Mary Chan’s daughter Sherry and Micheal’s Wedding, by Mary Chan

Hi everybody. I survived! emoticon

I want to share my experience, joy and fun with everyone.

The wedding was a huge success. We had a very unusual one, starting at my apartment and culminating with a dinner at the Sentosa Spa and Resort Hotel.

I had and still have mixed emotions. I am happy that they are happy, yet sad that I won’t have her with me as often as before. It’s difficult adjusting to not seeing her in the apartment, which seems so empty and quiet, especially now as my second girl has flown to Melbourne for a week. So I am all alone. Sigh.emoticon

On Saturday, I got up at 6.30 am as I couldn’t sleep. emoticonWe had breakfast at 730 and got ourselves ready when the beautician came at 9am to make up the two young ladies. The guests started arriving at 1045 am and by 1100, the apartment was humming with activity as everyone wanted to take a look at and photograph the bride who was in the ‘bridal chamber’ .

The groom then arrived with his 3 escorts, who were dressed in Mandarin outfits! Hahaha. One was his good friend, a Sri Lankan, the other was his best friend, an American and the third was his brother. We were all out on the balcony and staircase landing watching them emerge from the car. We expected something sedate and solemn, but all of a sudden, they broke into a New Zealand haka dance! emoticonTheir yells brought all the neighbours to their windows. It was such a hilarious sight, 4 guys, 2 Irish, an American and a Sri Lankan, dressed in Mandarin hats and outfits, doing the haka.

The dance looked so authentic, it drew applauses from the onlookers.

Then they proceeded to climb all 4 floors up to my apartment, shunning the lift, singing all the way. They even had a huge Chinese fan and some tinfoil percussion instruments. The song had a phrase, something like, "I’ll get down on my knees for you…" and the groom arrived at the top of the stairs and actually got down on his knees when he sang that, so romantic!emoticon

The bridesmaids then got into the teasing of the groom before allowing him to enter to claim his bride, who was still ‘hiding’ in her chamber, giggling with mirth. The bridesmaids, my second daughter, and several other young ladies barred the way and refused to allow him in, asking him to serenade the bride as loudly as he could, until the bride finally agreed that he had sung loudly enough. So he got past the first barrier, easy peasy.emoticon

Then, he had to perform a Chinese dance, wearing a pair of Chinese clogs! His best men were so ingenious. They picked up their clogs and clapped them together like castanets while the groom did a hilarious ‘flamenco’ dance, with lots of stamping. It was such a cosmopolitan mix and so entertaining for the guests, who were all howling with laughter and applauding with appreciation.emoticon

The final demand was a ‘big’ ‘ang pow’, which my daughter demanded gleefully. Guess what? The groom whipped out a really BIG ‘ang pow’ the size of an A2 size paper, with a big double happiness character on it! He had his own back on my second daughter, who was taken aback at the size of the ‘big’ ang pow. Of course, the cash was ‘checked’ to see if it was ‘big’ enough too. It was so much fun.

He was then allowed in. Then the bridal march was played and the bride came slowly out. It was so touching, I think I saw quite a few wet eyes. She was a vision of loveliness and the groom looked at her so adoringly. emoticonWe did a bit of praying, the Buddist way. Then we had the ‘tea ceremony’, when the bride and groom were showered with more ‘ang pows’ and gifts of jewellery for the bride.

Everyone had lunch before leaving to go home to change and get ready for the evening, for the Chinese banquet held at the Sentosa Spa and Resort Hotel. We had a 10 course Chinese fusion cuisine dinner for the relatives and guests. emoticon

The groom and his buddies had something else up their sleeves, halfway through the dinner. They came up with a skit of Sherry and Micheal (pronounced Mi-hall the Irish way) . Micheal portrayed Sherry and one of his best men portrayed him. Micheal had on a black, long haired ‘wig’ and tied a table cloth around his waist for a makeshift skirt and acted the part of a very coy and flirty Sherry. His best man wore a longhaired, orange wig, made from some wooly material and acted as Micheal when he first met Sherry.

