Reminder on event at Paya Lebar/Kovan CC Countdown

Hi to all,
This is a reminder to those already purchased tickets for the countdown at the Paya Lebar/Kovan CC
that should you wish to add a few more tickets for your friends, please do so as soon as possible
as the management committee will close tickets sales come this Monday 22nd Monday 6 pm.
For your information 18 tables sold target metChristmas2.
You can refer to my previous post for full info. Tks and let’s countdown ten nine eight seven…………Happy New year soon
Take this opportunity to wish one and all A Merry Christmas,,,,,,,,,,, and a Happy New Year…………
EC : Jeffrey

Chinese New Year Fun party with EZ4U/GLAMOUR

EC : Jeffrey Gan

Time to let off your steam and lets celebrate the Chinese New Year
of the Sheep/Ram/Goat in Chinese Zodiac with a BIG BANG………..

Location : LE DANZ, 222 Queen Street, next to the Oxford Hotel
Bras Basah MRT is 2 minutes away
DATE AND TIME : 21ST February 2015, Saturday from 730 pm to 1.00 am
Highlights: Lion Dance, YU SHENG for good luck the whole year through
Professional LE DANZ In House DJ for whole night dancing
EZ4U live Band for 1 session 45 minutes Chinese New Year songs
in dance tempo for dancing and singing along
20 sponsored lucky draws
Door gifts
Besides YU SHENG, an additional 8 course buffet spread, with free flow of water

Maximum tables 12 to 14 sit down round tables to ensure big space for dancers to enjoy……
Full information on attached poster.
Further enquiries, do feel feee to enquire.

Coming :
1. Jeffrey Gan (x40)
2. Irene Lee (x 20)

Cheers! Jeffrey GanIMG-20141216-WA0000

SHC monthly gathering – Fri 6 Feb 2015

One of the most important activity in SilverHairsClub is the monthly gathering. It is an excellent opportunity for members to meet one another.

The key agenda of the monthly gathering is to meet one another, for all kinds of reasons and excuses. It is the after-the-monthly-gathering that is equally exciting. We leave it to you.

This time, we have a fellow member who has volunteered to ring the ship’s bell, and buy the first drink for all members who register for this event. We will work the details later.

The event will be held as below:
Hans Cafe and Restaurant,
Upper Pickering Street,
Near MRT is Clarke Quay
Time: 5pm to 8pm
Date: Fri 6 Feb 2015

Registration is required. Please bring along your home-made nametag. The drink voucher will be given to you, for registered members only.

Plse put this date into your diary. And on this note, and on behalf of SilverHairsClub, I like to thank the kind member.

Terence Seah

Like to Dance

I stumble across this article which I guess will generate some comments; No right or wrong it’s a matter of choice and opinion!

What men look for when inviting women to dance.
At dances, men gravitate to women who are easily approachable. A woman doesn’t have to be the best dancer, or the best looking, or the youngest and prettiest. Any woman can attract more invitations to dance merely by making herself more approachable. Here are 19 easy ways to do that.
I’m a man who dances often. Many of my regular dance partners tell me they want to dance more, but men don’t ask them enough. I know these women are good dancers and attractive to men. So I’ve started talking with them about how men select women at dances. Here you will find the best of the techniques I have discovered.
A few weeks ago I attended a large dance of about 300 people. One woman started the familiar lament about not getting enough dance invitations. So I briefly explained just three of the 19 techniques below. She didn’t believe they would work. I told her, “Go try it. I’ll sit here and time you.”
She did. I timed her on my watch: 22 seconds later a handsome man asked her to dance.
When the song ended, she rushed over to me, almost breathless with excitement, saying she’d wanted to dance with that particular man, but was too shy to ask him.
Your mileage will vary – I make no guarantees of 22 seconds every time. But from experience with many of my dance partners, I know that these methods are certain to attract more dance invitations for any woman.
I’ll start with how to dress for the dance. Your purpose is to be more attractive to men who dance, not just men in general. There’s a huge difference: If you want just any male attention, simply wear something that displays your belly button or your cleavage or your legs – and you won’t need to read any more of this. On the other hand, if you want men to invite you to dance, then you need to know what men who dance are looking for. Here are my four recommendations for what you should wear:

#1: Wear a single layer top.
Two layers of clothing slip and slide under a man’s hand on your back. That makes it difficult to lead you. A man with dance training will know this consciously. Other men won’t be able to say so, but they’ll have a ‘gut feel’ about it. So do not wear a vest or jacket or an over-blouse. You will carry a sweater, because dance rooms are usually very cool, but you won’t wear that while you dance.

#2: Avoid bare shoulders or back.
Yes, bare skin attracts attention from men. But after you’ve danced a little while, bare skin can feel damp and clammy to the man. Men who enjoy dancing prefer the feel of silk, rayon or cotton. Sleeveless is fine – and cool for you – but avoid dresses with open shoulders or back. (Unless at a very formal dance – where your purpose is to be seen more than to dance.)

#3: Keep jewellery to a minimum.
Long necklaces and big bracelets catch in clothing. Dangling earrings are distracting. Large rings can scratch a man’s hand. Men are aware of this. Wearing loads of jewellery is like a sign saying, “Stay Away.” So keep all your jewellery small and simple.

#4: Shoes are your most important accessory for attracting men who dance.
Men who dance will avoid women with the wrong shoes. Don’t wear sandals of any kind, or any rubber-sole walking shoes. Don’t wear ultra-high heels that have you teetering instead of dancing. Suitable shoes for dancing are flats, pumps or medium heels. They can be fancy – sparkles are fine. Just be certain that shoes are secure on your feet – not lose or floppy.
Now you’re dressed for dancing and you’re on the way to the party. Even as you arrive, there are ways to immediately make yourself more approachable to men. Here are four easy things you can do.

