LAM HOY TZEE – Introduction

Hi fellow SHC members,

Most of friends address me as "Lam".  I will be 56 this year, still working (no plan for retirement as yet). 

Life is becoming uninteresting since the passing of my wife, just 8 months ago.  I need to rediscover life again.  Got to know Silverhairsclub while seeking direction in coping with the loss.  Hope to meet Silverhairsclub members  to revive all those wonderful and interesting activities of our time and any other new adventure.    

Regards

Lam

       

27 thoughts on “LAM HOY TZEE – Introduction”

  1. Welcome to the club.
    I am sure the people here will help you enjoy your new found single life.
    How happy we are is always up to us.

  2. Yay Ah Lam ( just like how they affectionately call the HK singer )
    Tian Soo is right. …
    “the people here will help you enjoy your new found single life” –
    I would like to invite you to join our SHC Drama Group.
    If you dont mind to forget yourself and be someone else sometimes,
    join us this 16 July Saturday 12pm -3pm for some fun.

    Be There!!
    pearl.

  3. halo halo halo bro ah lam …..

    tell u wat hor….mai gek sim lah.. ( heart pain )

    i was once also a very very beri beri satu or her ( alone )
    @ home son will in his pan keng ( room ) whack his pc…so if outside wif my hiah ti HAPPY HOUR… till like 2moroow never come 1….den hor ..me get 2 know SHC our indian chief ah hiah terence..wah wah wah wah ..so many events to chope 1..NOW ,, bo see kang liao ( no time ) so come out bro…whack de events things upcoming like ah lily jie N dolly ec for de NDP dancing ..TAiLor ..if u can tak kar kah chia ( pedal biscycle )join he long distance all de way 2 pangkarang , handsome hubby of de yr jeff ve so many events on kar la or k & dancing too flip de shc on site..check it out mate….hor…why worry be happy ai hua yee hua yee ya….take care bro…

    sam huat…oops heng bo miss tio 1 lagi big event by our chief de 100% kong hua yee in chinatown or geylang har ?

    come come coem n poh mia ( register ) hor…dun paly play play har ?

    sam huat

  4. Hello Lam HT,

    Sorry to hear the loss of your wife 8 months ago. My thoughts go out to you and your family. I know it is very hard to just move forward when you lose someone that you love dearly and share your life with for many years.

    I loss my wife two years ago and I still find it very hard to cope. I hope you find friends and happinese in the SHC.

    Cheers
    Simon Koh

  5. Hello Lam

    Sorry to hear about your wife’s passing 8 months ago.

    I agree with Simon. Its never easy to cope after losing someone you are so comfortable with, the love of your life.

    I lost my husband almost 8 years ago and it still hurts, missing and thinking of him. But I have learnt to move on with support from family and friends.

    Hopefully, time will lessen your pain.

    Come out of your shell and make new friends. Come, join in the activities whenever you can. Don’t be afraid to carry on with your life. You wont be alone because you have friends in SHC.

    Totally agree with Tian Soo. Whether we want to live happily or not, its all up to us.

    Take care

    Warmest Regards
    Carly

  6. Welcome to SHC!
    To “revive all those wonderful and interesting activities of our time”, may I invite you to our July Monthly Gathering at Riverside Thurs July 14. The ‘theme’ is ‘favorite games of days gone by’ :-)
    If you are unable to come early, it’s ok; do come anyway – we’ll look out for you.
    If you do not wish to ‘re-play’ the ole games, do join us to chat, have a cup of coffee, get-to-know-you.

    Cya!

  7. Dear Tian Soo,Pearl,Sam,Simon,Clara,Carly,Yatsing & Thomas,

    Thank you for your kind words. I felt an instant warnmess coming from all of you. Thanks again.

    Regards
    Lam

  8. Hi Lam, welcome to SHC. Sorry to hear you lost your partner 8 months ago. Life is not the same, but life must still go on. Think of some SHC activities you are interested in and get involved.
    hewlee

  9. Hello, hello Lam. Welcome to the Silverhairs!

    To say I emphathize with you yet I do not think I qualify. I can’t fully, as I have spent more time without him than with him but still…….

    We do have to learn to let go as time goes by and treasuring the good memories along the way.

    If I may say, for at least I do, many of us at SHC yearn to have a more fulfilling life. With the many activities in SHC, many opportunities abound.

    You do have to start somewhere and you have by joining SHC.
    Congratulations! Strive on. It’s definitely worth living.

  10. Hi Lam,
    Welcome to SHC. I am sure that your late wife would want you to get on with life happily. Now it is up to you to make the best of your time at work and at play.

    You have come to a Good Club where the people are warm,friendly and helpful. See, you have already been invited to participate in healthy activities.Do join them.

    Regards,

    Geok Suan

  11. Hi Lam,
    Welcome . You will definitely find many people in SHC, who have had some personal tragedy or problems. You have my sympathy. Losing someone, whether to death or something else will leave lasting scars but these wounds can and will heal with time and the best remedy is friendship and keeping oneself active.
    You’ve come to the right place. Welcome again.

  12. Hi all

    Last evening went to Newton Circus to meet up with few ex-colleagues. Some of them, we have not met for almost 30 years(since 1979).

    We were then a group of young adults of 18 to 23 years old who joined as audit clerks/assistants in an audit firm. To most us it was our first job. We all aspired to be accountants but somehow ended up in various professions – bankers, teachers, Insurance Agents, property agents, shares brokers, futures brokers, forex/money brokers, or businessman. Some have even migrated to other countries. This meet-up jolted our memories of yesteryears and reminisces of our happy time working together and enjoying the activities we had participated.