The other best man told the story of their courtship while the two drew a lot of laughs and hoots with their   caricature of the bride and groom’s courtship.emoticon

Then there was a toast and speech made by the groom’s father, who actually sang a beautiful Irish song. Some of the guests had a great Chinese ‘yam seng ‘for the couple too. After the dinner, most of the Chinese guests left. Such a pity. They should have stayed. The other guests were reluctant to leave and many spilled out into the beautiful garden after the dinner and carried on chatting and drinking late into the night. It was a totally beautiful evening. The groom’s parents, 2 sisters and brother entertained us with their lovely renditions of Irish songs too. The whole family had such beautiful vocal chords.emoticon

Some of us stayed the night at the hotel and didn’t leave until Sunday evening.

Well, that’s part one of the celebrations. Part two will be in September, in Ireland, where the guest list will be even longer. That will be after my 21 day tour of Europe with my second daughter. I will be staying in Ireland for a week after that.

I’m so looking forward to that.

I feel a little sad as I miss my daughter already, but I console myself that she is staying very nearby, a 5 min walk away. I’m hoping that she’ll come and visit me often. I think the best way is to entice them with home cooked meals don’t you think? Hehe. emoticon

 

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Author: Mary Chan

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79 thoughts on “Mary Chan’s daughter Sherry and Micheal’s Wedding, by Mary Chan”

  1. 3 Cheers for the new mother-in-law! It’s so entertaining!
    Ask yr daughter to introduce her bro-in-law to my girl!
    i.e. if he’s not attached la.

    Steven C,
    It’s a very interesting write-up. How many weddings do U see wif an entertaining dance to begin? Not another ….
    in the making.

  2. Hi Mary Chan,

    1) Congrats to you for being a future proud grand ma.

    Looks interesting. Will read when I return tonight.
    Now had to hurry for work.

    Chio,
    SFC

  3. Hi ! Mary Chan,

    While am open the SHC post during lunch time in the office & remember last week-end is your daughter wedding day, really feel happy for you & would like to congrats you being a proud mother-in-law & also like to congrats to your daughter & his hubby having an amazing & fun weddings. Enjoy your 21days tour in Europe & don’t forget to show me the photograph when you are back to Singapore.

    Take Care!

    Cheers!

  4. Wow, so long, makes it hard for me to cut & paste my comments.

    “……culminating with a dinner at the Sentosa Spa and Resort Hotel”. Had Steven posted his durian thingy earlier, the culmination cd hv been a durian feast at RRR with gun salutes from rifles and durian husks flying.

    “….the apartment….so empty and quiet…..” If you want a bit of noise, invite me only. If you want more noise, let it be the future venue for SHC gathering..

    “…..such a hilarious sight, 2 Irish, an American and a Sri Lankan, dressed in Mandarin hats and outfits, doing the haka”. Not hilarious enough until they speak haka and climb the banana tree to pluck papayas.

    “…….the bride and groom were showered with more ‘ang pows’ and jewellery for the bride”. Could have planned a robbery there instead of going for cycling.

    “I will be staying in Ireland for a week after that. I’m so looking forward to that”. Who knows, someone might arrange something similar for you where you too will be showered with angpows and get a Scot to debate in baba with an Irish speaking haka.

    “…….she is staying very nearby, a 5 min walk away. I’m hoping that she’ll come and visit me often”. Dont worry. If she no visit you, you visit me. Just 50 minutes walk away. Good exercise. Will entice you with banana.

    Jokes, it was a very good sharing…I mean the story, think straight hor.

  5. Hi MaryC

    Congrats on your daughter’s wedding. Such an interesting wedding reception. I really enjoyed reading it.

    Hi Tim Liu

    I’ve never met or seen you but you’re funny lah. Enjoyed reading some of the friendly banters you have with the other members.

    Regards

    Norhayati

  6. Hahaha Tim.
    Your comments are ‘funny lah’, in Norhayati’s words. Thanks. I enjoy your sense of humour, even though they can get a bit weird and raunchy sometimes.

  7. Hi Mary

    First, congratulations. No need to feel sad, as she has to face the realities in this world. In fact, you must be very happy, as you have brought her up, gave her education, and now she is happily married. What more can you ask for? She’s only a 5-minute walk away, and I am sure she’ll have dinner/meals with you regularly.

