Why is it that some members do not join in SHC activities?

I am in Thailand this week.  Suddenly the country is very optimistic.  High pay for degree holders.  Incentives to control inflation.  More education grants.  Tax reliefs.  Gosh, enough to give the economy a good kick start. After 10 years, the rains are here.  More rains.  But, unfortunately, too much, the rivers are over-flowing too; and North Thailand has begun to flood.  Soon, Central Thailand and today even Bangkok is worried it will have floods.  Luckily I am on a high floor.  I remembered one year, I woke up only to find my place surrounded with water.  But, I do have something serious on my mind.

1.  Once in a whiile, we must reflect on why we have so many members, and yet they do not join us in its activities.  Have we missed out producing activities that do not meet their needs and interests?  Or is it because these members do not have the time and find the venues too inconvenient?  Or is it because some of our activities are expensive and not affordable?

2.  Sometimes, through the talk and chat on our forum, some members feel discouraged to participate or speak their minds because others are just too outspoken or critical, or just simply inconsiderate.  I guess we cannot control sexist talks; but let’s not belittle or downgrade other fellow members. The club was created with the objective of meeting just one main objective.  And that is to provide SilverHairs an opportunity and platform to meet new and more friends.  If you are one of those inconsiderate ones, I hope over time, you will speak with consideration for others.  Respect for other member’s views are very important as we get older.

3.  Another reason why some members do not participate is because they feel SHC is a match-making organisation.  Obviously, not and this has not been its objective.  However, it has been very successful in get members to get to know more friends.  We can tell from the little groups that have popped up here and there.  SilverHairsClub encourages couples to join in, singles, once again singles or married to join in.  We do strive on a variety of activities; and you will note from the EO activities that all events are aimed at getting SilverHairs to meet, interact and getting to know each other better.

4.  Negative thinking is a barrier to members who have good intentions.  We may be a senior SHCian; but that does not entitle us to NOT give someone else the chance.  We push and insist our way with our viewpoints.  Advise, support new members and give them a chance.  Your supportive words are seen around Singapore and the world.

5.  Sometimes, I am asked why I do not support Event Coordinators’ activities?  I definitely support all EO activities, which are strictly for SHC members.  In principle, I leave all EC events to the organisers.  This is because I am not familiar with the activity.  EC events are open to non-SHC members and at this stage, I do not have a strong opinioin on these activities.  However, if the EC organises such events for the benefit of members, and with a focus on SHC members, you can be sure I will give my suport.  If my thoughts are weird and unbalanced, please feel free to let me know.  Ideas would be great too.

6.  Some members have expressed to me that another reason for non-participation of some members is because we do not cater to the below 45, children and friends in particular.  I really do not know what to do.  I am not likely to change my mind.  But I am more than willing to hear you.  Maybe you have a point.

Is there something else that you know that we do not know, that keep members away from the Club.  Please share with us.  What have you heard?  You can bet I will consider your suggestions.

And, to those who are going to be negative, I am receptive to listen to you too.

Terence Seah

Author: Terence Seah

Founder

40 thoughts on “Why is it that some members do not join in SHC activities?”

  1. Hello All & Greeting,
    FRIENDS is what this site are all about, am I right?
    I’m new here and will try to read and understand all Posts and Comments.
    Terence, on this post, to used this words, “to those who are going to be negative”, should be uncomfortable.
    My motto, “We Share”.

  2. Dear Terence,
    Your write-up of 21 Sept makes interesting reading. There could be several reasons and it is good to bring this to discussion. However, we need to be careful in the choice of words. I have taken part in two activities and found the members very friendly, intelligent and considerate. Unfortunately, I am not able to attend most of the activities during the weekdays, due to work commitments. Perhaps in a year or two, when I put away my work boots, would I be able to participate in most of the fun activities and meet more warm members.

  3. Hi Terence
    There are many reasons why members do not participate in the club activities. One of them i am sure is apprehension.

