Are you happy for this Singapore man?

I have a story to tell.  Can’t resist sharing with you as I felt so happy for this man, and yet cannot imagine what this man and woman have to go through.

I just arrived at T2 today.  Was so thirsty that I decided to have a bubble tea outside belt 35. After ordering my favourite Al isan Tea, without sugar, and enjoying the pearls, I realised that there was this 50+ man standing in front of me, carrying a bouquet of flowers.  He was neatly dressed long sleeved and alone, pacing up and down the glass panels, peering at Belt 35 for someone he had been waiting for.  A man carrying flowers, quite a rare site in Singapore?  I guessed he was waiting for a lady.

10 mins later, he was joined by another men, slightly older and a lady, about 40 years old.  They too joined the first man, looking out for the same person.  After a while, I realised they were waiting for a lady, whom they likely know before, and probably it’s a first time for her, coming into Singapore.  From the conversation, loud enough, they had been waiting for an hour.  I could feel the second man was already annoyed and he said that she may have been stopped by immigration or customs, after all, it was her first time.  The first man obviously was not listening to the second man and the lady.  He persisted to look closer at the people around the belt.

Another 30 mins passed.  The second man and the lady, whom I suspect is the wife of the second man decided to leave.  But the first man stayed put.  He walked away for a few seconds, and then he came back to look through the glass. If my counting is working, he must be repeating these steps for at least 30 times. There was this feeling of pity in me, if he walked away and she arrived, or he waited longer and she never turned up. Finally, I saw him waving to the person he had been waiting for.  He tried to find the second man and lady.  But they must have left.

Although I did not dare to walk closer to him because I didn’t want to behave like a busy body, I could see the big smile on his face.  Now, this is when I couldn’t resist the urge in me.  I quickly finished my bubble tea, as you can imagine how difficult it is to suck in these pearls.  I followed him quickly to the exit to see him and peep at the lady from 2 metres away.  She was young and pretty indeed, I think around 25 years old, and very likely from Vietnam, as I had heard this language quite frequently.  She was dressed in a long colourful dress, with a slim fitting white floral blouse.

He gave her the bouquet of flowers, and hugged her many times, finally putting his hand around her shoulder, so intimately.  She was like a treasure to have for the remainder of his life.  And she too had a big smile on her, coming to Singapore for the first time and experiencing a new life in a foreign city.  Suddenly it daunted on me that she was half his age, and I wondered how the future would be like for both of them.  Right in my heart, I wish the best for both of them.  But, right behind my heart, I can imagine how tough going a life both of them would face.

In our national newspapers, we have always talked about this issue of Singapore men marrying foreign ladies.  My situation is no different.  I am not sure about them getting married, but seeing the big bouquet of flowers, and the presence of his brother and sis-in-law, the big smiles and the closeness between them, they could be or must be heading to ROM.

At the time of writing this post, I was actually on the train from the airport, and at Tanah Merah, the train stopped and everybody got out except me.  Few minutes later, I realised I was back at Changi airport.  I had to go back all the way to Paya Lebar MRT.

How do you feel for the guy and the gal?

Terence Seah

 

Remembering our mothers and what she has done for us

Today is Mother’s Day; and some of us may wonder why we have to remember and celebrate Mothers’ Day on this special day.  We should be celebrating this occasion any day or every day, and not just today.

Many occasions have become commercial events.  There is Fathers’ day, secretaries’ week, Valentine’s day, Lover’s day, etc ….  And, the restaurants are full, the hotels are busy, and the shopping centres are packed, but these occasions do help us remember the people we care and who have looked after us all these years.

We have lived many years, and still many more years to go.  Perhaps, you may be celebrating Mother’s day today.  Or your children may be celebrating mothers’ day for you today.  You got a present, maybe a new handbag, a new blouse, or a dim sum lunch at Golden Gate restaurant in Chinatown.  Or maybe, you got nothing, but a sweet call from your son or daughter from half around the world.