    Your write-up was interesting indeed, because this was the first time that I read about “2 Irish, an American and a Sri Lankan, dressed in Mandarin hats and outfits, doing the haka”. It may not be hilarious enough for Tim Liu, but for me, I have never witnessed this in my life.

    Waah, you are now looking forward to staying in Ireland. How many people have this opportunity to stay in Ireland? I wish I could join your family in Ireland.

    Warmest regards

    Mega

  8. Nor, thanks and this Mary isnt any ordinary next door Mary. She’s Mary the Merry, keeping herself pretty & young thereby attracting insects like me, Sengh and KT to her in droves………….

    You see me as a friend so i shall give you a friendly tip.

    Exercise does help one to look youthful and pretty but that’s not enough. That’s one habit one has to cease and desist. Many, when they dont hv anyting to do or anyone to disturb, start working their fingers into their noses for some kind of orgasm, starting from the tiniest last finger and graduating to the thumb. For sure, one spotting thumb-printed nostrils cant look too pretty, however forgiving a critic you may be…………

    F

  9. Norhayati,
    I’m glad you enjoyed reading this. I actually wrote it down to add to my own ‘memoirs’ hehe. Then I thought of putting it up here.
    How is the reading getting along? Any more new books? I haven’t read anything much recently but now I’m in a writing mood, hence the wedding description.
    Cheers. :-)

  10. Catherine Ho. Glad you found it interesting. Hehe, he has a younger brother but he is still very itinerant. Still not thinking of settling down.
    Cheers :-)

  11. Hi MaryC,

    Definitely a very exciting time of your life, marrying away your daughter. So, you gain a son-in-law. And, at least, you now have the necessary experience to go through another for your second girl.

    Congratulations.

    Terence Seah

  12. Hey Mega,
    thank you for your appreciation. Yes, I think it’s very rare that there’s a wedding like this. That was why I wanted to share it with everyone.
    I don’t think I have met you yet and I hope to when I return from Ireland.
    Cheers :-)

  13. Tim,
    did you just call yourself an ‘insect’?? Hahaha.
    You can be quite gross sometimes, talking about finger up your nose etc. Yuks!

  14. “No need to feel sad………..In fact, you must be very happy, as you have brought her up, gave her education, and now she is happily married. What more can you ask for?”

    Mega, you very the aslamak lah, you gonna make Mary cry from no noise to nosier than noise.

    Reason #1 : that her daughter is happily married. She can still remember what comes immediately after the wedding on the first nite….she hugs the bolster now and obviously she’s iasking for a lot more.

    “2 Irish, an American and a Sri Lankan, dressed in Mandarin hats and outfits, doing the haka. It may not be hilarious enough for Tim Liu” Of cos it’s not enough.

    Come the first Chinese New year and you’ll see these 4 merry men still dressed in the mandarin outfits, this time speaking not just Haka but also Hainanese, Hokien and Foochow, selling mandarin oranges……….lai ah lai ah, tng sua kam, jiat liao tua tua bum…………

  15. Terence,
    thank you for your congratulations and thanks for approving my post.
    Yup, I hope the second time round will be less stressful and even more enjoyable, hehe.
    Actually the excitement has already died down and I was feeling a little bored, so I decided to write about it in order to relive it some more.
    I have actually written quite a lot about my life and this will be added to my ‘collection’. Who knows? I might have the courage to publish a book one day? ;-)

    Cheers :-)

  16. Steven Chan,
    whoa! I haven’t become a ‘proud grand ma’ yet.
    I have just graduated to being a mum-in-law only. Of course I’m hoping to be one, soon, but just yesterday, my daughter said she was going to wait another year or so. :-(
    Must try to psych my new son-in-law to ‘sabotage’ her plans hehe. Wicked eh?

  17. Hahaha Tim.
    “tng sua kam, jiat liao tua tua bum…………”
    So I presume you must be feeding your little girl a lot of ‘tng sua kam’?

  18. Congratulations on your wedding ?

    Uhhh… I thought that you were getting married. Problem is that I read posts in the reverse order with the latest first.

    How about the photos. You can post it and link back to us.

    Have a fun holiday in Ireland. A bit bleak at that time of the year.

