Month: March 2011

Man’s night, Tue Apr 12, 2011

It’s been a long time since we had a Man’s night.  Guys, let’s have a session together.  For a start, I have to pick this date, so my apologies to those who would like to come but cannot make this date.  Please feel free to suggest a  place, preferably near a MRT station.  Happy hours would be great.

  • Date:  Tue, Apr 12, 2011.
  • Time:  6.30 pm to 9pm.
  • Place:  No place in mind yet; but a place with good standing room, and where we can stand and buy a drink of our choice.
  • Dinner:  Let’s not have dinner in mind, so have a snack or meal before coming.  Or buy whatever is available at the venue.
  • Fee:  No charge, but strictly Man only, and registered SHC members.  Everybody buy their own drink.
  • Topic:  Hmmmm.

Registration List (Those who do not register and turn up, please feel free to buy one round of drinks for everybody around):

  1. Terence Seah
  2. Thomas Loh

Monthly Walk schedule – Q2 Update

 
Walking is considered a good if not superior health habit!
Walking is Free and easy; need only a good pair of walking shoes!               emoticon

Q2 scheduled dates and for the rest of 2011:  on 2nd Saturdays/month

09Apr     Pulau Ubin (we did this once only in 2007)    Post  will be up sooooon!
14May    Zhenghua Park
11Jun     Punggol Promenade
09Jul      TBA
13Aug    TBA
10Sep    TBA
08Oct     TBA
12Nov    TBA
10Dec    TBC

*TBA – routes will be provided at nearer date.
**TBC – date to be confirmed in due time.

Details of each walk: Post will appear approx 2 weeks prior to scheduled date for registration.
Rain or shine, CONFIRMED walks will not be cancelled; unless inclement weather that poses danger!

Let the joy of doing a pleasant activity be there always!       emoticon

Till then…. stay Cool!  Be Cool!        emoticon

The Walk Team EOs:  
Charles Wee, Veronica Wong, Mary Tan, Jeffrey Lim, Joyce Tan, Serene Low, Conrad Tang                       and me, ChristinaCL Chan,,,,,,,signing off.

 

Dolly Lim takes over the role of Club Manager wef 1 Apr 2011

Dolly has accepted the role of Club Manager, and will continue so until Jan 2012.

The key role is to manage the social activities of SHC; with a focus on the SHC monthly gatherings.  Members with an interest to run any monthly gathering, should discuss directly with Dolly.

As always, Event Organisers and Event Cordinators should continue to feel free to organise activities of their choice and interest.  All subject to club rules.

For issues regarding your userid and user password to the SilverHairsClub.com, please refer directly to Yew Kwong, SHC website administrator.  Club membership approval will continue to be handled by me.

SilverHairsClub does not have a management committee.  For any event, the person responsible for the activity will be the EO or the Event Cordinator.  This system has worked well, and we will continue so for the future.

Welcome Dolly.

Terence Seah

Round Table – April 2011

After having a few sessions of the SHC Round Table I noticed that many are interested in business but have no prior experience. Thus our own Francis Mangalam has come to the rescue. Francis has been in the corporate world for the past 20 years with his own company providing accounting, secretarial, corporate taxation, financial reports compilation filing with Government agencies and other related matters.

He is more than happy to share his experience of getting started in business e.g what kind of business structure, sole-proprietorship, partnership or limited company, the pros and cons of each, liablilities of partners and directors etc. In short, the nuts and bolts of business.

Do come to this session of Round Table to know more. It will not be a formal talk but a casual discussion in the manner of the previous Round Tables. Of course, SHCian already in business are welcomed too, to contribute and to network.

Date : Tuesday, 5th April 2011

Time : 7.00 pm

Venue : Paradise Inn
             #B3-39/40
             313 @ Somerset
             (Somerset MRT Station)

As usual, we’ll split the bill at the end of the evening and it should be about $30/person.