HappyMothersDay

Dont you think it would be nice if we can share what Mothers’ day mean to you.  Or what are you doing today on Mothers’ day.

Terence Seah

SHC monthly gathering – Jun 2013

We did not have the May monthly gathering because we did not have a volunteer to EO this event.  Quite often, the monthly gathering is held at Hans Cafe, Upper Pickering on a weekday.  The EO gets to pick the date.

Anybody like to EO this June event?  If we do not have an EO, there may be no monthly gathering in June.  Please raise your hand if you wish to EO the June event.  If you have not EO’d a monthly gathering before, please volunteer your share for the Club.

Terence Seah

2nd Men’s night, Tues 4 Jun 2013

Men’s night, Tues 4 Jun 2013.  Details of 1st 2013 gathering

  • 313 @ Somerset
  • Food Republic on Orchard Road, Somerset MRT.
  • Exact sitting location would be between Toast Box and Soup Guru.
  • Time: 1830 to 2100 hrs.

CLICK here to view PHOTOS
men's night

Our aim is to have a regular place, where SHC men can pop in and get to know one another. There will be no formalities. The Men’s night will be held on a weekday.  We will develop this event as we go along.

In all likelihood, we will not plan for food or drinks. Men will buy their own drinks and pay for the drinks as they are served.  This is to avoid complications of bill splitting.  Let’s make this a habit and procedure.

Please note the date. Thank you.

Terence Seah

Registration List:

  1. Terence Seah
  2. Henry Foo
  3. Tan Sim Seng
  4. Tony Ang
  5. Frankie Chang
  6. David Chan
  7. Jonathan Ong
  8. Steven Goh
  9. David Low
  10. Frankie Chang
  11. Gary Liew
  12. .
  13. .

SilverHairsClub.com was temporarily shut down yesterday

We had a spate of cyber attacks in recent days.  To prevent any damage to our documents and files, our hosting company has advised a temporary shutdown.  Luckily, the recent upgrade to our system has positioned us to withstand these attacks.  But, we can never be too sure.

Meantime, we will tighten and close some of our access to the outside world.  Members are encouraged to change their passwords regularly.

Apology for any inconvenience.

Terence Seah

Cabaret night 2013 (Taipei) Sat 20 July 2013 – tickets and sitting updates

Hi fellow SHC members,

Meeting musician Edwin with Judy Lim, Janet Chan with Mega and Terence.

Updates: We have the latest change with our  plan to have Edwin Chen as our musician.  Instead, we are now having Jeffrey Gan who will play the live music for us during the Cabaret night.

janet
Janet Chan
judy
Judy Lim

 

 

 

 

 

The latest updates include the sitting arrangements and the payment updates.

1.  Payment:  Barbara Lim has accepted the role of Treasurer for the Cabaret Nite event. This is her  first time taking on a role in SHC and she looks forward to members for support and encouragement.  Here are her comments:

The following are some of the ways you can help to make my task simpler:
* Make payment as early as possible, starting from tomorrow. You can make
payment to my account, details as follows:
Account Name: Tan Wah Cheng A/c # 020-013689-8
Bank: DBS Account type: Autosave
* Pay through Internet transfer, ATM or Quick Cheque deposit
* Please notify me through this blog once you have transferred payment so that I
can confirm receipt. Pl indicate the amount and mode of payment.
* If you are making payments on behalf of your friends, please inidcate all their names in your notification. Pl indicate if there are any non-members.
* Finally consolidated payments are preferred as it mimises the number of bank transactions.

Please feel free to highlight if I have omitted any pertinent points. Thank you for
your cooperation.