    This meet-up also incited me to look for those lost contact old colleagues who, at one time or another, had been my good buddies and friends. Just want to catch up with them to share our stories and experiences. If any of you SHC members who have worked at Shing Kwan House (be it in Audit/Secretariat/Tax department), between 1977 to 1980, lets get connected again.

    Regards

    Lam

  13. Hi Hew Lee, Daisy, Geok Suan and Mary,

    Thank you for your encouraging words, I am truely touched by your kind gesture. Hope to meet up with you guys/gals.

    Regards
    Lam

  14. Hello Lam, sorry to hear about your loss but glad that you are ready to
    rediscover life again.

    Just to share, I too lost my husband (4 years ago n he was relatively young) so I understand your emotions.
    There is a time for everything so I told myself it was time to move on to a new chapter.

    I am newly re-registered with SHC perhaps my old registration was invalid as I had not taken part in any activities so far.

    Indeed reading your post has encouraged me, I hope to make myself more active by participating in some programmes.

    Take care, and also to Simon & Caroline…thanks for sharing.

  15. Hi Lam,

    We met on 14th July at the Meeting in Sengkang. At that point, I could not remember your profile.

    Now I can match a face to the profile.

    You’ve come to the right place. Welcome to SHC. Do join us for more of the activities. I’ll be at the Kovan CC this friday, for the music jam & dance. Do hope to see you there.

    During 1977 to 1980, I was not in Shing Kwan House, but at UIC Building.. A private investment company called PICA. Does that ring a bell?

    Regards, LydiaChin.

  16. Hi Lam, my condolences for the loss of your wife. It is good you join SHC as there are so many activities planned every month and from them you can meet people who will become your friends.

    I have been missing in action for a long time as both my mother and mother-in-law are having incurable health problems – one has cancer, the other, advanced dementia. Both of them get complications that require them to be hospitalized every now and then.

    I hope to get back to joining SHC activities soon.

    See you in the near future.

    Cheers
    Ros

  17. Hi Peggy,
    I had attended my 1st SHC’s gathtering on 14/7/2011 at Sengkang. It was a positive one. You get to know “millions” of knowledgable,understanding,approachable & friendly people in SHC.
    Hi Lydia,
    PICA sounds familiar. Did you notice that the alot of buildings there have changed or no longer exist?
    Hi Ros
    We do feel sad about your loved ones’ condition. For now, stay focus on them with love and care. Look forward to meet you.

    Regards
    Lam HT

  18. Hi Lam

    I was there at Sengkang on 14/7/2011 and had spoken to you, so I am taking credit for being one of the “‘millions’ of knowledgable, understanding, approachable and friendly people in SHC” Can or not?

    You have viewed us this way because you are like that yourself. You should also add handsome and modest for yourself. (This sentence is specially written for the ladies here)

    In occasions, we read complains here by new members feeling leftout in SHC gatherings. You are a good example of how easy it is to be accepted and included here.

    Some people are genuinely shy and have difficulty talking to strangers but a few have arrived with superior attitudes.

    At our age it can be tedious to talk to someone who do not respond or another, who knows everything and cannot wait to tell us all the things that we do wrong.

    So maybe you should start talking to new members and show them how easy it is to be accepted here.

  19. Haha…TS,

    Fully agree with your : “At our age it can be tedious to talk to someone who do not respond or another, who knows everything and cannot wait to tell us all the things that we do wrong.”

  20. Hello Tian Soo
    Roger, big brother. I will do my best to get the new members to open up. I believe those who joined SHC want to interact with people, just that they are too shy or reserved or don’t know how to start. It could also due his/her character,some warm up fast, some simply fall asleep, it takes time though.

    Hello Lily,
    I wish to meet you some day.

  21. Hey TS

    ‘Some people are genuinely shy and have difficulty talking to strangers but a few have arrived with superior attitudes.’

    I take it you are referring to new members. If so, want to add that some existing members, too, ‘arrive’ with superior attitudes toward newbies – probably to ‘put them in their place’?

    That was my experience when I joined – probably to scare the shiat out of me? Didn’t work, obviously. Kekekekeee.

    Sooooo Oldies, please have a heart and be nice to the mintees. You don’t have to hold their hands like some dirty old men, just simply make them feel comfortable and take credit. Mwah.

    Hey Lam

    Welcome and stay happy.

  22. HI Lam
    Welcome to the club.
    Hope to meet you one day.

    Enjoy the company of many like-minded friends here

    Life will get better with the passing of each day.
    Have a great week ahead.

    rgds
    Pat

  23. Yo Geraldine,
    Nice to recieve your comments, Huh, long time did not step into HK, at least more than 10 years, miss the excellent food there. It would be great to know you? – so that you can recommend the good places to eat,eat and eat. HaHaHa.

    Hi Patrick
    Thanks for your advice. Ya, we will meet. Take care.

    Regards
    Lam

  24. Hey Lam

    HK has changed so much in the past 10 years just like Sg. Weather-wise, November is the best time to visit. Cool and dry. Bliss!

    Right now the weather is sooooo ‘in heat’; extremely hot and we still have a long way to go before summer is over.

    ‘It would be great to know you?’ The question mark intrigues me, like, you are not sure whether or not it’s a good idea to get to know me, kekekekeeee or you simply want this walking encyclopedia to recommend places. Either way is cool!

    We’ll see.

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