend the April MG’ring.
Hi Terence
I joined the SHC in August 2010, and I am still trying to figure out what is the culture of the club.
After trying out as the EOs of two events, these are my reflections.
Despite the lofty objectives of the club, the older members seem to be rather reserved in their approach to new members. This is manifested in MGM where there are “enclaves” of people at each table and they do not see the necessity to wear the name tags as they know each other. Of course there are exceptions. For example everybody knows Tim Liu. Tim, please do not be construed. As for a new member, his predicament can be felt when he or she tries to break the ice by his/her seemingly intrusion.
Thank you Terence for yr suggestion which wukk rid me of the headache of finding only 1 other Timothy Liu who lives in the mirror. I will now have an army of TLs who will come under my Commander-in-Chief for some BMT before they are sent to Lybia via Lydia.
If you look only for a place to stand in, why not book the Speakers Corner in Hong Lim Park? In btwn talks and snorts, one can run over to use Hans’ toilet for free.
Who knows, our old friend the Zoo Chiat boy might be there too? He will tell us how much water he has been drinking from the source and his thoughts for it. Also, who knows, we might be so touched and moved that we want to help him attaun an erection there and then or later at a GE?
Alamak Terence! The date you’ve chosen for the April meeting falls on the day I’ll be in Manila! I was going to volunteer to be your helper (at the monthly meeting not as a helper at your home) but when I saw the date….:(
Cheers
Ros
Hy Lydia,
For May, we havent planned a date yet for the monthly gathering. But, I hope to see someone who has not been an EO to raise his/her hand.
For April, fortunately, the date is the only date I can make it in Singapore, as I hope to set the trend and pattern for similar such gatherings.
Anybody likes to be the EO for May?
Terence Seah
Hi Terence
Just wondering if we can bring forward the April Mthly Mtg to 12 or 13/4. Last one I attended was in Dec, & have missed Jan & Feb mtgs due to work. Of course, it’s only a request.