2.  The map of the lounge will be provided by Gabriella soon.  Details will appear soon.

Terence/Mega/Barbara/Gabriella

Payment registration (By Barbara):

  1. One-eye Terence Seah (Table of 9) (Paid)
  2. Patrick Oei (Paid)
  3. Linda Chua (Paid)
  4. Joe Choo (Paid)
  5. Veronica Lee  (Paid)
  6. Pearl Kwan (Paid)
  7. Simon Lee (Paid)
  8. Jonathan Ong (Paid)
  9. Eileen Ong (Paid)
  10. Gabriella Chua (Table of 11 for The Swingers) (Gabriella Paid)
  11. Edwin Tan (Paid)
  12. Philip Yeo Tiang Hai (Paid)
  13. Catherine Lee (Paid)
  14. Susan CH Tan (Paid)
  15. Myra Chia (Paid)
  16. Dan Huang (Paid)
  17. Susan Tan (Paid)
  18. Charles Wee (Paid)
  19. Ann Lim (Paid)
  20. Jeffrey Gan (Paid)
  21. Tycoon Big Eyes Tan Boon Liang (1st Table of 12) (Paid)
  22. Alice Teo (Paid)
  23. Sunny      (Paid)
  24. Bee Gek (Paid)
  25. Lam Hoy Tzee (Paid)
  26. Andrew Yeung (Paid)
  27. Geraldine Ting (Paid)
  28. Ronald Lam (Paid)
  29. Perilla Liew (Paid)
  30. Thomas Loh (Paid)
  31. Paul Kong (Paid)
  32. Peggy Kong (Paid)
  33. Karen Thio (Table of 12 for The Eastern Beauties/Handsome)  (Karen Paid)
  34. Janie Leong (Paid)
  35. Sally Kang (Paid)
  36. Pauline Khoo (Paid)
  37. Evyonne Chew (Paid)
  38. Lilian Teo (Paid)
  39. Helen Kuek (Paid)    Unable to attend
  40. June Koh (Paid)
  41. Catherine Ho (Paid)
  42. Pauline Ho (Paid)     Replaced by Richard Wong
  43. Malcolm Chen (Paid)
  44. Steven (non-member)  (Paid)
  45. Pearl Wong (1st Table of 11) (Paid)
  46. Frisna (Paid)
  47. Catherine Koh (Paid)
  48. Richard Ong (Paid)
  49. Shirleen Kao (Paid)
  50. Sarah Kassim (Paid)
  51. Freddie Liew (Paid)
  52. Tan Sim Seng (Paid)
  53. Robert Ong (Paid)
  54. Dennis Tan (Paid)
  55. Ronnie Sow (Paid)
  56. Tycoon Big Eyes Tan Boon Liang (2nd Table of 12) – Ann To (paid)
  57. John To (non-member) (Paid)
  58. Iris Leet (non-member) (Paid)
  59. Vincent Leet (non-member) (Paid)
  60. Mike Tan (Paid)
  61. Alicia Soh (Paid)
  62. Lai Fong  (Paid)
  63. Ivy Lim  (Paid)
  64. Ten Choy Leng (Paid)
  65. Janet Chan (Paid)
  66. Nina Choo (Paid)
  67. Lim Tian Soo (Paid)
  68. Suzhang (Table of 10)  (Paid)  Replaced by Sam Goh
  69. Lina Ng (Paid)   Unable to attend
  70. Jane Tan (Paid)
  71. Hou Chong (Paid)  Unable to attend
  72. Mega (Paid)
  73. Rene Leong (Paid)
  74. Lydia Poh (Paid)
  75. Lily Ho  (Paid)  Replaced by Peggy Yap
  76. Jway (Paid)  Replaced by Arthur Yap
  77. Chua Seng Chong (paid)   Unable to attend
  78. Pearl Wong (2nd Table of 12) ~ Judy Lim (Paid)
  79. Johnny Pow (Paid)
  80. Annie Pow  (Paid)
  81. Dorine Tan (Paid)   Replaced by Doreen Cady
  82. Catherine Yeo (Paid)
  83. Sally Tan (Paid)
  84. Doreen Lau (Paid)
  85. Ann Low (Paid)
  86. Jose Chew (Paid)
  87. Ron Wei (Paid)
  88. George Chew Paid)
  89. Lim Hoe Seng (paid)
  90. Pearl Wong (3rd Table of 11) ~ Lydia Chin (paid)
  91. Ronald Swee (Paid)
  92. Grace Wong (Paid)  Replaced by Robert Cady
  93. Bobby Bok (Paid)
  94. Bernie Chung (paid)
  95. Peng Peng (Paid)
  96. Bira (paid)
  97. Clara Chay (paid)
  98. Christina Tan PG (Paid)
  99. Calvin Chow (Paid)
  100. Barbara Ong (Paid)
  101. Tan Seow Mai (Table of 10) (Paid)
  102. Vincent (Paid)
  103. Theresa Seow (Paid)
  104. Audrey Wong (Paid)
  105. Terry Leow (Paid)
  106. Barbara Lim (Paid)
  107. Lynn Tai (Paid)
  108. Moly Quek (Paid)
  109. Kent Chan Yuk Lun (Paid)
  110. Christina C L Chan (Paid)
  111. Bessie Lam (Table of 6) (Paid)
  112. Andrew Tan (Paid)
  113. Vinna Tay (Paid)
  114. Hudson Swee Yew Siong (Paid)
  115. Richard Lean (Paid)
  116. Peter Tan (non-member) (paid)