#5: On your way in, say “Hi” to many men you pass.
That’s all, just “Hi” – as you walk in from the parking lot, as you stand in line to pay, as you walk to a table to put down your purse and sweater, as you get a drink from the bar, as you walk to the restroom and back. Just a “Hi”, with a smile, to many men. Even other men – to whom you didn’t say “Hi” – will notice you doing that. That’s often all it takes for you to appear easily approachable to men, and for you to get lots of invitations to dance.
If you just say “hi”, you will be highly unusual among women today – in a positive way. At public dances and parties the vast majority of women avoid looking directly at men. If you simply say, “Hi”, and smile, you set yourself apart as a woman who is friendly to men. That’s rare in today’s social climate.

#6: Circulate (walk slowly) around the edge of the dance area.
Men who want to dance will stand near the dance floor. Simply say “Hi” to some of them, smile, and keep walking and circulating. The men who don’t or won’t dance will stay far from the floor, sitting at the sides, or congregating around the bar. Don’t waste time circulating there.

#7: Discover the ‘traffic lanes’.
As you circulate, look for where most dancers walk onto the dance floor. When the music changes, look for congestion, a ‘traffic jam’ of people in one or two areas. When you are ready to dance, you will come back to this area. Usually these traffic areas are the two front corners of the dance floor, but not always. Sometimes near the lobby or entrance doors. Sometimes next to the bar. When the song changes, determine the location for these entrance/exit ‘lanes’. They won’t be marked in any way – you must watch the flow of people between songs.

#8. Stand apart from other women.
A woman standing alone is – by far – most comfortable for men to approach. The quickest way to get more offers to dance is simply stand alone. Yes, I know, it is politically incorrect to ignore your ‘sisters’, but you must decide if you are there to socialize with other women, or to dance with men. Your choice. When two women stand together, men are reluctant to ask one of them to dance. If three or more women are standing together – very few men will approach. If a group of women is sitting down, then men conclude they prefer to be with other women, not to dance with men. Women sitting in groups get few invitations to dance. Men call groups of women “hen houses”. We avoid going into hen houses – unless we already know you or find you extremely appealing. So, circulate by yourself, go to the bar by yourself, go to the restroom by yourself – and you will easily make yourself more approachable than most other women at the dance.
So, now you’ve circulated and said “hi” to a variety of men. You’ve already made yourself easily approachable. I bet that by now you’ve already had more invitations to dance than most other women at the party.
Still, there is more you can do to make yourself highly approachable. If you love to dance, then I want you to have lots of invitations from lots of men! So, here are six additional ways get many more invitations to dance.

#9. Stand in the traffic lane area that you observed earlier.
As the music changes, go stand right in this area. People will have to walk around you to get on or off the dance floor. That is exactly what you want to happen. Of course, you are standing alone. Men will see you as a woman who is in exactly the right place for an invitation to dance.
Few women know about this traffic lane area. Fewer have courage to stand there as people are moving on and off the floor. But this is exactly where men who are dancing will be. Those are the desirable men for you: They are far more likely to invite you to dance than any of the guys leaning against the bar.

#10. Stand so your toes touch the edge of the dance floor.
At most dances, there is a proper wood dance floor, surrounded by a carpeted area with the tables and chairs. If so, stand on edge of the carpet, with your toes touching the side of the wood dance floor. Literally, have your toes touching the edge of the wood. Not one foot away, not six inches away – but toes touching wood. This sends a non-verbal message to men that you are available to dance right now. That makes you easily approachable. However, don’t stand on the wood floor. That signals you are waiting for a specific partner; that you reserved the next dance, and are waiting for him at that spot. So stay off the wood floor until you’ve actually been offered a dance.

#11. Hold your arms at waist level.
Keep your elbows bent so forearms are at your waistline – standard dancers’ ready position. Gives body language signal that you are ready to dance.
Do not hold a drink or anything else in your hands. Do not fold your arms. Do not let your arms hang down at your sides. Never cross your palms in front of your skirt. Just hold your arms at waist level with hands relaxed, perhaps fingertips touching.

#12. Sway gently to the music.
Move your body slightly, but noticeably, to the feeling of the music. Not full dance movements, just enough to indicate you are ready to dance. Moving to the music is one of the easiest, non-verbal signals any woman can use to effortlessly attract more invitations to dance.

#13. Look only at the dancers out on the floor.
Look as if the dancers are the most wonderful sight you have ever seen. Let your eyes shine with delight and excitement – even if your stomach is in knots from feeling exposed and nervous. Look as if you love dancing and everything about it.

#14. Do not, DO NOT, look at any men while you standing ready to dance.
Looking around makes you appear overly eager and desperate. Men tend to avoid such women. Instead, simply look out at the dancers already on the floor.
At this time, do not say “hi” to any passing men. Just stand patiently, and continue looking out at the dancers. Don’t look around at the band, or at the decorations, or at your women friends at a table behind you. Just look out at the dancers and let your expression show you are enjoying what you see. This gives men a chance to look you over. And that will make it easier for men to approach you.

#15. If a man approaches from the side, don’t turn to look at him.
A man with dance training will approach in front of a woman so she can see him coming. But not all men know this, and at a crowded party it often isn’t possible. So expect some men to approach from the side. When that happens, DO NOT look at him. Turning to look sideways makes you appear desperate. Just keep looking ahead at the dancers on the floor. You want to give a man the chance to look you over. Only when he touches your arm or verbally asks, “Do you want to dance?”, only then look, smile, and nod or say “Sure”.
If you use even just a few of these 15 methods, you will attract more men to dance with you. In fact, you’ll probably attract so many men that your women friends may not be so friendly after that evening. You’re on your own to handle that situation.
What if you want to dance even more? Is it okay for a woman to ask men to dance? Yes, in these liberated times, that’s perfectly fine. Almost any man will be delighted and complimented by any woman who asks him to dance. Men have been doing the asking all our lives. When a woman takes the risk of asking us, she immediately gets our respect and admiration.
If you ask men to dance, I recommend four ways to make it easier and more relaxed for you to do that. But first, you know that men sometimes get turned down when they ask a woman to dance. Men are used to being turned down by women. But women are not so comfortable being turned down by men: big fear of rejection. It happens. You need to be prepared for this fact. So, if you want to do the asking, here’s how to make it much more relaxed and far less threatening for you:

#16. Never ask a man to dance.
That’s right – never say to a man, “Would you like to dance?” or “May I have this dance?” If you ask, it puts him on the spot to answer instantly. He may be surprised that a woman asks, and may stumble and get embarrassed. No woman wants to risk causing that at a dance party. Plus asking is difficult for the woman, because there is that chance of being rejected. So never ask a man to dance! Instead…

#17. Tell the man you want to dance with him.
Simply say, “I want to dance with you.” Just that, in exactly those words. Most women have a lot of experience telling men what they want. And men are used to hearing what women want. So when you tell a man what you want, both of you are in socially familiar territory.
Plus, in the right circumstances, many men enjoy providing for a “wanting woman”. So to make yourself more attractive to men, simply tell them what you want.
Then it is up to the man to take action. The man might walk you out onto the dance floor right then. Or he might say, “Sure, later”, and find you later on. Or he might say, “Maybe later”, and not find you later, or ever. If that happens, you won’t be terribly embarrassed and neither will he.
If you are still not getting enough invitations to dance, you can..

#18. Tell several men at the same time.
Do you want to instantly make yourself highly attractive to lots of men at any dance. It’s this easy: Walk up to any small group of men you find attractive and say, “I want to dance with you … and you … and you, too!” Then prepare yourself for lots of fun. And be sure you are wearing comfortable shoes because you are going to be dancing non-stop!
Now, what if you really, really, want to dance with one certain man. Okay, here’s the method to use that he won’t be able to resist…

#19. Add a touch to your words.
Always use exactly the words, “I want to dance with you.” Then – as you say that – touch the man you desire.
Your touch can be to place your hand gently on his arm, or use one finger tip to caress the top button of his shirt – as you look at him and smile and say, “I want to dance with you.” I guarantee you will get a lot attention from that man!
So, now you know 19 easy ways to attract more men to dance with you. I’ve observed that a woman who is dancing is a happy woman. I’m certain that these suggestions will increase your dancing happiness.
If you use these ideas, I hope you’ll send email and let me know about your experiences.
Care to Comment on this article? Do you have 19 tips for men? Send them in!

By Dave Weston
Los Altos, California

Advent Reflections

The approach of X’mas and the New Year is a good time to reflect and soul search. This year has been mostly uneventful, with broken resolutions and a persistent reluctance to move out of my comfort zone. My plate was full and personal interests remained on the back burner.

Next year I hope to see some CHANGES. My plate shall be half full, thus giving me the time to pursue more deeply some personal interests and to build up a momentum for an exercise regime.

As we age, our priorities change and health becomes more important than wealth. Living with less becomes more attractive, hence becoming minimalist is an attractive option for me and I shall give priority to uncluttering next year.    

With these challenges in the offing, I look forward to 2015.  :)

Oh come, Thou Day-Spring, come and cheer /Our spirits by Thine advent here.”




First coffee chat in 2015 – Thursday, 8 January

jancoffee1   jancoffee3  jancoffee2  jancoffee4  Hello kopi kakis ~  Just a couple of weeks to 2015! Welcome to our first coffee chat in 2015… Details are as follows:

  • Date:           Thursday, 8 January 2015
  • Time:           2 – 4 pm
  • Venue:        Usual haunt viz: SingPost Building next to Paya Lebar mrt station
  • Agenda:      Anything under the sun except politics, XXX, MLM (taboos of SHC). Can have a sing-along if interested (although we have to keep our voices down)
  • Cuisine:      All types of food, beverage and dessert are available at this food court – You’ll get a 10% discount with the Kopitiam card

Come and have some fellowship and fun ~ a good time for retirees or the semi-retired to ‘wild’ away the time.  Chit-chat with friends (old as well as new ones), exchange views, sharing of jokes and have a good laughter therapy.  No charge for this event except ordering a cup of coffee for yourself unless you wish to indulge in the niceties available here.

Please register ASAP if you are interested.  You can either apps me or reply on this blog.  Thank you in advance for your support.


Gabriella, EO

Those coming (Event is strictly for SHC members only):

  1. Gabriella Chua
  2. Alice Tan
  3. Jazz Soh
  4. Lulu Kwek
  5. Alice Seah

Quotable Quotes:

“Some people are old at 18 and some are young at 90 … time is a concept that humans created.”

“The age of a woman doesn’t mean a thing.  The best tunes are played on the oldest fiddles.”

“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.”

“The older I get, the less I care about what people think of me.  Therefore, the older I get, the more I enjoy life.”

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

“Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.”


Let’s send our year-end greetings to one another. 2015 is coming

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Dear members,

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all members and families.

To many of us, this is the joyous time of the year. Weather is nicer, the mood is good, there is plenty of festivities around, bonuses if you are stil working and a new year to look forward to. Let’s look forward to our SilverHairs years.

Among some of us, we may be having a tough time, and may feel there is nothing to enjoy or feel good about. Perhaps, a loved one not joining us, a job lost, a sick family member or an exhausting retirement time.

Some of us may be looking forward to grand children running around, a move to another place to stay or… Aiyah, so many scenarios ahead of us.

Whatever, look forward, a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Share with us, so our friends will know to.

Terence Seah


Lunar New Year falls on Thur/Fri 19/20 Feb 2015. Let’s have feedback on what we shall have for a CNY event

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The Lunar New Year comes late next year.  But we have 2 weeks to enjoy this festive season.  We are now a few weeks away.  Let’s do some brainstorm on a big occasion to celebrate Chinese New Year.  Keep the ideas broad and Chinese,  No bad ideas.  Think of an event for at least 100 members.  Dont brush aside other members’ ideas and suggestions.