    Nothing much to do except to get drunk in pubs. And don’t forget. Avoid telling Irish jokes in an Irish pub.

    Try skiing up north. After two pints of home brew, you don’t need a slope to go downhill.

    Hee-hee

  19. Mary-C, I am a man and like most guys, hv seen all. Yes, it’d be nice if she is well endowed………

    KT, dont hv to worry for Mary lah. In Irsih pubs, she will tell them cantonese jokes in teochew and if they try to come near her, she will set up erp gantries so she’ll be safe.

    Jokes aside, if Patrick-K is reading this thread, let me tell you this : other than matching Mary in lines written, you too write very well. But there’s one difference : what she writes has a wider appeal than the sport of kings and the indukgence of bookies.

    We like to read all kinds, not least from a writer who pens good English.

  20. KTWong. Ah hahaha! My wedding?
    Oh yes I think it will be a little wet then, but no worries. There will be plenty to do and hitting the pubs could be one of them, hehe. Just for the fun of it lah. Will be meeting a lot of people I hope.
    Won’t be going up north. Any way, I don’t know how to ski. I can only slide down slopes.

  21. Tim,
    I’m not as well versed as you at telling bawdy jokes lah. Anyway, there’s already one who tells great Irish jokes – the groom’s father.
    Would you believe that his whole family are all teetotallers? Not a drop. I wonder what he’ll think of me ‘hitting’ the pubs, hehe.

  22. Hi Sis,

    I sure had a good time although very emotional one especially seeing Sherry now as a grown up and a bride. I still remember Sherry as the toddler I used to bring to the hawker centre with Michelle for their favorite haymee. Sherry looked so lovely and happy and I am very happy for her to have met her soul mate.

  23. “My wedding? Oh yes I think it will be a little wet then, but no worries. There will be plenty to do and hitting…..”

    Haha, Mary-C, you must be drunk to the core to write like this. Since you hv written thus, I shall analyse what you harbour in mind and will do in Ireland.

    Of cos you’ll hv to be wet, not at yr wedding but soon after and certainly out of the sight of the curious & humsup. But maybe it’snot as easy to get wet as a when you once were.

    And why do you think that KT will be worried? Or is he privy to something of you only he knows, and hence his worry? Got to ask him but he might heeeheee all his way up his Scorebot tree, still not telling.

    Finally, sure, you’ll hv plenty to do, going thru different styles & patterns but why “hitting” huh? Pumping I hv heard of, grinding too even doing the revolving twist but hitting……………….?

  24. MaryC, for a sec I thought wat… headlines Mary Chan’s wedding, for me it was speed or ‘skip’ reading! haahaha

    Congratulations! you’ve been promoted! It must be a Lovely wedding. Can I invite myself to watch the video clips with you? perhaps with some Irish stout and…. wanna share? I can wait till after your Ireland trip, by then, I hope I have more free time, too.

    I share your sentiments! that tinge of sadness now & then of not seeing your ‘babe’ in the house, her empty bed. Well, we, mothers must CUT the apron strings, easier said than done! mmmh. Time heals and she is nearby! Enjoy the times together plus the new addition to the family: son-in-law! The Chinese says when you marry off a daughter you get half-a-son! heehee

  25. Mary,

    Tell him the other half of the son is not complete until he treats you to a dinner at Fat Duck in Berkshire, UK. With its legendary tasting menu, it is the best restaurant in UK and the second best in the world after El Bulli of Spain. Booking is months in advance so do now.

    Then negotiate dowry.

    Hee-hee.

  26. Hey Girlie, so you have signed up. One word of caution. Whatever you write can be read by any and everybody, so be careful hor? Especially people like Tim, hee hee, who has the tendency to distort some of what you say into something bordering on distasteful, the ‘humsup low’.

  27. Christina Chan,
    Thank you for your congratulations and your consolation. Yes, we must cut the apron strings, but then, there are usually two strings right? So, can still keep one attached right? Hahaha.
    I was just told by my daughter that it was going to take about a month for the photos to be ready, jeez! So gotta wait hor.

