Each year, some of us may have difficulties getting our children to sit down for a reunion dinner or even to visit family members in the evening because it’s Valentine Day. They have their own itinery; so it’s only right they go out fort heir own dinners.
I remembered for a couple of years, I was a similar problem to my parents. These old folks just didn’t know what’s Valentine Day. So, as the years passed, the event became more meaningful. We planned elaborate dinners, maybe with steak and wine. Then, we brought along the misletoe. The years continued to pass, and maybe we got married, or we just find another mate.
For many of us still, Valentine Day is still meaningful. Our kids may give us roses, "Ma, I love you. Thank you for the many years, you looked after us." Once in a while, not every year though, I would sneak a few stalk of roses to that sweet young girl in my friend’s office. If she smiles back, that’s enough. Cannot take it too far. A little impulse is good. Why not, after all we are human. But, then, the brake should work.
Coming to over 45, I guess we become wiser. We see our children or grand children enjoy their Valentine Day. We sent roses to everybody in the office. No discrimmination. We think about our spouses, and say, "Let’s go out for dinner". Maybe, gather a group of friends, with candle light below the table, have a couple of wine.
Valentine Day is meaningful. Dont let the day pass without giving it some thought. Share with us, what are you doing for Valentine Day. It only comes once a year. Dont be shy.
Terence Seah
Thank you Terence for your Valentine post, I remembered last year I send you a Happy Valentine message and you send me back a dozen of sweet red roses via sms. So thoughtful and so sweet of you….
But….I encountered an embarrass situation whereby I send a valentine message to some SHC members (guys & gals) and the guys did not response to my message. I am curious and checked with my buddies…..and I had a good #@&%*1^# from them.
I thot Valentine Wishes are meant for good friends beside your spouses, children …… Well I am wrong, people might get the wrong message, so this year I am not wishing anyone Happy Valentine.
Terence, so how to respose to your post “One Valentine Kiss Please” hehehe…….
Ah Nee
Good morning Terence.
Valentine’s Day became a very meaningful day for me, when my older daughter, Sherry was born on that day. Prior to that, I didn’t even celebrate it.
It was actually a day for lovers but it’s now one for sending or showing ‘love’ and ‘affection’ to people we love or admire, even from a distance.
My usual practice is to get gifts for my loved ones and a special gift and a birthday cum valentine cake for Sherry. I used to take her out for a meal, but now, her husband does the honours.
I believe it’s frivolous to send Valentine wishes, ‘gifts’ etc to anybody and everybody. It becomes too ‘commercialised’ and meaningless.
Perhaps this special day could be a kind of ‘family day’ when love and affection is the main theme and not just for lovers like in the past.
Of course it will still be an occasion for a secret admirer to send some roses or to blow a virtual kiss to someone….. :-)
Valentine’s Day is indeed a very special day for me and it never passes by unnoticed. :-)
Terence
Btw, I tried logging in to the trial website but failed. Any reason why?
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Why is my comment “awaiting moderation”??
Terence, Valentine Day to me is just another over-the-top commercialized, Western practice that we have embraced. It’s a day out of 365 days a year when we are supposed to show our loved ones how much we love and appreciate them. What about the rest of the 364 days? :p
Methink the younger generation puts in more value to Valentine Day. Courting couples, newly married couples and maybe already-married-for-some years couples. We see more young people going the full works – roses, dinner by candlelight and a hotel room overnight stay. Florists, restaurants and hotels are always fully booked on Valentine Day.
I applaud your gesture in spreading the word of LOVE to include colleagues, family members and friends.
I wish everyone would make everyday a Valentine Day.
Cheers
Ros
Hi Terrence,
I’ve been one of those helping those who celebrate this day for awhile now – I deliver flowers on Valentine’s Day. :)
It kinda fun watching some of the reactions to the flower gifts. But some seem pretty jaded when they receive the flowers. How sad
cheers
I have never send flowers to anyone in my life. Now, I am planning to send them to my enemies. There are enough chemicals in todays flowers to kill if they smell it often enough.
If I send them to young girls they will call me ‘dirty old man’. If I send to mature women, they will think I want to marry them . If I send to my wife, she will send me to lunatic asylum.
Better if we leave the flowers to bloom and produce the next generation instead of letting women throw them down the rubbish chute and add to world pollution.
Is Mr Valentine a queer?
3 more days to Valentine Day.
Hi Tian Soo, sometimes I think like you too. Think about the many bouquets of flowers that go into the rubbish bin, once we delivered them. But, maybe you should try it again. Older men tend to get more attention. Try asking AndrewT to help you deliver on your behalf.
And, Ah Nee, I am still waiting for this year’s Valentine Day message. So nice of you to remember. But, now I have put a gold ring on 3rd index finger.
MaryC, enjoy your Valentine Day or dinner. Next year, I shall ask you to organise a Valentine night. It’s in my diary.
Rosalind, men are shy. They dont send roses. Within SHC, I hope the ladies will send the roses to the men. Why not?