 

                       ~ ~ ~      R E G I S T R A T I O N     IS    NOW     C L O S E D     ~ ~ ~

CLICK HERE to view photos  (part 1)

 

Charges: SHC members who sign up by 31.5.13 ~ $20;   SHC members who sign up after the closing date (31.5.13) ~ $25

Non-members will pay $30     

 

Seating Plan (approved by Terence Seah) ~ Click on the plan for a full view

 

Seating Plan 1

 

                                    

Men’s night, Tues 7 May 2013

Details of 1st 2013 gathering

  • 313 @ Somerset,
  • Food Republic on Orchard Road, Somerset MRT.
  • Exact sitting location would be between Toast Box and Soup Guru.
  • Time: 1830 to 2100 hrs.

We shall have a Men’s night on Tues, 7 May 2013, from 1830 to 2100 hrs.  We are in the process of confirming the venue, and shall let you know within a week.  To the members who have come up with ideas on the venue, thank you.

men's night

Our aim is to have a regular place, once every two months when SHC men can pop in and get to know one another.  If the venue is suitable, we shall carry on with the place.  There will be no formalities. The Men’s night will usually be held on a weekday.  We will develop this event as we go along.

In all likelihood, we will not plan for food or drinks. Men will buy their own drinks and pay for the drinks as they are served.  This is to avoid complications of bill splitting.  Let’s make this a habit and procedure.

Please note the date, and I shall announce the venue soon.  Thank you.

Terence Seah

Feedback on our Club software upgrade

Sometimes, you may find your dashboard too cluttered, as you just need to read the comments.

Do look at your screen options.  See arrow below.  You can choose what appears on your screen, especially if you just want to read the comments.

We have the latest version of WordPress.  This software is used by millions of users around the world.  It is also highly recommended by many hosting companies, including Network solutions, which manages global domain names.

For some reasons, some of you may have difficulties finding yourself around the software.  Others may find the new upgrade cumbersome.  Please keep trying.  Where we can find a solution, we definitely will.  No software is perfect.  Any changes we intend to make or improve do cost us time, money and effort.

I have come to be aware that some members complain behind the forum, and feel that we should not have gone ahead with the upgrade, without testing.  These members felt that we should have done complete tests before upgrade.  A lot of tests have been done. Unfortunately, these members do not offer any feedback during the test period.

These members also complain that we do not organise seminars to help members understand how to use the Club’s software.

It is interesting to hear that members complain that the upgrade is a waste of money, and that the costs should have been channelled to other uses.  At this stage, it is important that I highlight that members do not pay for the upgrade.  The upgrade was the result of feedback from members.
 