    For this group of ‘silent’, apprehensive members, i feel we can do something about it: Organise an activity just for ‘new faces’ to attend. However there is one concern – how to publicize the activity if these ‘new faces’ don’t read the forum regularly? Hmm…

  4. Hi Winnie #2,
    I have always suspected that many members do not join the activities because they are busy working. But, since we dont keep statistics, we cannot be sure. But, as you have hightlighted this point, I tend to agree. Most members are 45, 55 and 62 are still working.

    Hi Jassmine #3,
    Calling members is one area we are not likely to do. It’s almost like MLM or direct selling. Resources may be another issue. But, let’s not give up the idea. You have something in mind?

    Terence Seah

  5. Hi Terence

    You want to know why some members do not participate in club activities. What I’m going to express is entirely my own opinion, after being a member since Oct last year.

    I’m working full-time but lack of time has never been an excuse for me. When I’m interested in an event/activity, I will make time or even take leave to join in.

    Jasmine Teo remarked that apprehension is one of the reasons but she didn’t elaborate. Shall take the liberty to elaborate. Even before we decide whether to attend an interested activity, we are already apprehensive about stuff like – what’s the group/people like, will I be accepted, etc. Like to relate one event I joined despite my apprehension (from what I heard from other members). True enough, a non-penetrative clique did exist and some ‘strong’ characters did dominated the group, making new members felt otherwise. Needless to say, that was our last time.

    I particulary like the Walk team. The team members do their homework well, are focused on walking & they are simple and non-gossipy people. By the way, Terence, you said you support all EO events but heard you haven’t attended one, & I have yet to see you at this activity (just teasing).

    In summary, we can’t please everyone, ultimately who attends what event comes down to, the birds of the same feather usually flock together (in interest & kind).

    Just being honest,
    LS

  6. Hi Terence,

    I guess this is as good as any other thread to write my message since you wondered about the many non-active members in the SHC.

    Though there is no requirement, no rule and no prescribed procedure for terminating membership, I hereby formally terminate my membership of Sliverhairs Club with immediate effect.

    I trust my personal information including but not limited to email address and any lifestyle interests, if they were captured by the databases when I participated in the past activities, will be deleted and henceforth should not be traded, sold, exchanged or used in any way, whatsoever.

    Thank you.

    John Seah

  7. Hi Terence, I am very new in SHC. So far I have participated in 3 activities in the 2 months period of joining.These are a night gathering with curry puffs, music and dancing at PL Kovan CC, Bishan Walk and lastly one-night in Chinatown also at PL Kovan CC.I kinda like the Bishan walk very much.Altho’ the members I met up with in the other 2 activities were also very friendly,I did not think that I like those kind of “party” functions where I find that getting to know one another is overtaken by eating and entertainment.
    As a rookie,I can’t help but noticed that the members who joined SHC for a longer time tend to talk more with one another than with someone new like me. However,it is not fair for me to think that they are not accepting me.I have to try a bit harder for them to include me in their group. I like to take this opportunity to say Hi to members I made friends with: Steven Loh, Jasmine Teo, Tim Liu,Peggy Tan, Oi Cheng, Dolly Lim, Caroline Gee and Lilian Teo and many more whose names I can’t recall but I can definitely recognise when I meet them again

  8. Have been busy and wdnt hv touched a silly topic like this if not bcos I see Wendy-K calling out my name. Silly becos what’s the use of finding a reason to grieve over this imperfect world and the even more imperfect worldlings?

    Wendy-K, glad that you remember me and thank you for supporting us at the Chinatown Nite. I noticed you.

    It’s natural that people say a louder and warmer hello to another whom he/she knows more than by name. But pls dont feel left out or out of place if it takes a bit of time for others to warm up to you, and vice versa. For me, I warm up fast, cool down fast and then retreat to a in-touch distance to enjoy the solitariness of watching others make the world go round, rounder and faster.

    And of cos there’s that strange factor we call affinity which one may have with X but not with Y.