  28. KT Wong, I won’t be going to Berkshire, only a day or two in London. I’ll be spending the last week in Ireland only. Are there any nice restaurants there?
    What the heck does El Bulli of Spain serve? Beef balls? hahaha. Anyway, he won’t be touring with me lah. He’ll be with his new wife in Ireland.

    “Negotiate dowry”? Are you doing things in reverse again? They are already married. I thought you should know as you must have been married at least once, hehe.

  29. Hi Mary, that was certainly an interesting and vivid writeup. If i were a resident there , i would be in my balcony watching the unfolding of events. Congrats. Soon you will get use to having one person less in your home. But maybe one new addition soon, you can never tell.

  30. Girlie, I boy boy, good boy boy so forget what yr sis has said, she jealous mah…..

    Charles-W, so you wished? In fact if you were there, you wd hv pulled a chair over to sit side by side with Mary-C when the tea ceremony was held and had yr foto taken. And then we might hv another couple made in heavens, after Girlie & Boy Boy………….

  31. Charles Wee, thank you.
    Oh yes, the haka drew a lot of attention. You are right. There is a new addition, my new son-in-law. Another one? Hopefully soon.

  32. Hee Tim. Me jealous of you? Why would I be? We are not competing for anything mah.
    Incidentally, that’s her real name. She was the youngest of the lot and the pet, so my dad decided to call her that.

  33. Mary @#31

    If they don’t drink they can’t be Irish. Must be immigrants.

    Dowry policy. Better ask late than never to ask again. You are giving her hand again. So what if you ask a second time.

    Do they have restaurants in Ireland? Here’s the 2008 best restaurant list
    http://www.theworlds50best.com/2008_list.html

    Survival strategy – Irish stew, Irish coffee and plenty of instant noodles.

    Hee-hee

  34. “She was the youngest of the lot and the pet……..”

    Ok, Mary-C, so you’re of this age and Girlie is of that age. Boy Boy is also of that age not this age so yes, you’re out of the competition liao.

    I love to keep pets and I am very good to my pets. Unlike Steven-C who spends $80 on water & shampoo for his pet, I bathe and shampoo together with my pet with no pre-set spending limit.

    So wannan be my pet?

  35. Mary Chan

    It is only your daughter wedding and there are so many comments & Congrats (haha).

    What will u see if “Mary Chan” announce her “wedding Bell is ringing” … can u imagine how many comments will be pouring into the SHC web ??? (haha)

    Congrat for the 1st promotion.

    karen

  36. Hi Mary

    Congratulations and welcome to the club.

    My best wishes to Sherry & Micheal :)

    You must be one happy mother-in-law.

    Enjoyed reading about the wedding party. Very descriptive and I can imagine all the things that went on. Your son-in-law and his friends are very sporting. I am sure many of your guests must have had locked jaws with all the fun and laughter.

    Must be packing and getting ready for round 2.

    Take care & happy holidays.

    Warmest Regards
    Caroline

  37. Karen-T, if She marries then you can be sure at least Charles-W will be very quiet in the forum. Why? Cos he’ll be too busy pulling a chair to sit on and waiting for the tea ceremony. He has already choped somewhere up there in this thread but fearing that Mary will pour tea all over him and peel him up like a mandarin orange, he will definitely call me to sit with him.

    Haha, not too bad, with tea to drink and someone, in full bow, coyly saying “Lo yeh, chang yum cha”………..

  38. Tim Liu

    “Lo yeh, chang yum cha”……….. with this phrase … u better know how to give a big ANg-Pow … this cup of tea is always very expensive (ha)

    karen

  39. Hi Mary,

    The greatest moment for a mother or parent is when someone compliments your child to have only all the good qualities you have. Heard also someone mistaken you for the bride for a moment till your daughter had to intervene, hymm really a limelight stealer as usual.

    But congrats all the same, and have a wonderful holiday and get your knight in IRish armour, and we can have more to talk about. Just dont forget to bring back some Irish Cream Whiskey, Cheers.

  40. Dear Mary
    Congratulations!
    I am so happy for you. You must be a very proud mother in law, beautiful daughter and a wonderful son-in-law too.

    Enjoy yourself in Ireland and have a good and enjoyable trip in Europe.

    Jane

  41. If Boy Boy is no good boy then Good Boy can never be a boy boy……..no wonder more of our young males are painting themselves up to be Gay Gays………..