SilverHairsClub.com is maintained, hosted and managed at no charge to members.  Such words are not necessary.  To these members, please do not incite other members into using this example as to how badly the Club is being run.  I do not need to highlight who these members are; but you definitely can do a part for the Club.

Terence Seah

 

If you find your dashboard too cluttered

How to add a picture to your Post.?

A short video is available on the top left of SilverHairsClub.com website.

Click on it; and it will show how to upload a picture from your computer to the Post.  The video may not be exactly what you will see when you write a post; but it is quite close.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=wk0pKOt2tl8

Give it a go.

Terence Seah

How about an afternoon BBQ at the East Coast Park on a weekend? Sat 18 May 2013

During the earlier days of the SilverHairsClub, we had held a couple of BBQs at the East Coast Park.  On some occasions, the event coincide with the cycling activity.  On one occasion, it was a standalone late afternoon, and I remembered we almost had to beg the rain to stay up in the skies.

Perhaps, it is time to have another one.  Here’s the map.

bbqLet’s say:

We get the charcoal, the starters, the drinks, the water, the BBQ sauce, the plates, the fork and spoons, cups, ice, rubbish bags, the tissue paper from the shop, near Area C.  We have a reasonable charge.

We book two pits from the National Park.

We get to park at carpark C1.  There is an under pass to Marine Parade Promenade.

We get to swim, sun tan and laze around the greens.  Show off our swimming gear, play netball or badminton.  Or go cycling after the BBQ makan.

And, we have an afternoon BBQ, say 12nn to 1600 hrs.

And, everybody brings one pc of sausage, 200 grams of beef or a corb of jargon or one pc of chicken wings from their supermarket.

And, we clean up the place by 1600 hrs.  We can also not clean the place up, and pay someone to clean it up behind us.

Date confirmed –  Sat 18 May 2013 at BBQ pits C13 & C14.

Terence Seah

The Business Round table will be recreated soon

As requested by SHC members with entrepreneurial and business interests, the Business Round Table was created, just over a year ago.  This was felt necessary by a number of members, although we had no experience as to how to get it started.

Initially, this monthly event was led by Jeffrey Lim and assisted by Susan Chan.  It began with a  series of dinner events, and was attended by approx 10 – 20 members each time.  The intended objective was to provide business networking among SHC business groups and entrepreneurs.  It wa a good starter series of business meetings, although at the end of it all, the EOs and some members felt that the Business Round Table did not achieve its desired objectives.  The EOs of the Business Round Table  gatherings were rotated from volunteer members.

Here are some of the feedback from EOs and participating members:

  1. There are not enough participating members, meaning no critical mass.  The average participation was about 1 – 2 round tables.
  2. While there are members with interests to discuss business issues, there is a view that “after 45” is not a good time to start a business, especially when one is not already in business.
  3. A number of non-entrepreneurs lacked understanding of the purpose of the Business Round Table.
  4. There is also a mis-match in the objective.  The Round Table was intended to be the focal point to meet and know who does what; and that any further business would then take place outside the Round Table.
  5. Some members had felt that the Round Table was a place to look for job opportunities; although this was not the intention.
  6. Interesting, other participants felt that the Round Table had turned out to be an expensive makan dinner.

The above are good feedback, and the experience from early Business Round Table gatherings can help us readjust our strategy.  Yes, many members are still working, for companies while others may be working part-time.  For those who are in business, and wishing to engage other members who are also in business, please share your thoughts.  Yes, you may have a business idea, and wish to start it on your own or with fellow shareholders, this could also be an opportunity; and that other members may be interested in your plans too.  MLM excluded.

Please share your thoughts, as we are looking at recreating the Business Round Table activity.

Thank you Jeffrey Lim and Susan Chan for setting the stage.