    Whatever, do join and enjoy the activities you like. In Walk, we dont have to do anythg more than simply walk – and I like that.

  9. Hi Terence,

    I agreed with Jassmine Teo – to hv an activity just for new members so that they wl feel more at home knowing everybody is new. A suggestion – small pot-luck party, & when the food is nice, everybody wl be asking each other for recipes or where to buy from. Haha nothing like food to bring people together. Some regular members shd be around to introduce themselves too. Just my thoughts.

  10. Hi Terence,

    Philip & I joined SHC in 2006 before we became grandparents.
    We had enjoyed several activities.

    Nowadays, we seldom take part in SHC activities because we have to babysit grandchildren.

    Priscilla Wee :)

  11. I miss Philip. So he’s a grandpa now. He’s a great bowler, hopefully can stil find d time 2 bowl not washing diapers all d time, then 1 talented wasted but a new talent gained. But shc doesnt hold a competition for d latter. Or will it?

  12. Thank you Priscilla, Serene and Wendy, for your feedback. We would use your comments for future planning.

    Priscilla, many Singaporean SilverHairs are busy. Looking after grandchildren is one reason. They are always busy when their kids are working or partying.

    And Lydia #5,
    Making new friends is not always easy. Entering a group discussion can generate stares. I doubt you find this human activity difficult. Have you ever thought of doing an activity for SilverHairsClub?

    Terence Seah

  13. Hi Terence,

    My suggestions are:
    At every event, where possible, especially at monthly gathering, the EO should make an effort to introduce the new members to the group and if possible, get the new members to say a few words about themselves.

    Perhaps, henceforth, one requirement is to get all new members to attend at least one monthly gathering within the first 3 months upon joining, to get themselves introduced.

    All members present should try to meet the new members during the gathering and make the new members feel welcomed.

    JL2e

  14. Hi Wendy,
    Thanks for remembering me.. Hv been very busy with home-related issues thus din reli read comments from members till now. I do like your attitude of communicating despite d fact dat u only joined SHC 2mths ago.. Keep it up n hope 2c u around in other activities. Just continue 2 say hi 2 everyone u meet in any activities n I am sure dat u will hv more frens in time 2 come lor.. This was I did b4 in Y2005, now I had countless frens from SHC.. :)

    Jeremy, I am still looking for EO for October monthly gathering and your idea sounds good – Do you want to raise up your hand to be EO for Oct mthly meeting n I will definitely support you.. Hope 2 hear from you soon.. Cheers.. Dolly

  15. Terence

    We are Singaporeans. If you want more participation, give discounts, free gifts and lucky draw.

    Another way to do it is to have Orientation Party for new members. In this party you familiarize them with the workings of this website. Even those who are computer literate need to know the quirks of this system. Brief them on history and your golden rules. And off course they meet old and new members by open introduction or just snuggle in the corner.

    A goody bag will get many to join….for the goodies. You can always include your used condoms in the goody bag.

    Again, I talk only ah.

  16. Hi Terence #4
    There might be an EO willing to organize an activity for new faces. It might be a potluck as suggested by Serena (#10). Keep fingers crossed. :) (why doesn’t smiley appear anymore?)

  17. Hi Dolly,

    I’m an infant member. Thus not ready to be an EO yet. Please respect the many more senior members.

    Thank you for your offer.

    JL2e

  18. Hello Wendy

    It was nice talking with you at Kovan. We live a stone throw away from each other so we can always meet up for a kopi. I remembered giving you my contact details.

    When I first joined SHC, the first function I attended was the D&D. I enjoyed myself very much despite not knowing anyone, except for Dolly whom I had mistaken for an ex-colleague when i spoke with her over the phone. I made an effort to get to know the other members seated at the same table. I remember Lisa, Jie and Maria. Then I threw a little tea party for members who registered to attend and got to know more members.
    I enjoyed the company of some members who already has formed a clique but I hung around, made my presence known, join in their talks and laugh along with them. Very thick skinned and I was accepted into the group and we have become very good buddies. If we want something, we go and look for it and not wait for it to drop onto our laps.