In the past, we had lunches, Dim Sum sets, buffet at a Jurong condo, ….   The more points you raise, the wider the ideas.  A Chingay show, a house party with majong and prata, an overnight somewhere, an overseas trip, a room at MBS.  Keep going.

Let’s use Dec 2014 to do some brainstorm work.  Be the first to raise your hand.

Terence Seah


New membership updates 2015

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Update 1:
In response to members request to allow for membership to the SilverHairsClub for those who do not have access to a computer, internet and email address, the Club will now accept membership as follows:

* Send a photocopy of the IC to an address which will be provided soon. A mobile tel number will be used to link to the membership.

Update 2:
Corporate membership will no longer be free wef 31 Dec 2014.

Inactive corporate members with no activities for members, for a stretch of 6 months, will revert to our regular membership. As with regular individual membership, promotion of corporate events or advertising will be disallowed.

Please take note.

Terence Seah


The Big 6 ‘O’

Dear Friends,
another year has passed by so quickly. I hope 2014 so far, has been kind to you.

Next year I turn 60. Its great to be able take what life has dished out for me. I am thankful for what I have, the experiences I have gone through, the trials & tribulations, the hard knocks and the willing shoulders, and of course the good family I have and the fabulous friends I have made at SHC. Some have decided that I am a bit.h and left but there are many who stood by me through the jolly good times and the not so good times.

It would be nice to to able to celebrate it in a big way. Like having a party with a “live” band with family and loads of good friends to share the special occasion. A mountain of longevity buns and a huge birthday cake! Yes, I am still a little girl at heart. Love my cakes and birthday parties!

Or simply sail into the sunset on a cruise and wake up early to watch the sun rise again on my birthday!

I have managed to strike some items off from my bucket list. Like going on a hot air balloon ride – awesome!!!, went on a holiday and sleeping in a hotel room on my own – for the very first time in my life. Of course I freaked out at the thought of “someone” sharing my bed or worse still “someone” sharing my mirror at night! My hair is standing on ends right now! And yes, every lamp in the room was turned on. Would love to go on a cruise – Mediterranean or Carribbean! Anyone who has been on these cruises, if willing, please do share some tips with me. Thank you in advance.

I have been thinking for some time now. Maybe its time to organise a talentime or a T-dance with our own members belting out songs of the 60s. With a “live” band like the RTS time. And we all go retro! No fancy food but just the good old fashioned sandwiches with ham or cheese and cucumber, fruit punch with slices of orange in the punch bowl, cocktail sausages with a cube of pineapple and cucumber skewered together on a toothpick, fried fish balls, chicken wings etc! Many members I know will turn 60 too next year. Wouldn’t it be nice?

Just a thought! Because its raining heavily and I love watching the rain falling down – therapeutic. Makes me feel nostalgic too…..

Listen to the rythm of the falling rain…..
Pitter patter pitter patter….

I wish for everyone, that you enjoy good health, good luck and happiness for the new year and the many more years to come!

Sat afternoon at Jayleen Hotel, Carpenter Street ~17 Jan 2015

jayleen hotel2  jayleen hotel jayleen hotel 3  new year 2015  SilverHairsClub shall continue to look for places where members can gather together, to get to know one another.  We shall make effort to enable Singaporeans, over 45, to meet new friends.

Two members, SS James Tan and Andrew Koh showed me the Jayleen Hotel at Carpenter Street to evaluate their lunch setup and facilities.  We found the place suitable for a Saturday afternoon gathering. The lunch buffet is reasonable, and workable.   There is also a cosy living area and dining area.  Convenient is the large carpark, just outside the hotel.

The hotel has a reasonable music system.  Although loudness will be limited because of closeness to the hotel rooms, we may be able to use the music system.  We can have slow or soft ballads, and old fashion singing.  We can also have our own musician, who would have to bring along our own keyboard or guitar.  Accompanied singing is allowed, altho we have to set the sound level to 3.  10 is the loudest.  I am thinking of some old school songs to agitate our school days memories.

If we start at 12nn, we can end around 4pm.  This would be a Saturday.  We are looking at a price level of $17 per pax.

  • date: Sat 17 Jan 2015
  • place: living and dining room of Jayleen hotel.
  • time: 12nn – 4pm
  • cost:  $17 per pax (inclusive of a buffet and coffee/tea till 4pm)
  • Music and low volume singng – we can plug into the sound system if we bring a keyboard and musician.  If you can help to liaise this part of the work, it would be nice.
  • Pl pay to POSB Current Acct 951-00428-6 (ref number and date of transaction to be indicated on this blog)

Menu is subject to change:

  1. Diced Chicken Thigh in House Special Chicken Rendang Gravy
  2. Sayur Lodeh (Mixed Vegetable)
  3. Battered Finger Fish Fillet, with Mayonnaise sauce
  4. Mixed Omelette
  5. One Green Seasonal Vegetable dish
  6. Popiah and Kueh Pie Ti Spread (self help)
  7. Mediterranean Cheese toast
  8. Cream of Brocolli and Potato Soup of the Day
  9. Dessert: Chin Chow with Natural Pandan leaf
  10. Coffee/tea

Please register asap.  Registration before 31 Dec 2014 gets a discount and pays $16.