NetworkingBusiness

Terence Seah

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Registration to participate in the Business Round Table:

  1. Terence Seah
  2. Martin Lee
  3. SS Tan

April 2013 – Food and Makan place review

Each month, we can have a Food and Makan place review.

foodreview

Many of us love good and good price food.

If you have been to a restaurant, cafe or food court recently, feel free to write about it here.  As this is a review category, feel to express how yummy the food is, how crispy the nuts are, and how well set up the place is.  Of course, if the place is terribble, you can express so.  But make sure you have experience the food or the place personally.

This is a new category focusing on “Food and Makan area review” has just been created.  If you are a food critic, feel free to write regularly, and share your review.  You may get a Food writer of the year award.

This is a column we can look out for venues for some of our Club gatherings.

Terence Seah

SHC May monthly gathering cum Fleamart, tentative Sat 4 May 2013

The Mar monthly gathering, EO’d by Hew Lee was just over.  We have to plan for the next gathering.  I now like to switch quickly to the May gathering.

The monthly gatherings are planned with the intention of meeting the Club’s objective.  It’s meant for you to find new friends and catch up with old friends.  It’s may get a bit boring if we stick all the while to Hans Cafe; but it has the benefit of space, flexibility and no requirement to commit to a fixed number of pax.  Retirees start coming in from 4pm, while those working start strolling in after 6.30pm.  And, the gathering is usually held on a weekday.  We are now trying a Saturday morning.

Together with Jassmine Teo, who is in charge of the online Fleamart, I have thought of having the May monthly gathering to coincide with a small fleamart.  Am working out the details.

  1. Venue:  The Good Morning Nanyang Cafe, opp Royal Park hotel, 20 Upper Pickering Street.  Right at Exit A of Clarke Quay MRT station.
  2. Date:  Sat 4 May 2013; but not confirmed.  But, it will be a Saturday morning.
  3. Time:  0900 hrs to 1300 hrs.
  4. Fleamart stalls: limited to 4.  Strictly for members only.  Fleamart tables:  Not sure what and how we can cost it.  Although I think it will be $10  to $15 for a table space.
  5. About the place:  I had a coffee set, but it does have chicken curry with rice, and non-complicated food.  There is an aircon area about the size of a bedroom,  an outside dining area, about the size of a bus and and outer open space area for something which we have not thought of.  Maybe able to play badminton, if we can get approval from the Hong Lim community centre.
  6. After the gathering, you can go shopping.  Cylists, runners and walkists can also meet here.
  7. About the crowds:  No idea really, I think few companies open on a Sat; but the air is fresh, and the place has open wide space.
  8. How much do we charge?  No thoughts yet; although the owner has said he needs to prepare for the food and drinks.  Will let you know later.  It is likely to be less than $10 per pax, and $2 more for each family members and non-members.
  9. Car Park:  There is a nice open air car park space beside the venue.  I think about 15 cars can park there.  Didnt think of CBC charges, although I encourage all to take the MRT as you just need to walk up.

I am looking for an EO to raise his/her hand to run this event.  You can find your own co-EO if you are comfortable about doing so.  We need to finalise the details with the owner, confirm the date and time, inform our members in the Club, set a cost, approve the fleamart holders and start a registration list.  EOs usually make a lot of friends.

This monthly gathering and fleamart event is strictly for participation by SHC members only.  The fleamart may be patronised by some members of the public.  As this place is open to the public, non-members and/or members bringing their families and friends will be charged at $2 above member price.

I look forward to you being among the early ones to register for the event.  Also, fleamart stall holders can register here, stating what you intend to sell, subject to approval by the EO.

Terence Seah

New category – “Food and Makan area review”

A new category focusing on “Food and Makan area review” has just been created.   Other than travel and dancing, food is one of the most loved topics among Singaporeans.

If you have patronised a restaurant, cafe or food corner, you can give a food review.  As long as you have tried it recently, you can write a food review.  I have joined a couple of members, and I can see they just love good food.  One day, these members can write for food magazines, and even be a food critic.