    So I hope you will soon find friends who share the same interests as you and enjoy yourself in SHC.

    Cheers
    Carly

  19. Usually, I do not publish comments from members who have written to me via email. In this case, I thought it is good to let you know how one or some members may have felt as the reason why some members do not join in the SHC activities.

    “I did not want to write comments in the SHC Column to prevent some “people” from making comments on my comments. When you asked for comments, I hope that you are sincere and broad-minded enough to receive comments. I hope that what I am going to say is not disparaging nor intended to insult you or anyone. Before you invite comments, did you reflect on your own perfomance which might have caused many to move away from the SHC activities? Do you think that you have given genuine support to those who organised activities for the SHC at personal expense and NOT appreciated? Have you tried to prevent some members from meddling in activities organised for the benefit of SHC members? Don’t you think that you have a strong affinity for a group of members who seem to be getting all the privileges and limelight? Isn’t this the cause of the “cliques” that exist in SHC causing the new members to shy away. I still join some activities AFTER vetting who the participants are mainly because I don’t want to be embroiled with incorrigible recalcitrants. At my age I want to live out my remaining years with fond memories.”

    To the person who has written to me, thank you for the feedback. I welcome all comments, whether they are genuine, sincere or otherwise. Only with comments can we understand how some members feel. Since commenters make the effort to write the comment, it’s only right that we give the opinion or suggestion consideration. We never know, many members may have the same opinion.

    As to whether I have also given support to members who have organised activities for the members and not appreciated, I have to admit that I do not follow up on all activities. So, I may not follow up. I spend bulk of my time on travel and my family. You can be sure that if a member organises an activity and is not disapproved, that member or activity has my support. I am unable to show appreciation to all organising EOs in writing or verbal. As I am not present at most activities, it would not be fair for me to make comments.

    As to whether I have some affinity to some members, you can be sure that I do not stop members from organising activities for the benefit of other members. As long as the activity falls outside our club taboos, and as long as the member raises his/her hand, that member has my full support.

    I read this as an excellent comment. It’s not something that I am aware; but I hope to encourage more comments on “Why some members do not join in our club activities?”

    Terence Seah

  20. In response to this topic, I find it interesting that those who complained are those who hardly get involved in SHC events. It takes two hands to clap and it certainly takes effort to make friends.

    Some members are luckier because they were brought into SHC through their friends and they started off with having friends already in SHC. Most of us joined SHC without knowing a single soul but by actively participating in SHC activities over the years that we build up friendships along the way. We join SHC knowing full well that nobody (not even the founder) owe us anything but it is up to us to find friends our own way.

    As in any social setting, it is inevitable that cliques will form due to affinity and of course, they will tend to be more comfortable and familiar with people they know versus those they don’t as Tim Liu had so explicitly pointed out in #9.

    If, after being active in SHC events regularly and one still finds that people shun you, then perhaps, you might want to ask yourself why – instead of trying to fault others for your failure to be in sync with others.

    Unless of course, you are a natural lone wolf who prefers to be alone even in a crowd. There’s a certain beauty in being a lone wolf. They are not necessary shy people but are actually quite happy to be on the sideline observing others.

    Whatever induction / orientation programme can be had but the end result remains very much to the individual.

  21. Hi new members,

    Comment @ 22 from Lily Ho Willocq is also to reach out to new and old members By joining us in more events , you get to know other SHCians better based on the feedback of yr comments from Terence and I truly agreed with Lily Ho’s comment @ 22 in this post.

    ” Why is it that some members do not join in SHC activities? ”

    It is not easy to please all the members all the time. As an ex EO for several events in the past, I too experienced some of the frustrations I encountered when organising events from some ” niau” members who expected too much for the price they had paid for although I do it voluntarily for the interests of all SHCians at heart to have a good time for us to know one another better.