Terence Seah

Those coming:

Early birds pay $16:

  1. Terence Seah, EO
  2. Rosalind Lee
  3. Gabriella Chua (Pd)
  4. Mary Chan    Steven Chan (Pd)
  5. Charles Wee (Pd)
  6. Joan Ang
  7. P K Liew (comments just released by system today – 10 Dec 2014) (Pd $17)
  8. Ah Nee
  9. Suzhang
  10. Gingko Tay (Pd) (Payment transferred from Lai Fong to Gingko)
  11. Lai Fong (Pd) (Doreen Tay)
  12. Veronique Lee (Pd)
  13. Joe Choo (Pd)
  14. Melissa Khng (Pd)
  15. Jazz Soh (Pd)
  16. Lily Ho (Pd)
  17. Susan CH Tan (Pd)
  18. Ann Lim (Pd)
  19. Anne Chee (Pd)
  20. June Chin (Pd)
  21. Catherine Koh (Pd)
  22. Lina Tan (Pd)
  23. Peng Peng (Pd)
  24. Andrew Koh (Pd)
  25. Robert Ong (Pd)
  26. SS James (Pd)
  27. Judy Lim (Pd)
  28. Ronald Lam
  29. Tony Ang (Pd)
  30. Mega (Pd)
  31. Bessie Lam (Pd)
  32. Lilian Teo (Pd)
  33. ChristinA Chan (Pd)
  34. Peri (Pd)
  35. Thomas Loh (Pd)
  36. Cat Ho
  37. Susan S W Tan (Pd)
  38. Irene Poh (Pd)
  39. Marg Tian (Pd)
  40. Shirleen Kao (Pd)

Wait List:

  • Steven Chan (replacing Mary Chan)
  • Doreen Tay (replacing Lai Fong)
  • Eyvonne Chew
  • Bernie Chung
  • Jenny Lee
  • Lydia Chin
  • Bobby Bok
  • Oi Cheng


Coffee Chat on Thursday, 4 December (Last chat for the year)

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Hi coffee chatterers!

Our last coffee meet for this year will be held on Thursday, 4 December.  Details are as follows:

  • Date:             Thursday, 4 December 2014
  • Time:             2 – 4 pm 
  • Venue:          Usual place viz: Foodcourt at B2 of Singpost Building at Paya Lebar (next to Paya Lebar mrt station)
  • Agenda:        No hidden agenda ~ just a casual chit-chat. Some singing of Christmas carols and other songs accompanied by uke.. (but we have to keep our voices down ..  haha)
  • Cuisine:         All types of food and beverages/desserts (just order your own makan)

All are welcome. It’s an opportunity to catch up with old friends as well as meeting new ones.  Just come for an afternoon of fun and laughter.

Wd appreciate if you could either apps me or indicate your interest in coming on this forum page.

Cheers & looking forward to seeing you……

Gabriella Chua, EC

Those coming:

  1. Gabriella
  2. SS James
  3. Jazz Soh
  4. Martin Han
  5. Nina Choo
  6. Lim Tiang Soon
  7. Alice Seah
  8. Kenneth Tan
  9. Jassmine Teo
  10. Ann Lim
  11. Lilian Koh
  12. Roy Koh
  13. Charles Cher
  14. Frank Kaw
  15. Mary Chan
  16. Hew Lee
  17. Tony Ang
  18. Angie Ng
  19. Roland Tong
  20. Roland’s friend (Loh)
  21. A friend (FL)
  22. Amy Ko
  23. Lina Tan
  24. Alice Tan
  25. Lydia Chin
  26. Ronald Lam
  27. Richard Lean
  28. Laura Wee



Quotable Quotes:

“Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events;  Small minds discuss people.”

“Try not to take things personally; what people say about you is a reflection of them, not you.”

“Strong people don’t put others down…. they lift them up.”

“Everyone has a friend during each stage of Life,  BUT only lucky ones have the same friends in all stages of Life.”

“Notice the people who are happy for your happiness, and sad for your sadness. They’re the ones who deserve special places in your heart.”


Hearing Aids

Dear all

Anyone here have experience purchasing a pair of hearing aids?

Yes I am looking for one for myself as I beginning to have hearing difficulties with High pitch frequencies.  I was told its better to start using it now as it will be harder to get use to it as years goes by.

I have tried the middle range by Simens and Banform both The Receiver in Cannal and Behind The Ear type.  I m looking for a pair which give less static and not too expensive to discard in case its like the pair of bifocal glasses which I have made but did not like using it.

Appreciate your comments or share with me via my email

Thank you

Reflection on 2014, Ushering in 2015

Has 2014 been kind to you? Which will bring about the famous quote ” Dont ask what the country can do for you but ask what you can do for the country ?
2014 has seen the spillover of the crisis from 2013 eg like Euorpean stagnant economy, maritime dispute in South China Sea and a host of
unsolvable or yet to be solved geo-political issue. 2014 has also seen the emergence of new global and regional issues, like the Ukraine, ISIS, Ebola, MH17 and MH370. Truly will the early the year attention grabbing missing MH370 ever be found or goes down as a greatest mystery in Aviation history.
What new issues or threat 2015 will surface.
On an individual level, how have you achieve your individual goals if you have set one for 2014. I have written off the remaining months
for 2014 and plan for 2015. .

Among my various goals, financial, social and health, the good life I am having have caused me to fail my health target relative to 2013.
Total Cholestrol is high, Triglycerides, BMI are off though marginally. A Fail is still a Fail. The various dinner outing by SHC, and various other communities is not helping with my diet
The month of Dec has heavy schedule of feasting. Thus got to excuse from being discpline for a while before I abstain from ”
Eating the wrong food for the wrong reason, especially paid for or free.

Noted that it is always the same few who air their opinions. Why are people afraid to share ?
Among the various way to prevent dementia which currently have no cure is to stay socially active.
It does not matter whether your opinion reveal you to be naive , biased, shallow or wise. It is more important to be heard.
That is how you learn

One important lesson I learned in my early working career is “it is not critical to know everything before starting on something”

Among the great quotes on leadership, a recent one by a Chinese political leader is
” If is not you, then who” It remind me of my MBA class day when the USA main professor tell the administration confidentially that we students
are better off not pursuing the degree when he cannot even get a volunteer to be the class monitor for weeks. MBA is meant to produce leader, he said
I volunteered and thus organized the trip to USA campus studies and also the grand convocation ceremony in Singapore.
I am still fond of those memories.

So for those introvert which I was before, start the 2015 with a resolution to be a more extrovert personality.
Live life with conviction, confidence and compassion.

I am looking forwards to 2015 where I embark on new projects and seeing my other project reaching maturity or closing. Especially to bring my health target back on track. For those who didnt do health check or screening because retired already, make it a 2015 resolution too.