Attendees :

1. Jeffrey Lim
2. Sue Chan
3. Francis Mangalam
4. Fred Heng
5. Terence Seah
6. James Tan
7. Andrew Koh

8. Rosalind Lee
9. Frank Kaw
10. Helen Goh
11. Jeffrey Fong
12. Eleanor Chan
13. Patrick Oei

Hit by tragedies beyound our control

Last Friday, Japan was hit by a big earthquake, a huge Tsunami and now a nuclear crisis.  This must be the worst disaster, in our lives.  Thousands of lives were lost; and the tasks ahead are mammoth.  We have all read about this tragedy in the papers, the internet and the television.  How fragile is life.  How unexpected can tragedy escalate to what it is now.  And, to our friends, our families, and to the people we do not know.

We have been around for the last 45 years.  What a shock!  Feel free to express your thoughts and your feelings.

Terence Seah

Attend a dating course

There is a WSQ course "Establishig and Managing a Dating business, coming up on 4 April 2011.  I had attended the course, a year ago, and I think it has been useful.  For Singapore, dating meets a national objective, especially for young people with busy work schedule and forgetting to start a family.  For singles SilverHairs, dating is the beginning of a new life.  If you are interested to develop dating as a service business, you may want to consider attending this course.

The course costs $321, and SilverHairsClub will subsidize 50%, if you complete 100% attendance, over 3 days.  The advertisement is published in Today’s STPage B18.

Interested parties, please email me before 20 March 2011.  There is an information session on 17 Mar 2010. A Blue Helmet project.

Terence Seah

Culturally chauvinistic male(CCM); Liberated Alpha female(LAF

 Dear friends

 A chance remark recently by a fellow member whilst we were socialising, prompted me to comment on the

above.

 The first Iconic CCM I came across was in the early 70s when the mahjong host(a friend’s friend) wife literally had to cater to the four players’ needs – preparing the table, serving refreshments and after we stopped by 5pm for happy-hour drinks, she had to walked up and down from the third level as the elevator stopped at the 5th level(Stirling Rd, Queenstown flats) to cross the road and buy Or-luak, chai-tow-kuay and rojak and two bottles of stout and mind you she was mid-way pregnant with her first child.

 After serving us the food as well as getting the utensils, she had to wiped off the iced-water stains spilt earlier by her husband and minutes later to mop off some chilli sauce carelessly spilt by yours truly.  The host had discouraged a friend to render assistance with the remark "not to worry…..leave it to her…….

woman’s job".

 My take is up to the mmid-70s, a woman when admitting she had a husband which has turned out to be below par, would console herself with the thought "Well, its just my hard luck, but at least I have a family and children.  Just look at Ah Choo, approaching 30 like me, in fact some months older than me, and still with no prospect in sight"  But two decades later, this below-par husband would have been chucked off,

"Good riddance!"

Increased intellectuality and economic independence means the female’s attitude and mannerism now do intimidate some "lacklustre" males.  Parental influence to some extent navigate one’s selection of absolute pragmatism.  "He smokes, you smoke……..who is going to stop smoking if you want to have a baby next time"   "Son, I don’t think you can afford her, she’s a single child you know, chauffered throughout from young"  "Your wife will still be working after marriage…..so, no need to serve you coffee, even once in awhile?"  "Yes, you’re lucky, he’s well-off, but see that his mother in future don’t "lord" over you, cause rich women tend to ‘knuah suay simpu boh lew’.   These were comments I overheard at my family’s clan- gatherings through the years.  Perhaps, Peranakans tend to be more concerned over their childrens’ marriage selections.

 My take is unless one upholds the thought that "man is meant for procreation" then pragmatism will prevail. 

 Regards

  Abel Tan

Small Tote Bag from Jeans

Hi 

I will be giving one lesson teaching demo/sewng a lovely sweet tote Bag (view video attached) from old Jeans.

This will be a Hand-on Project , I will demonstrating the very basic step to sew a bag. Once u know the basic step  , u will be able to create any bag of your own design with your old Jeans.

No sewing machine  is require for this simple tote bag , as far as u can thread/hold a needle and sew a simple button , u will be able to handle this small project.

Come down and have some fun together  and at the same time we can have "Hi-Tea" after the session.

I have only prepared 10 sets of the materials for this class , so interested party , please register here.

Video link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hd9ycKZbv-0

Venue : "Bra" Cafe (Shenton Way MPH)

Date/Time : 2/April/2011  /  1030am – 1pm

Course Fee : $15 ( Materials for a complete small tote bag)

                      (All prepared & cutted material are from New Jeans)

Materials to bring : small scissors , Needles (various sizes)

I only prepared 10sets of the materials for this event.  Interested members , please register here.

