I registered as member since 2 or 3 years back, can’t remember. But have never get to know anyone of you.
The 1st time I attended a annual dinner at Pine Tree club , I was late but stayed for about 2 hours or so. I only got to know the lady who sat beside me and dance with me. The rest seems to already know one another , although there were introduction but I guessed they felt comfortable talking to only ppl they know. I were quite disappointed as I am rather a shy person so I left quietly. Actually, I got a lucky draw but I donated back for a redraw.
The reason why I join SHC, like all of you, to know more friends. As age is catching up, friends are getting lesser and sometimes quite lonely. I am single at age 53. Although in appearance I look social, I am not as I am quite plump. I am a very different person as compare to my young days , I love dancing and singing. In fact, there were once, thru’ email from one of the SHC member, I cannot remember his name, I attended a dinner organised by a CC ( I think he with the social dance club ). I met up with him and bought 1 ticket , thinking I can meet some friends there. I took a cab from tampines to Hougang I think, and again to my disappointment, I felt like an ‘alien’ there. I stayed for about an hour and left .
With these 2 incidences, I dare not join any of the activity again. Also, have stop going to SHC website to find out what’s happening. I remembered I did log in once and forgot my membership number and cannot access to it anymore although there was a new number given to me. Perhaps ppl like me not pro-active, that is why hard to find new friends. How ?
Do you think I fit in to this club?
I spend a lot of time watching movies and downloading korean, taiwan and HK TV dramas to keep myself occupied but I feel that it is not getting healthy as I am living in the world of my own.
SO , about time to go out to meet more ppl and socialise.
Agnes Low
Hihi Agnes Low
Welcome and I am just like you, but I think you are better than me :)
At least you did attended their activities befre. I was totally absence all these years. I was even worst I registered in last quarter of 2006.
Lately I happened to come across this website again and then just thought of maybe I should start attending their activities.
I only will go for indoor activities because I hate outdoor activities:)
Hope to see you one of these days.
Have a nice weekend.
hello Agnes,
Welcome aboard. Join our Monthly Walk . It is one of the best way to get to know fellow SHCians. Forthcoming walk is on the 9th July. It is a nice & easy route in Sembawang area.
Heyo Agnes,
Welcome back, i just like you, ne have only attended 3 of their actitivies.. fun and met up with many new friends …
huh .. may take sometime to remember their faces and name,
however would suggest you open up you life and perhaps as wat Charles have suggest, join in 9/7 the monthly walk. Hope to see you ya ..
hi agnes
i note that you love dancing and singing; sometime around september or october i will be running some social dancing lessons for shc members; so keep a look out for the posting; a big welcome to you…
Hi Daniel,
Gee.. i would love to take up dancing lessons from you too.
Hi Agnes
I admire your courage to take the first step to go out and meet people instead of facing the TV box each day.
My experience is joining big functions like D&D or big dancing party is the most difficult way to make friends. Unless you are super sexy looking, in which case the wolves and flies will swamp around you and I don’t think you have the time to log in here.
Most of us ordinary people, especial when in a large crowd would look for people we are familiar with. Most of us will be busy catching up and exchanging news with existing friends. In fact it will be quite rude if we see our friends at a party and not go and talk. So that leaves new participants with a problem.
People also gravitate towards others with the same interest. It is difficult to find the people with same interest in a big crowd. So if you attend smaller group activities that are more specific, like walking or dancing it will be much easier to find friends. You are already invited by CharlesW and Daniel Ong.
I think the more activities you are interested in, the more friends you will have.
Hi Agnes,
Welcome to SHC!
I was in your shoes – I didn’t know anybody; I would attend some activities, and then feel that I have wasted my time. But I found that ppl here are friendly, and approachable. I also join in the many activities; there is not a dull moment since.
I look forward to welcome you at July Monthly Gathering at Riverside. Cya! :-)
Yatsing
Hi Agnes,
Don’t be discouraged. I joined SHC about 2 years ago. My first experience was attending the monthly meeting at HANS in Chinatown. Just like you, I am totally lost. Some members do make an attempt at welcome but like you said, I was left alone after a while.