    Everyone has its own opinions . As a new member, you too had to make a ” little effort ” to gel with other older SHCians after your brief introduction.

    SHCians are by far warm and friendly people. :)

  22. Hi Lily #22

    Got ‘lone wolf’ watching at the sideline meh? Aiyoh! So scary! Little Bo Peep’s sheep all being scrutinized! Don’t want to have ‘lone wolf’ lah. Strong, silent Charlie Brown will be nice! LOL! just joking. :)

  23. Lily, nice of you to see me as only explicit when I was always bare when I see you.

    In a classroom, some pupils are favourites of the teacher. Some of us miught have grown up feeling that we were not our parents’ eye apples.

    Speak up. Write it out in this forum if there’s an Adam’s apple throttling you. You will find some people agreeing with what you say, and detractors as well. But if you had applied thoughts to what you said and wrote, you will be able to further explain yourself and defend your position. But if you’re so easily cornered then it only means that what you said/wrote was substantially frivilous that cdnt stand to the tests of comments.

    Good writing/typing skills arent important at all. Sam Huat has his unique style. Terence writes like a philosopher lost in the wilderness.

    For me, I hv no problem mixing and blending in with people but wd prefer to step aside once people are engaged with each other. I eoy being the lonesome wolf I am but wont hesitate to join in any fray when I sense some bullying.

    But of cos if I am the bully, pls let me know. I had bullied myself when I realised I had wronged someone terribly. I fasted for a day.

  24. Hi Jassmine
    No need to be afraid of the lone wolf lah. They won’t hurt you unless being challenged. The scary ones are those in sheep skin. Charlie Brown is nice but a loser. Harmless and nice but lack back bone so to speak. Next time if you are scare, just hold my hands. I’ll be your Bo Peep lor ….. Heehee

  25. Terence

    Good that you published the comment by the member who does not wish to be commented back. I respect that.

    This member made some very good points and you had answered as truthfully as you could.

    Totally understand the vetting part; I do that, too, as like this member, I do not want unnecessary aggravation (who needs it?) – a waste of my time, so to speak and yes, only want fond memories with the members that I consider friends.

    I concur with Lily’s comment #22, paragraph 4. Sadly, some people just don’t get it as they are too full of themselves and think the whole world, in this case the whole club evolves around them. A pure case of ME, ME and ME only.

    To me, Terence, you should not be concerned or waste your time on members who are here just to ‘showcase’ themselves and think they are doing us a humongous favor, whatever that is.

    People come and go for whatever reasons. Don’t have to beat yourself up over something that has nothing to
    do with the club. It’s just is.

    Members who are interested in any events or activities will join and if nothing interests them, just don’t. Simple.

    p/s Happy that Sweet Giraffe Steven gave his comment. Very rare. He shared his experience as an EO and is still very positive about the club. Nice.

  26. BACK from Guangzhou and now eat full very free. Terrence. I believe there is a restriction to anonymous writer in this forum. Any person who wants to put his/her view must be identified and be an approved member. Why then, do you quote somebody who is nameless? How do we know whether he/she is a member? The email was obviously directed at you so you should reply it exclusively. We all know that putting it on this platform for “feedback” invariably invites the usual commentators (including me). And, like all the previous questions, surveys, opinion-gathering etc there is no conclusion after the usual boo hoo hoo.

    Having said this, and since the email is aired, I shall say my piece. To the writer who had written discreetly to Terrence – and I hope you are reading – THE kitchen is a dangerous place. If you cannot take the heat don’t walk into the kitchen. If you don’t go into the kitchen, accept whatever is being dished out, even if you have to pay for it. If you don’t like the dishes, move on. No kitchen is going to change the menu for you, simply because the big boss is not the one doing the cooking, unless business is so bad that it has to close shop.