Terence Seah
Yikes Terence
Don’t scare me off again lah.
Perhaps you should ask Andrew Thio or Ah Nee to do that.
Hi Terence…
I heard that in Japan, it’s the lady who gives out chocolate to the guy on Valentine’s Day… (^_^)
Better than roses, right ?? (^_~)
Terence
Something must be wrong with me. I get less attention as I get older. Sending flowers would only scare the women away.
Asking Andrew Thio to deliver for me is a bad idea. One look at him and the girls don’t care about me, the one who paid for the flowers. If I can find anyone uglyer than me in this club then I may try your suggestion.
Maybe I should go to Japan for the next Valentine day. I hear they don’t just offer you the chocolates with their hands.
Thank you very much for your contribution to the Valentine Day. I guess, Tian Soo, as we get older we may be less romantic and not so receptive to Valentine day. I wonder why it was not Valentine night.
Either most of us are shy, or we have to work on that day. Maybe, not enough time to rush home and buy our love ones the dinner or even to call AndrewT to deliver that bouquet of roses.
I remembered that in previous years, we had the same reaction and response to Valentine night and dinners. Very cold response. Dont waste money on roses or dinners. Well, I hope most modern SHCians will not just view Valentine Day as a western commercialised event. Rosalind, I am sure you are still as romantic as ever, especially after hearing you mention about your hubby from time to time.
But, funny, I was just having a dinner with a few SHCians this week, we talk about the many SHCians who love to sign up and learn to dance. So, many not so unromantic after all.
Let’s come back to this event next year.
Terence Seah
Dear Terence & all
I wanted to post this comments on valentine day itself but failed to log on to this post for the past 2 days, hence here it’s (i don’t want to wait till next year to comment! so better late than never)
On eve of valentine an SHC member thanked me for being their ‘match maker’ as they met each other at 1 of the gatherings i organised recently. Though it’s not entirely my credit, i’d like to tell all SHCians that you CAN & WILL find the loved one when you participate in its gatherings/functions/events!
so, HAPPY VALENTINE to all of you romantics in hearts…
(and to my dear friends, may your new love blossoms and last forever.)
Hi All,
2molo is what Chinese so called Cina Valentine Day n I had rec’d sum of Cina smses which I had sent 2 sum of members which I believed that they hv no problem in reading n understand them. However, I still felt that it will b good 2 include them here especially they r somehow related 2 the 11M Toto Grand Draw on Fri…
Sms rec’d as follows:
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Wahpiangz, took me almost half hour 2 pin this hor.. hope those reading it will enjoy… Cheers.. :) Dolly
Thank you Frisna.
There were 42 seats at that corner of the restaurant designated to SHC’s use for December 2010’s MGathering. After helping out, she chose a seat 1 away opposite mine at the same table. Anywhere else, we wd not hv spoken much. I wdnt hv walked to another table, parked myself there to chat.
And to think that just a week before the gathering, the response was lukewarm and was almost called off. So, another credit to you for your perseverance.
I aint easy to get along with. It wont be easy for her either but I think she has this knack to handle me. No manhandle but handling a man gently. Inside me, I hv this devotion.
Now, will MGatherings this Year be full house? Dont bet against it, haha.
To all, particularly to You and Peter, ??????????????????
If i asked someone to do up my house – paint the walls, add gold plated taps & toilet bowls etc – and he outsourced the painting job to another for $200 but charged me $20,000, I wont faint bcos I aint paying. Not even one dime.
Even if he managed to cajole the painter to agree to his mark-up.
Though the mens rea, or criminal intent, for cheating is probably lacking, morally he has a lot to account to me for, and to other unsuspecting customers he will definitely lay ambush for if he gets his way this time.
In a sales transaction, many would have scoffed at it as obscene profiteering. Any consumer watchdog will descend on him like a ton of bricks.
Some professionals shamelessly step on the same platform. People who already earn big bucks, seen as honourable and the ordinary folks look up to them with respect.
I vaguely remember of a Code some swear on and by. The Hippcrates Code reminds of kindness to people in need. Sadly, another Cdoe – the Hypocrites Code – expounds of blindness to greed……..
With money, one can buy a Valentine’s Kiss. But an hounorable man wont offer the buyer his lips; at most, the 2 sides of his butt fresh after a bowel exercise.
Hi Tim liu @ 16,
I totally agreed with you. Being filthy rich and yet because of money, it expounds blindness to greed.
Steven-C, am pleased to see that you too agree with me.
Maybe we are getting close to a perfect wrold………a world of the best for the best—-a world dominated by dominated by Colonel Moo-a-mile Graffiti, Osomad being ladened with a mad passion to destroy, a dear leader who is born Ill and living up to his name.
Add doctors who have a penchant to doctor their bills and the 30-year old hero who beat and claimed both vitory and the life of a 2-year old girl, we hv almost a full complement of very exemplary personalities.
What a wonderful world it’s shaping up to be !