At the last SHC monthly gathering at Hans Cafe @ Great Eastern Bldg on Thurs, 17 Jan, I noticed there were 60% men and 40% women. There was no agenda, and everybody was free to chat and meet new friends. Joining the different tables, I hear serious chatter on work, business, online trading and outdoor activities.
However, for most other social gatherings, ladies usually form the larger pie. Their voices tend to be louder. The conversation tends on focus on dancing, afternoon tea meetups, sports, beauty ideas and quiet meet-ups.
Our membership has an approx 50:50 ratio. Anybody got any suggestion and feedback on how to create an environment for equal participation. To encourage old and new members’ feedback, please respect other members’ comments and opinion.
Terence Seah
Terence:
You ‘chiak pah kah eng ah?’ :o)
Ron
Dear Terence
The simple rule is,for example: if you wanna 50 participants, can be either new or old, set the limit of male and female to 25/25…………..
die, die, so equal lah.
Ronlai
Terence
Just a simplest rule abv Ron Lai’s one. Every male will hv 2 bring along a female otherwise entry will b refused. There goes e same 4 e females.
Final e sexes r balanced. Not 4getting U r oso no xception. Ur entry is approved if a female comes along.
Uhhhh..
Invite Mary of Perth’s blond builder. “How to build your own house in Sentosa and make $20 million for your retirement fund”
You’ll have to lock the doors and barb wire the perimewter to stop the gate crashing.
Hee hee
Okay, I’ve had my fun @ #1.
On a more serious note, I believe this has got to do more with understanding SHCians better:
1) the interests of SHCians of both sexes, and identifying the interests that tend to be shared equally between SHCian guys and gals, and
2) the type of company (serious, happy-go-lucky, etc) they prefer to spend time with.
This is where a database of sorts will come in useful (okay, touching on a confidentiality sensitive spot here). It would be easier to work towards equal participation if periodic activities catering to larger shared interests are organised, or have elements of larger shared interests incorporated in organised activities.
Its like getting to know what targeted customer segments want in a product, and incorporating the more salient aspects of their wants to improve marketability and demand.
Just my two Singapore cents.
Ron Koh
Hi Ron Koh, Ron Lai,
A little peep into the days before SHC was formed. At that time, and although we did not set a target, we were unconsciously thinking the group would be around 90% men.
The scenario changed. I got to admit it was a pleasant surprise to see so many ladies in the group, and active noisy too.
Now, the ladies have beaten the men in terms of numbers. Time will tell.
Terence Seah
Helo Terence..
the answer is simple..ladies like to meet ppl & chat for fun whereas u can see more guys at ‘money making’activities…naturally i guess man are more interested in serious bizness?…hhhmmm,is that why more ladies live longer than man? luckily we r active noisy & not nosy!haha
RonKoh @1..apa itu ‘chiak pah kah eng?’i only knew ‘chiak’ means eat?pls enlighted me,then perhaps i can elaborate when i know u cakap apa?
Yew Kwong @2..alamak!yr rule very susah leh..then we girls ‘chia lad’ everytime must find a guy..cos as u know..SHC guys are mostly very ‘shy’…they like to hide…u see at the danz class..man are so limited edition!apa macam? :))
Norlinda @ #7:
Literally translated, it says: “eat full too free”, i.e. after one has satisfied his need for food, etc, he does know what to do with his time.
Ron Koh
Men play according to the traditional rules : bring home the bacon.
Women stay at home, watch tv, play compuiter, get into internet and then……they discover SHC.
So, women eat the bacon at home first (maybe even take some to feed the hungry ones outside) and then go gai gai lor.
Come wkends, men are just too exhanusted to do anything than lying on the couch to sleep……..and dream of bringing home more bacon………….
To women, the beautiful world outside continues to beckon…………….
Tim, he…he…he….not quite right leh, yesterday evening, you were very relaxing at kembangan CC wat…perhaps dreaming of how to get the steps right or how to strike the jackpot. Which one huh?….. :)
Ah Nee
Well, ANee, I read that folks were there to learn how to walk alternating btwn toes & heels so curious, I went there lor.
Of cos relaxing ;ah………it’s not everyday you get to see silverhairs start learning to walk all over again………die die oso mus go……
Btw, funny to see one gal doing her up-skirts all the time; another, wearing 2 skirts………are most gals so like that one huh?
Tim, really appreciate that you make the effort to come for the last two Sundays.
We are still waiting for you to muster the courage to join us in the dancing.
It seems you enjoy watching us dance. Don’t know why some want to wear two skirts. Wonder what you mean to see ‘one gal doing her up-skirts all the time’. Btw, she not one of our dancers.
Dan,
sorry I didn’t go to the jam on Sunday. I was making fans! Will try and make it for the next one.