    One thing our anonymous friend had mentioned is that he/she is afraid of “merciless” comments. Take it easy – learn to whack and get whacked. There is no right or wrong amidst the din, just a matter of opinion albeit from the “vociferous” few. Nevertheless name-calling is something we should all refrain from doing. If there is a “lone wolf” on the sideline, there must also be monkeys, donkeys, snakes, pussies and beaches in our midst. For a start, could we have better decorum just like other respectable forum sites?

  27. 1) In principle, private emails should remain private. This wud be the minimum respect for the email sender & the minimum intergity expected of the receiver of the email, unless prior permission from the sender of the email have been sought to publish the content in an open forum.
    It would be scandalous indeed if what the men had whispered to the women in the bedroom are to be reviewed fully by the women in the boardroom, or vice versa.

    2) From another angle, if assuming Terence send a private email to this writer, & this writer publish the contents of the email in this forum, would Terence delete the post immediately if the content is not favourable to Terence? I suppose this is for Terence to answer. When Terence publish the contents of a private email, can the sender of the email delete the post? obviously not, the writer of the email can only send another email to Terence to protest the publishing of the contents. So when people come here, knowing that Terence has the priviledge of ownership of the blog, I think Terence have to be more circumspect. No offence meant, but I feel this is the very basis of how we should respect each other.

    p.s. BTW I’m not the writer of the email, hahaaha least the grapewine spin another chocolate sundae for us. hahaha. Just 2cts worth. cheers!

  28. Dear Terence,
    Having said what I’ve said #29, I believe you are a sincere man, but the net effect is that henceforth, no one dares send you private emails least they be published with or without their consent, you also loose the chances of hearing feed back via the private email channel.

    I also respect the way in which you answer the email’s questions as what GT has said ” and you had answered as truthfully as you could’

    Well this club is still evolving & if all’s well, it shud be for the common good. cheers!

  29. Hi Henry #30,
    All SHCians are free to send private emails to me. Generally, I discouraged this practice, and I do prefer members share their thoughts, views and comments on the forum. But, members can be sure I respect private mails, which are meant for me.

    Yes, I have picked one particular comment and share it with members. I felt the contents of the email may be one of the reasons why some members dont join in our activities. Before I did so, I had stripped off all references to the writer. Well, I put up only 80%, with respect to the writer. It’s the content that matters.

    Hi Daniel #28,
    The writer is known to me as a member. Sorry if I give the impression the comment was anonymous. I thought I would respect the person’s opinion.

    Many forum writers do speak their minds, and I am aware some new comers dare not budge in when there are other more experienced writers, especially those with firm opinion. This explains why I always ask forum writers to respect other members’ opinion.

    Have fun.

    Terence Seah

  30. Thanks Terence for your reply. Although I wouldn’t say I’m exactly convinced, but I sure hope this email writer do learn something from this . It’s good to keep ourselves active & learning all the time. Hahaha.

    BTW Terence, I’m still waiting for you to claim the lunch, just let me know when. Cheers!

  31. Thank you Terrence. I never doubt your good intention whenever you put up a post. However the approach sometimes may left something to be desired. Perhaps you could have extracted some contents (from the private email) that would serve as a lesson for others, wrote it in the reported speech and added some of your own remarks. Quoting lock, stock and barrel is tantamount to ridiculing, although I know that is never your intention.

    Henry, I think you have spoken for many, and you put it very succinctly. If this is FB, add another LIKE

    To our anonymous friend – I am sorry if I sounded a bit harsh on the kitchen heat stuff. We appreciate your concern and respect your wish to remain unseen, for whatever reason.
    Till we meet, take care. There can be fond memories at SHC.

    And allow me to advertise a famous quote (Eleanor Roosevelt)
    “No nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent”

  32. “BACK from Guangzhou and now eat full very free” hahaha Daniel, I like very much your humour.

    Thanks for your very kind gesture. It’s goodwill like yours that turn the merry world go round & round hahaha.

    If I’m not mistaken, we have known each other since 1993 or there abouts.