    Karen-T, sure the angpow will be big, so big that you cant stuff all the bills issued by the currency board in it. So will write a cheque & date it 08/08/2034 so that she is worry-free at her age of annuity payout in the backdrop of runaway inflation.

  42. Karen Thio,
    Getting married again at my age is a daunting thought, but if I do, make sure your ang pow is also big big, hehe.
    Aiyah, only in my dreams lah.

  43. Ronald Wi,
    Thank you for the lovely words.
    limelight stealer? Where did you hear that I wonder? The bride was so gorgeous in her Scarlett O’Hara gowns, all eyes were on her.

  44. Oi Cheng, you are a genius!
    How do you do it? The photos are in. Thank you very much. :-)
    When I return in Sept. I will try and attend the IT courses and learn how to do such things.

  45. Hi All.
    Oi Cheng has put up a few photos of Sherry and Micheal’s Wedding. These are taken by amateurs. The professional ones will take much longer, about a month.
    I wish I could upload some of the video clips of the haka etc, but they have yet to be compiled into one album.
    I hope I don’t sound too much like a ‘proud’ mother ;-) but it’s not often that I can share a bit of my personal life with you all. :-)

  46. Steven Chan Says:
    July 22nd, 2008 at 10:45 am
    Hi all,

    ALAMAK! Another “Patrick Khoo” in the making

    Hahaa..well said, Steven..For the record, it is 1055 words, about 100 lines.

    I wonder what remarks Pat Khoo will get if he puts in photo of his horses.

  47. Daniel Chan.
    Wah, you took the trouble to count the number of words. No, I’m not ‘another Patrick Khoo in the making’. I’m as different from him as a rose is from a thorn.

  48. Hi Mary Chan,

    I had just went to yr daughter’s wedding photo album.

    Of the 3, you still look the best. You had the X factor. Sincere admiration.

    I would have nominated you for Miss Singapore if you were ONLY
    50 years younger. Ha! ha!

  49. Mary Chan

    Steven Chan give u such “beautiful” compliment , now u can get ready for your wedding already (haha).

    All SHCian have their “Ang Pow” ready and especial Tim – your “Low Yei” (haha)

    What he said is very true , u are very beautiful.

    Karen

  50. Hi Karen,

    …f u love a person, money don count…. u will buy what she like and she will treasure it for all her life.

    Really. Look what happens to Princes Diana and Prince Charles. He gave her the most expensive jewellery and look what happens in the end. Tang Poh . He marries his ex beau instead.

    Is this what we call LOVE ?

  51. Steven Chan

    Everyone see “love” in different way.

    Diana want her husband to be by her side but what Charles can give is only “material” . soooooo both are at the wrong concept of “love”

    Charles Ex Beau is so “Ugly” but he love her … what can u say ???? This is another kind of love.

    “Beauty & the Beast” is another type of love…

    soooo, all see Love in different way.

    I no expert …. u just have to love someone to know that “answer” (haha)

    Karen

  52. Mary Chan

    See what u have done by posting your daughter’s wedding photo.

    Steven Chan wanted to feel what is “love” all about (hahaha)

    Ma-Kapoh …u better start looking for a bride for Mr Steven Chan , height is very importation (haha)

    karen

  53. Hi Karen Thio,

    ….Charles Ex Beau is so “Ugly” but he love her … what can u say ???? This is another kind of love.

    Well, I can say that is TRUE LOVE. When you are really in love, the external appearance of the person such as beauty does NOT seem an important condition.

    What matters MOST is her HEART/FEELINGS towards you.

    If you hold/hug her hands/body and it is “ELECTRIFYING” ,as if electricity travels from one body to another then that is what I call love. It is only when couples understand /compromise that marriages work. Very often after a few years,the bonding becomes stale and loses its shine. That is when marital problems start.

    This is a SIGNAL when one of the couples should take the initiative to “IGNITE” the dying flames of love. Not just material things like sending flowers,remembering and celebrating her birthday etc…. .

    It is more than just that and most of the time you should be around to see to her/his needs.And that is why in the marriage vow , the priest always remind the couple tying the knot to LOVE one another in times of SICKNESS and HARDSHIP and till DEATH do we part.