Well, well. so Tim was there. He must have enjoyed ogling all the women, especially the one “doing her up-skirts…” I wonder what that means too.
Dan, it’s really nice of you not to leave yr prodigal brudder behind. It was my pleasure to watch you folks danz & laugh, some sitting on the floor for better view of the steps execution, how the calves move, how the thighs swirl and how the hip gyrates, moving up bit by bit till the front-back front-back action of the head………(wished I cd too but must sign & pay)
What I lack isnt courage but cartillage so once my leg is healed, you’ll get to see my smooth heels, me fluttering like a butterfly but stings like a bee………
That gal………I was told……. it was red but I still had my investment on for the nite and so wasnt swayed cos it can be swei to look at things like that………….
Aiyah Tim, don’t beat around the bush!
If it red, it’s red. I can attest to it!
Hahaha, Dan Dan, I know you’re thrilled to bits by the color red and love to wear red (to feel like superman, yeah?) but I wasnt talking abt you………..and why told all that I beat the bush helping you to find that one you let slip after a hasty take-off, up up and away to the tree to join ah meng and her kopi chacha
Mary @ #13, will you too up-s if you had been there (more correctly, roll up yr pants as you dont seem to wear (or maybe dunno how to wear) skirts?
If not, heeee, you werent missed too much.
I was at the ground level k’ok, not cemented on a chair at the 3rd level studio to watch.
During 1 of my in-btwn-songs visits, I was told abt this TTL who liked to do the Crazy Horse kicking & sumokong’s somersaulting. But I had no such luck…..she was sitting with her legs crossed like a brownie’s knot, looking demure & coy…………altho I did get to see another red, hehehehe, he owned up in an earlier thread.
Tim,
Who says I don’t wear skirts? I do, but I don’t go around “up-skirting” (using your expression) and showing off my undies.
One moment you say it’s ‘sway’ (#14) and another moment you say you ‘had no such luck’ meaning of course, the good luck, of catching sight of something red (#17).
Don’t tell me you are one of those DOMs who get a thrill from peeping? Hahaha.
Wow Dan! You can attest to that??? (#15).
You peeped, did you? Naughty, naughty.
Hi Tim
Do you a SC to bail you out of the red?
You can cleverly represent self…….
Or, further upstairs, plead with CJ to send orange squash to refresh …….ha ha.
sorry at #20
Do you need a SC to bail you out of the red?
MaryC, getting on in years huh…..you cd hv said a lot less @#19 which can be abridged thus(without changing any of yr words) :
“Tim, Who says I don’t wear skirts? I do…….and showing off my undies….good luck, of catching sight ……get a thrill from peeping….Hahaha”.
Like this, you still hv the gumption to chide Dan? And can stil hahahaha?
Hahahaha, I surrender …………
AndrewK, if the SC comes, he too will come in red, a sawn-off of his pal the CJ’s pyjamas but then why do I need a SC? Heeee, pot-lick-ticks is long behind me and if anything, I’d rather wait for him to retire and then make & sell roti prata together, not challenging him and then get my underpants exposed…………btw, it’s not read, white satin, as pure as its wearer is.
Tim,
Aren’t we all getting on in age? There’s no crime in that.
How like you to misquote and take things out of context and twist them around to suit your brand of humour.
Of cos mary, we’re all getting on in age, and some like me, age faster, and some like you, age slower. Not fair hor?
Heeee, check thru it and you’ll not find any word\s added in by me hor……..just helped shorten it and brought out the thrust.
Surely you wont want to take a poll for my brand of humour insofar as this piece is concerned?
(Better run b4 you kick……………….)
Aiyah, Tim ah. You chiak pa sio eng. “Kick your what? a—?” Me going to work now. No time for your ‘humour’. Byee.
Hahaha, MaryC you didnt complete yr a- somthing b4 you rushed off to work.
I where got “abalone”………too expensive lah.
Curious, where can you be working at nite…….sin poh poh or seepaibo…….you really got me in a stupor.
Tim,
I didn’t mention meh? (Must learn to use such terms too).
I teach in the evenings lor.
Up to you what you want the a— to be. I do know though that sometimes you deserve to have yours kicked.
Terence, there goes the saying:- Never argue with a lady, you will never win them in the end, you have only one month, they have two. How can you talk them out?
Terence, correction from previous comnent:- You have only one mouth – they have two.
Paul @#29.
Glad to see you join SHC. You just add to our list of men. Come share with us your interests.
Terence Seah
Hahahaha, MaryC, the cyber you hv already frightened Paul so much that he lost his month in his mouth…
Ok, deal. You can kick my “a” but I wont do that to yr “a”………….
I’ll check around to see what people do with abalone other than putting it in a jar like calmex do.
Um Tim,
I don’t think Paul was referring to me. Right Paul?