    Talking about ‘like’, the one thing I like about the ‘boys’ is that even after a heavy football game, with all it’s attendant horrendous ‘sliding tackles’, you are likely to catch them having a beer at the nearest beer station laughing away about those ‘fierce tackles’. hahaha

    I noticed that’s the same with the ‘girls’ too, the more there seems to be rivalry between them, and if you put them into a team to play netball together, the ice seems to melt away.

    That’s why I like to attend gatherings organised by nice SHCians where there are lots of fun games.

    Play together. Love together. hahahaha

  33. When I first join SHC, I was very impressed by the manner in which the Club has sustained itself. Terence has initiated this blog and make it open to all and sundry. You just need to sign up online without paying a fee and already you are introduce to a world of new friend and activities organise by the member for the member.

    In the beginning I realised that most events and activities put up by Terence are plan well in advance which give time for member to response and also to volunteer their time and effort. I guess Terence is too busy having to travel much and giving enough time for the family.

    One cannot deny that this Club have brought blessing and friendship and fun to many. Some have even paired off though it was not meant to be a single club. Yet, at the same time some have not found their niche and laments that some member are unfriendly and unapproachable, we just cannot please everybody!

    It take time to integrate into the club. Some of us are more outspoken than others. I think we do have matchmaker and befriender in the club to look serve this need.

    Coming back to why member are not supporting SHC activities. Well, all of us have different needs and value in life and if the activities plan is not interesting they will avoid. Some have their own circle of friend, some think it better not to leave the husband or wife alone to go gallivanting, some dun like the EOs and the list go on.

    The post put up by Terence was meant to invite comments to help improve the Club. Some of us have given very good suggestion, other have written to Terence by email. My take here is, have the gut to voice your opinions here on the post for all to know who you are. Put a face to your comment and see whether your suggestions can be improve upon. Dun be like a ‘voice crying in the wilderness’. Once we know who you are, it is easier for us to stand behind you and concur with you.

    It’s a known fact that in any organisation there bound to be cliques formed. Group are form because the member gel with each other and share common interests. Some member like to organize party for those on their mailing list which is well and good.

    My suggestion is try to take it on a higher level by getting more member involve. This would prevent some from wailing why I cannot be invited too.

    Too many other things to share but got to stop here.

    Dan

  34. Hi Terence

    Appreciate you always have the interest of all SHC’ians and reaching out to all members.

    I am one of the many who rarely participate in SHC’s activities though can be considered an old member. As most of the activities are on saturday which incidentally is also my personal activity slot.

    Generally feels all the members are nice and friendly where I met during few of the activities which I paticipate.

    Had participated in the walking group meeting likes of Christina, Charles, Conrad, Sally and lately during september walk Lydia. Also knowing people like Yew Kwong, Tim, John, Ah Nee, Judy.

    So far managed to sit down to chat with you during the marine parade gathering and with Charles after the september’s walk. I really enjoy the few activities which I had partcipated even though it takes time to know fellow members.

    I believe personal interest and the will to initiate oneself and wanting to be part of the groups comes from oneself.

    Lastly like to express my thanks to all the EOs whom organised the activities for the joy of others.

  35. Thank you Ah Lam for your acknowledgment. You too are generous with your friendship. Nice to have you for company. As well, i agree with you that the Walk Team is led by v good chaps who can always gather a bunch of kisses.

  36. Hi Everyone Who Spoke Their Minds (Online & Offline)

    Particularly impressed by the comments from Jeremy Lee (constructive comments), Dolly Lim (that’s why she is appointed Club Manager), & Caroline Gee (who has a big heart).

    In my SHC’s involvement, rest assured that I do strive to be as open, friendly and forgiving as I can be towards others.

    For the future, let’s all agree to disagree on this club’s site. My apologies if I have caused any misunderstandings along the way.

    Just Me,
    LS

  37. Hi Lydia

    Thank you for your kind words.

    Everyone should have their right to say how they feel. No hard feelings.

    Continue to enjoy yourself.

    Internet time running out.

    Cheers
    Carly
    Calpe

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