I became inactive for a few month. Then I have a long stretch of leave and decided to make an open invitation for a few members to join me trekking at Pulau Ubin. To my surprise, 22 members turned up – on a Friday morning! After that, I got to know more members. I guess what I am saying is that take the initiative to join activities and by and by you will get to know someone.
So do join us for the walk on 9/7. I promise it wouldn’t be a 9/11.
Conrad
halo halo halo ah agnes ,
dun worry be happy or ai hua yee hua yee dun hide @ yr house @ i am like u ..many years ago @ my son room always hantam computer games @ togo wif my hiah ti jie mui ( bro & sisters
drinking )den 1 day hor ..i masuk into tis tok kong ( solid humorous club.. oops sorry fairy god mother watching liao..must kong correctly silvers hairs club.. lah..
den i kar kar ming puay cow cow ( thick skinned ) hoot as a EO for last year koon sar koon ngoh dinner n dance with my handsome ah kor kor dan huang as mine co EO & WONDERFUL
committees buddies help too… so dun stay at home liao..dump yr hung kok wat ever show aside & join wat events u envy lah… aa chai bo har ? ( understand bo )
i am also once a lonely man b4…but since i whack into SHC hor….now i got a kang chew liao hor… sorry let others guess wat is it hor…. agree with wat conard kong ..dun be discouraged lah… chinese song kong u fell down u must stand up again lah… me no no chinese hor..so can our tim liu over to u kong bo har ?
sam huat huat huat
Hi Agnes
I too joined SHC around the same time as you think 1 mth before the Annual Dinner at Pine Tree Club that was also my first attempt but I more chiak lak, 1st time attend kena lead Linedance performance with a grp of SCHians Ldance enthusiasts. Time really flies now alredy more than 3yrs in SHC and have meet a lot of members & make a lot of friends that I should confess I never regret joining SHC.
Do join SHC events if you’re free.
Cheers
Hamidah
First, it’s nice to see so many newbies signing in and giving their intros. Welcome to you all – Hew Lee, Catherine-T, Emeleen-S and Chee-LM.
“me no no chinese hor..so can our tim liu over to u kong bo har ?”
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Hi Agnes,
Welcome! I am also relatively new in SHC. Hope you will find some events/activities of interest to you.
Hope to meet up with you soon.
hewlee
Hi Agnes Low,
Welcome back to SHC ! Have Fun and enjoy!!
Cheers !!!
Hi Agnes
Welcome back.
I was the EO for the D&D at The Pines.
My apologies if the event did not meet your expectations. I am sure with all the feedback received, the EOs of future events will be more mindful of new members’ feelings and will help them to settle in.
When I first joined SHC, I did not have many friends. But I made friends by going out of my way to get to know them. Somehow, when members feel you sincerely want to be part of the group, I am sure they will welcome you.
Have fun :)
Warmest Regards
Carly
Hi Agnes
Welcome back to SHC! I notice that you’re a very shy “wall flower” like me.
Tian Soo @ No. 6 is right…unless you’re “drop dead” gorgeous…you will have to go out and talk to people. I do attend some events and many of the members always try their best to make me feel welcome and urge me to join in the dancing. I’m normally too shy to do so and inevitably, get left alone.
You’re much too young to be sitting in front of the telly everyday, so maybe you should start out by joining the gathering on 14 July? I hope to catch up with you some time.
Cheers!
Angela
Hi Agnes,
I want to fren fren u… hahaha :)
See u on the 14 july… ok? Go register now :)
Your new fren,
Clara Ho
I am very please and surprise to receive so many replies and encouragement. Thanks all for your warm welcome. This means a lot to me to make the 1st step to get started.
It was impromptu when I sent an my email to Terence as I unable to log in to post comments then. Not knowing, Terence posted my email to him on SHC members’ profile.
Wow,