Karen Thio

Cfmd Coming :-

  1. Carly
  2. June Lim
  3. Irene Seet
  4. Lilian Teo
  5. Janie Leong
  6. Stephen Low
  7. Daisy Yeo
  8. Geraldine (From Hongkong)
  9. Eleanor Chan 
  10. Wee Chin
  11. Winnie K

Silverhairs Club Monthly Meeting – March 25 (Friday)

This meeting is aborted!

As Terence suggested, we will have a meeting where there is no chairs nor tables. This will give us more opportunity to move around and ensure that nobody is left out. Dun forget your name tags.

There will be an agenda, a time slot of one hour at 7.00pm-8.00pm will be open for member to share about how monthly meetings is to be conducted and what we hope to see happening in the Club.

Finger foods with free flow of coffee and tea will be provided. Bring your own liquor whether vodka or whisky or wine. Calling Bartender Ivan, come and concoct various drinks for us. There are two overheads projectors for us to use.

Venue: Ez4u Dance Studio, 169C Selegie Rd

Time: 5.00-9.00pm. Karoeke only start from 8.00pm-11.00pm

Cost: $10.00 per head to defray cost of rent and free karoeke.

Free Parking at URA carpark  next to former Rex cinema.

EOs, Dan n Jeff

SilverHairsClub monthly gathering – Thurs Apr 14, 2011

For April, I have set a date for Thurs, Apr 14, 2011, time late afternoon to evening.  Please put this date in your diary.

From feedback, Hans Cafe at Upp Pickering seems to be a good location and well received.  But, for this gathering, the hope is to do something slightly different.  in case, you are worried, the change will be very slight.  Well, maybe it will all be standing room, within an open area.  No dinner, but maybe some finger food.  Soft drinks, wine, if we can afford it.

The venue should not be a function room; function rooms are boring.  We cannot afford to have chairs or tables.  Maybe some dividers to demarcate a square, with a small entrance for us to squeeze in. Hmm, we will have a small registration team.  Maybe we have a mic to introduce the event.  Gosh, no singing, karoke and no dancing and no games.

The objective again is not to put our butts on the chairs or sofas.  Everybody walks around.  If you dont like somebody, you can just say you are going to the rest room.  The SHC name tag is compulsory.  If you are shy, just say "Hi, my name is Timothy Liu.  And what’s yours?".  If you are the "Everybody knows me" type, keep smiling.

Dress code:  Aiyah, no slippers, and remember "Just look good and feel good".

Strictly for registered SilverHairsClub members only.  No discussions on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM.

And the best part of this event is we haven’t found a place, near the MRT.  And what it will cost us.  Have fun.  And, you are invited to to give your thoughts, ideas and suggestions on how to hold such an event.  Oops, I thought I should be the EO for once.  If you like to help me, please let me know.

Terence Seah

A partner as we journey through our SilverHairs years

Today’s Straits Times carries a few articles which are very close to my heart.  They are articles on "Looking for Mr Right", "Single in Singapore", "Jumping in early" and ways to meet people.  I have always believed that having a partner and sharing our lives together, till death do us part is just as desired as the 5C’s or 6c’s that some of us search for all our lives.

I am also a believer that the older we are, especially when we are over 45, having a partner to share our joy, our sadness, our activities and hobbies, and our quiet moments, having someone to talk to, hug and kiss, and cry can be a nice experience.  Even though, these experiences may be the second or third time.

Although, in the articles, the focus was on the under 22s, the 29s and the early 30s, the objective is still the same for all ages; finding someone to be together for the rest of our lives.  There will always be some among us that will always challenge "why the need to", because they have good money, have got used to being single and enjoying their lives or they may have been pained at some stage.  But let’s not discourage the friends around us who may have been lonely for many years.  Living through our SilverHairs years can be lonely and painful.  We just have to find ways to overcome the journey ahead.

So, again, let’s help our single friends around us.  Dont, just go out alone with other singles.  Bring your friends along, introduce them and make that little effort.  Be positive, be encouraging and be active.  Be active and you will be seen.

If you have positive thoughts, positive ideas and encouraging words, do share with us here on this forum. 

Terence Seah