Needed: Whistle-blowers

(In the light of rising numbers of unscrupulous individuals…)

The cheat, the corrupt, the evil…they are manifestations of the DARK side of human nature. It is not easy to be ‘good’ when the good ends up being victim; the vulnerable also needs protection against unscrupulous people. Justice is ‘blind’ and seems under threat by these dark forces….

Just when it seems the good in human nature is being destroyed, along comes the WHISTLE BLOWER to the rescue! The wrong doer is punished! There is HOPE for mankind!

The long arm of justice depends greatly on whistle- blowers. I hope our country enact whistle-blower protection laws soon.  Meanwhile while waiting, we can learn to blow the recorder, the harmonica, the flute… and of course the TRUMPET!  :)

elephantjumbo trumpeting!

Xmas Walk (19-12-2014, Friday – 6.30PM to 9.30PM)

It is the time of the year again where we will say goodbye to the current Year (2014) and welcoming the New Year (2015).

It is also timely to count our blessing year by year by meeting with like-minded people to cherish our fellowship and having a simple Christmas food court dinner together. As with any other years, this is a good time and opportunity to stroll, after dinner, along Orchard Road and try your night photography skills with your smartphone and/or camera. For those interested, please see details below.

Date: 19th Dec 2014 (Friday evening)
Time: 6.30PM to 9.30PM
Meeting Place and Start Point: Tanglin Mall Food Court (junction of Orchard Road & Grange Road). End Point will be at Dhoby Ghaut MRT Station.
1) Dinner before chat: 6.30PM to 7.30PM: for those who can come early, we can have a dinner together in the food court and getting to know each other better.
2) Fellowship: 7.30PM to 8.30PM: Chat at Mall (free n easy – form your own small group on per table basis). Share what you have experienced this year, your reflections, what you can do better,
3) Start walking: 8.30PM to 9.30PM: Start walking and picture taking.
4) For those who want to know how they can enhance their computer skills, please come a bit earlier, say 6.00PM or stay back in Plaza Singapura Kopitiem till 10.30PM.
Size of Gathering: Registration will close when 20 is reached. This is an EC (Event Coordinator) event.
SIWA (2013)

Those coming:
1) Charles Wee
2) Gabriella Chua
3) Winnie Tan
4) Maureen Lee
5) Grace Kang
6) Joan Ang
7) Leon Lau
8) Peter Loo
9) Laura Wee
10) Dorothy Low
11) Serene Low
12) Noelle Tan
13) Moon Wong
14) Eyvonne Chew
15) Christina Pan
16) Lily Lim
17) Irene Poh
18) Lina Tian
19) Marg Tian
20) Irene Chua
21) Dorine Tan
Registration is now CLOSED.



  •  Of late the SLS has surfaced into the Singapore limelight drawing comments from ministers and the public. Many opinions have been expressed in the social media majority of which showed indignation against the dodgy retailers. So much so that it was blown out of proportion.
  • To be fair, scams do happen in isolated cases at SLS. But how these retailers have been able to survive for so long in spite of its notoriety.
  • The culture of doing business at SLS is unique and is different from most other shops like Challenger and DIY. SLS is able to attract a certain group of customers. There are reasons for this phenomenon. The retailers offer a wide range of electronic goods and spare parts. The salesmen  are not always there to scam a potential customer and they are not stupid. They are also keen to make a sale if they can make some profits.
  • But SLS is not a place for those people who are gullible. They must know what they are doing
  • Here is an anecdote:  Many years ago I bought a AKAI video recorder at SLS. Before I went I checked out the price at a legitimate electrical shop in HDB heartland. I was surprised that SLS shop quoted a price at about 250 dollars cheaper. But the salesman told me that it was an export set and warranty would not be included. I accepted the trade-off which proved to be a fantastic bargain. I used the set for many years. Except for a minor repair, the set is still in working condition.
  • By the way, scams are everywhere, it does not matter whether you are in Barcelona, Paris, New York, New Dehli, London or Hong Kong.                                   Robert Ong




Local Excursion (an excuse to catch up lah!)

bus cartoon

Outram mrt signboard

Chee_cheong_fun wheatgrass


UPDATE NO: 5 (2/12/14)

Meeting Time:     8.45 am.   PLEASE BE PUNCTUAL.   BUS LEAVES AT 9.00 A.M.                                             SHARP.

Let’s all gather near the control station of Outram mrt station.   When you see the sign (above photo) you know you’ve landed correctly, lol!  Just remember it’s Exit A.

Just a couple of things to bring along to make yourself comfortable:

  • Bottle of water and Umbrella
  • Foldable bag/bag pack (for the shopaholic)
  • One small but useful detail – Hook (I know it’s old fashioned, but it’s practical!) – haha this is a shopping trip, betul?
  • Anything else?  Hat?

Have a good laugh, bear with me, folks – This EO is too detailed!


Dear Friends,

Are you in the mood for this?   Finally the time has come.   Year end season seems to put one in a better mood, so let me try and do something good. Not surprising, I suppose – I’m kinda used to this kind of job for SHC lol!

Here are the details:

Date: Saturday, 6 Dec 14
Time: 8.30 am to 4.00 pm
Meeting Point: Outram MRT station

  1. Chee Cheong Fun factory
  2. Ointment Factory
  3. Lunch
  4. Wheat Grass & Mushroom Farm
  5. Vegetable Farm

Charge per pax: $6.50 per pax.
Number: 30 pax

Lunch is at our own expense.

I remember I went on this trip a long time ago, and the chee cheong fun was the most fun thing that I picked up which was the best purchase cos it was relished the following morning for breakfast, and this stayed on in my mind until now!

Ok that’s all for the moment, rushing off for my lunch. Thought I’d rush this off first – hope to get the trip confirmed asap.

You can sign up now but I’ll need someone to be Treasurer.

By the way, the coach company says the stops can be subject to change without notice – in case there are unforseen changes to the places of visit which are out of their control.