    Some marriages FAIL because both couples are busily earning $$$ and had NOT much quality time to spent with their spouse or their children. But do they really have a choice ?
    The standard of living is getting higher and is more expensive to live in Singapore.

    If the woman can really understand and SATISFY the emotional needs of the man or vice versa, then they will NOT “stray” around to find another woman/man for lust NOT LOVE to gratify his/her desires. Even when he/she does it , he/she feels guilty or feel difficult to do because there is no real love for that woman.

    Any comments ?

  54. Steven Chan

    Whatever u said are very true and u express it very well cos u are a teacher (haha)

    It take two to make a marriage work…If only one party struggle to “Ignite” the dying flames of love….do u think it will work????

    There are so many divorce cases increasing in the past year…. who can u blame ??? The woman or the man …(haha) we cant comment on that and I also beleive that no Tom , Dick & Harry can comment on any broken marriage or broken relationship… only both u/stand what is going on

    Karen

  55. Hi StevenC, and everybody,

    MaryC has shared with us an exciting event which is her daughter’s wedding. These are happy moments. I encourage other SHCians to share their life’s moments with other SHCians too.

    I guess it will be appropriate if you or anyone can start another thread to discuss the other side of marriage. At the same time, let’s be open and yet be sensitive over the topics. Views need to be respected.

    And MaryC, by the way, I had been looking at the pictures, and I noticed you look as youthful as your daughter.

    Terence Seah

  56. Terence,
    Thank you for stepping in. This was a very special occasion for me and I wanted to share it with everyone. I didn’t quite expect the remarks made by Steven and almost wanted to blow him to Kingdom come, but for your intervention.
    Thank you for your compliment too. :-) I try to stay happy and now believe that one’s happiness is made by oneself.

  57. Karen Thio,
    We are both in the same situation and we understand. No outsider can know what’s happening or has happened in a marriage and give judgement, especially one who has never been in a marriage before.

    For those who are curious about who that person is in the photo with me, that is my ex husband. We have called a truce and have made the occasion a success. We have had our problems and our differences but we have now become friends and have agreed to disagree.

    So let’s just view the photos and enjoy, ok? :-)

  58. If we want to post something here, we must be prepared to accept criticisms, as well as compliments. This is what a forum is about. True words are not always sweet but I believe we are all mature enough to accept it. Sensitivity however, is the concern and I agree with Terrence that it is more appropriate to start another thread to discuss about love, or the loss of it.

    My mother is celebrating her 82nd birthday next month. I may want to write a post here on her life history, starting from the time she came here at 16. Some photo will be included. Wonder what the reactions will be. Well, at least she is above 45.

  59. Daniel Chan,with reference to # 65 66 and 68

    It’s ok if people want to pass remarks and criticisms.If the criticisms are constructive ones, then they are acceptable.

    If they are irrelevant to the post and merely made out of personal frustrations or sarcasm or cynicism or just to blow some hot air to show how knowledgeable they are, then they should do it elsewhere, as Terence has said at #71.

    If the person doesn’t like what the post is about, then he can always NOT open it to look. No one is forcing him to look. I only wanted to share my happiness with those who wish to do so with me.

    Regarding your post about your mother, that would be a very interesting one indeed. I would love to read it. I have written quite a bit about my life, from childhood till now. So, go ahead and do it. :-)

  60. Hi Mary Chan,

    Perhaps,you could have MISSED this comment and apology.

    …Mary Chan and Terence S , it was NOT a deliberate attempt to pass our comments abt. LOVE in Mary’s thread but I think both of us were ” carried ” far away.

    V. Sorry. No harm meant and Mary you can keep SMILING
    as you always does. :)

  61. Hey! Mary,

    Thanks for sharing with us your daughter’s wedding photograph. I really enjoyed viewing those photo & totally agreed what Terence’s comment which you look as youthful as both your daughters, stay happy & look forward for the time promote to the young grandma.

    Cheers!

    Judy

  62. Judy Lim,
    Apologies it should have been “I’m”
    We can hope to be grandmas but it’s not up to us really. I hope my girl and her hubby will make me one soon. ;-)

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