Thank you.
1st Update 13/11/14

  1. Closing date for registration is 22 Nov.
  2. Need to get 30 paxes @ $6.50 each. If group is smaller than that, regret the company will not be able to proceed.
  3. Places will be reserved to people who have paid, preferably immediately (after I’ve given the bank account number); If no payment made by 19 Nov, places will be given to non-SHC participants.
  4. Please register asap – I will reserve for the first 30 only. Dont wait until the last day so I can conclude everything in good time. Thanks for your understanding!
  5. Original quote is $10.00 per pax but after negotiation, they have lowered it to $6.50. They do not provide tour guide. I will lead the group.
  6. Appreciate if I can have a volunteer for Treasurer.  This is not a profit-making event, so I hope that someone will help to share the load.   Sorry about that, but I’m working full time so I hope everybody understands and cooperate and I’ll be very happy to do more events if I get this kind of “goto royong” spirit.

2nd Update 14/11/14

Hurry hurry, so cheap for a whole day of “jiak hong” – better go before the coach towkay changes his mind about the charge for the next trip.  It’s true, I paid $340 about 10 years ago when I organised this for my friends.

The suppliers (usually wholesale) charge less for organised big groups going so we’ll get double bonus for this – cheap fare, cheap shopping, haha….

Treasurer, treasurer, where are you?

3rd Update

Excellent.  We’ve got 33 registered which include 3 non-SHC members.   Dolly, thank you so much for your great spirit of coming forward to be Treasurer.  Now, we can start the ball rolling with the collection, so we’ll wait to hear from Dolly.   Please try and pool together at least 3 – 5 shares per transfer if possible because it’s such a small sum per pax, and Dolly will just have to track fewer entries in her account instead of 35.

4th Update

Hello, it’s me again.    it’s countdown to this Saturday, time to come out from hibernation and get back to work.

I’ll be going to Outram mrt station this evening after work to recce the bus pick-up site and let you know exactly where it is near Outram mrt station.

Let you know tomorrow,OK?  Cheers!


I can have 2 more SHC members to round off to 35.   Payment made is non-refundable, I hope you understand.

Thank you folks for your speedy registration.   Cheers!

Susan CH Tan


SHC Members (many thanks to the Early Birds!):

  1. Susan CH Tan – pd
  2. Moon Wong – pd
  3. Gabriella Chua – pd
  4. Caroline Sit – pd
  5. Richard Wong – pd
  6. Tony Ang – pd
  7. Clara Chay – pd
  8. Marge Tian – pd
  9. Veronique Lee – pd
  10. Wee Chin – pd
  11. Seok Cheng – pd
  12. Yatsing – pd
  13. Irene Poh – pd
  14. Shirleen Kao – pd
  15. Lina Tan – pd
  16. Lee Ah Nee – pd
  17. Suzhang – pd
  18. Dolly Lim – pd
  19. Renee Leong – pd
  20. Lina Ng – pd
  21. Hou Chong – pd
  22. Myra Chia – pd
  23. OliviaRos Jiang – pd
  24. Simon Wong & – pd
  25. Pearl – pd
  26. Gingko Tay. – pd
  27. Joan Ang – pd
  28. Andrew Yeung – pd
  29. Caroline Gee – pd
  30. Eliza Chua – pd
  31. Bobby Bok – pd
  32. Lily Lim – pd
  33. Clara’s daughter – pd
  34. Victor – pd
  35. Joan’s nephew – pd
  36. Grace Kang – pd
  37. Lai Fong – pd
  38. Susan SW Tan – pd
  39. Caroline Loh – pd
  40. May Ng – pd
  41. Pow TK & – pd
  42. Helen Wong – pd




Monthly cycling – 20 September 2014

Hi cyclists

We will be visiting Seletar Hotspring.

Date : 20 September 2015
Meet : Yishun Dam
Time : 1600 hrs.

Things to bring : face towel, extra clothing’s and some eggs(optional)

I will be cycling from Tampinese to Yishun Dam, those who want to cycle with me to the meeting point at Yishun Dam are to meet me at Sengkang East Way in front of Compass Point at 1500hrs



Monthly walk: 8Nov14 Sengkang to Punggol Waterway

Posted on behalf of Ms Mary Tan…..

Date : Saturday, 8 November 2014
Time : 4.30 pm
Meeting Place: Sengkang MRT, Exit D
Duration: 2 hrs
ECs : Mary Tan and Christina Chan

Pleasant walk along the water-themed park connector, enjoy the greenery. Along the route, look out for
biodiversity life – the majestic Grey Heron, migratory Little Egret and our resident Collared Kingfisher.
perching on trees. Butterflies may be spotted around plants found along the area.
Do come join us!

Note: Bring water, caps, umbrella and wear comfortable walking shoes.

Our Walk Team ECs: Christina CL Chan, Charles Wee, Mary Tan, Veronica Wong,
Serene Low, Alice Seah, Jeffrey Lim, Azhari Cuttilan, June Koh, Judy Lim.


1) Mary Tan
2) Christina Chan
3) Serene Low
4) Alice Seah
5) Azhari C
6) Alice Tan
7) Lily Lim
8) Gabriella Chua
9) Lee Ah Nee
10) Bernice Chung
11) Dorothy Low
12) Andrew Koh
13) Judy Lim
14) Janis Han
15) Jennifer Soh
16) Suzhang
17) Anna Seet
18) Margaret Soo

SHC was down since last Thursday; it’s now back!

Dear members,

Last Thurs, was down, and members were not able to access the Club.  The IT engineers, the software suppliers and our hosting company believed our website had been hacked.  A few files which were key to getting the forum running were deleted.

Every week, our system and data files are automatically backup while we sleep. Over the last week, we had worked with various groups, and finally last night, the software guys restored the full database, accurate as of the last backup.  Whew!

When our system and database were down, we had broadcast to members via Whatgsapps what had happened.  However, some members did not received the announcements, and were lost as to what had happened.  Please check that you have +65 94894360 in your Whatsapp contact list.  My understanding is if we have your mobile tel number and you have ours, you should have received the Whatsapp messages from us.  Did you?

Other members resorted to Facebook to keep contact.  SilverHairsClub facebook is available at

And finally, some members have asked me for the contact telephone numbers of other fellow members.  The Club maintains the same policy since 2005 that contact details are confidential, and will not be released by the Club to any member. Sorry, I cannot make any exception for anybody, even if the rain fails to stop.

Please help check if anything has been lost.

My apology for the breakdown.  Normal transmission can now resume.

Terence Seah

Raymond Final Farewell

Raymond Tang Chew Weng passed away peacefully on Friday October 24th, 2014 at home. He was born February 4th, 1948.

Raymond Tang

The wake will be held at Blk 729 Woodlands Circle until Tuesday October 28th, 2014 at 10.45am. He will then be cremated at Mandai Crematorium

Raymong Tang was known to us as one of a few SHC members who dedicated his own time and finance in teaching other willing members on golf. He used to spent many weekday evenings at Marine, Sebawaing and Mandai in sharing his golfs’ skills and knowledge with a group of SHC members. We hereby wish him farewell to a journey well travelled

Best regards,

Health and Longevity

A friend told me her brother- in- law (a Dutchman) is celebrating his 100 years old birthday soon. And this centenarian is as healthy as can be! What is the secret to his good health and longevity? I see much younger people already bedridden or needing wheelchairs.

What’s the use of living to 80s and 90s if one is suffering from debility? Hence I think it’s a good idea to ‘study’ the habits of healthy octogenarians and nonagenarians (or centenarians!) and try to uncover at least one thing that can impact health in old age positively.

There is a story in the *ST recently about a 99-year-old former principal who is still learning a foreign language. Every day he spends about four hours self-learning Italian. And he is so engrossed in his study he has no time to feel lonely. This made me conclude that serious learning will help keep dementia at bay. This is the one thing I would like to share with others and I hope to practice this one thing myself asap!  :)                              *Sunday Times 12/10




Do family duties make it difficult for you to pursue your leisure interest?

SilverHairsClub developed its main objective to provide a platform for SilverHairs, over 45, to meet new and more friends. Over the last 9 years, we get to understand our objective better, and whether it has served our efforts.


The Council of Third Age recent survey revealed that many Singaporeans who have left full time work are not able to fulfil their leisure interests because they need to look after their family duties first.


Grand children to look after, keeping the house clean, get ready homecooked food and caring after an ageing family member.  Are you one of those who are unable to participate in SHC activities because you have family duties to do?  What percentage of your SHC friends do you know fall under this category?

Or are you within the 36-45% surveyed that say your reasons for non-participation in leisure activities are due to lack of money or because of age?  The survey added that most seniors prefer to keep to themselvces after they retired and may lack the courage to proactively intereact with others?


Come share your thoughts, even if you have been inactive?  What do you think?  What about you?  Make an effort to share your thots.

Terence Seah

Coffee chat on Thursday, 13 November 2014 from 2 – 4 pm


novkopi3   novcoffee1  novkopi2

Hi kopi chatterers!

Time really flies ~~~ another two months to the end of 2014 … ooohlala!

I’m arranging our next coffee chat in November.  I’m trying a new day in the week .. Hope this is a refreshing change? .. Details are as follows:

  • Date:   Thursday, 13 November 2014
  • Time:   2 – 4 pm (on a lazy afternoon)
  • Venue:  Our usual haunt viz: Paya Lebar food court, B2 of Singpost Paya Lebar (easy access for everyone since it’s just next to the Paya Lebar mrt station and you’re well-sheltered from the station to the foodcourt)
  • Agenda: No specific agenda ~ can chat on anything under the sun  but no no to politics, sex, religion  (taboos of the shc: otherwise fairy godmother will come wielding a stick)
  • Cuisine: All types of food/beverages … just pay for your own orders… A Kopitiam card entitles you to a 10% discount.

Hope to see more friends joining in an afternoon of fun and laughter ya?  Wd appreciate if you could note this date/time in your diary or handphone and reply ASAP..

Thanks once again for your continued support.

Cheers & warm regards,


Those coming:

  1. Gabriella Chua
  2. Charles Cher
  3. Lulu Kwek
  4. Martin Han
  5. Chua Seng Chong
  6. Kenneth Tan
  7. Kristy Quek
  8. Frank Kaw
  9. Alice Tan
  10. Lim Tiang Soon
  11. Daniel Chan
  12. Raymond Quan
  13. Alice Seah
  14. Caroline Sit
  15. Amy Ko
  16. Jazz Soh
  17. Angie Ng
  18. Clara Chay
  19. Nina Choo & Catherine
  20. Ronald Lee
  21. Roland Tong
  22. Mary Tan (tentative)
  23. Jeffrey & Irene
  24. Meg
  25. Patrick Oei




Quotable Quotes (updated today ~ 8.11.14):

“In your day, surround yourself with people who love you, motivate you, encourage you and make you feel good about being You.”

“Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing and love what you are doing.”

”Never blame anyone in your life. 

Good people give you happiness.

Bad people give you experience.

Worst people give you a lesson.

& Best people give you memories.”



Spend the last 4 days of 2014 @High seas ?

Any interested member for a Penang + Port Klang  OR Penang + Langkawi  on 28th Dec to 31st Dec 2014 ( docking Singapore 31st Dec around noon ). We have amper time on board to hold discussion,chats, parties besides touring Penang for shoping/sightseeing. May be we shall also taste the soft shell crabs in Port Klang if available.

The advertised price for this cruise is S$ 507 excluding seaport tax S$98 pax on triple/twim cabin. I don’t like to pay this price and I believe you may want a bargain . Those interested can email : offering your ideal  nett price.  This service is valid until 19th Oct 2014 ( Will only extend if there are available cabins ) The capacity is 1400 persons

On Board SuperStar Gemini depart Singapore on 28th Dec 2014 afternoon

Tony Ang