Please start a new Post, if you wish to write a food review.

foodreview

Terence Seah

Nothing to do, so decide to go up to Mersing this Friday

A week ago, a friend of mine told me that this Friday is a holiday.  I wasn’t too sure if I will be in Singapore.  Well, I am back, and I suddenly want to take a slow car drive to Mersing.  So, we agreed to drive to Mersing using the attached route map.  We go Friday at about 6am and back Sunday late afternoon.

If there is anyone with your own car and group, wanting to drive up together, let’s meet just after the 2nd link.

No schedule, no prebooked hotels, eat simply and as local as possible, no speed driving.  Objective: eat, enjoy the scenery, and come back safely.

Let me know if you are coming.

Terence Seah

mersing-drive

An example of how to use the SHC LiveChat

Let’s say you like to organise a fishing trip to Tioman on 15 Jan 2013.

First, you can start a Post, indicating all the details of the trip.

Second, you like to invite interested participants to come together, ask questions and speak to the organiser.  Simple on the Post, say that you would like to have a livechat with interested participants, and invite them to go into the SHC LiveChat at a particular date and time.  Everybody logs in at the same time, and you take the lead.

https://silverhairsclub.com/?page_id=6076

This is an example only.  Note: SHC livechat is unmoderated.

Terence Seah

Opportunity to be SHC 3rd Video Jockey

Music makes the world go round.  This is definitely true, judging from the music and songs that are played on this website and during our varied events.  I had played the role of the Video Jockey.  Our second VJ was Dolly Lim.  Now, I think it is a good time to have our third VJ.  This is an opportunity to express your music talents and interests.  If you are shy, this may be the role for you.

In this role, the VJ picks songs from the 60s and 70s, and play them on the top left hand corner of the Club’s website.  These music clips can also be from any era, and any language.  Sometimes, the video can be inline with current activities and members’ requests.

Pre-requisites would include:

1.  Familiar with songs from the 50s, 60 and 70s, in our common languages and dialects.

2.  You must believe that that “Music makes the world go round”.

3.  Familiar with the SHC culture, and loves helping fellow members get to know new and more friends.  Have been with the Club for at least two years.  Can interact with the Club membership.

4.  Able to spend 30 mins a week, to select videos and upload this video to our web server.

5.  This role is not difficult; although the person should be comfortable with the computer and internet.

6.  Can be of any sex and and age.

7.  Term: 1 year.  Candidates are required to ensure confidentiality on all membership database.  Those who cannot maintain strict confidence with email information need not apply.

Michael Jackson Pepsi Generation – Click here.

If you like this role, please raise your hand or email to me.  Thank you.

Terence Seah

SilverHairsClub – LiveChat, anytime, anyday

Hi fellow SHCians,

From members feedback over the years, some members have expressed that they do not always need to start a new Post, as they may not have a topic for discussion.  There has always been this request to just have a chat.  Others just want to have a simple online chat.  With our recent system upgrade, this is now possible.

Well, we can have it from today.

From today, you can have livechat anytime of the day.  Please respect the views and comments of fellow participants.   To participate:

  1. Simply log onto SilverHairsClub.com.
  2. A LiveChat window will appear on the bottom right of the HomePage. Click that little square box to start.
  3. You may be required to log in,  as this is strictly for members.
  4. In the LiveChat box, there is a faint empty text box, at the bottom.
  5. Chat whatever you like.  This LiveChat is not moderated.
  6. Please make effort to respond to fellow members who respond to your question. Do not leave the question dangling.
  7. As this is our general chatroom, do address the person first eg Hi James, ……
  8. SHC rules of no discussions on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM.
  9. Contact tel numbers are not permitted.  No personal details.
  10. Most members are usually logged on before 9am, during lunch time, around 5pm and after dinner time.  When you leave the Chatroom, please say “goodbye”; so the other parties are not waiting for your response.
  11. EOs and EOs can pre-invite fellow members to come into the livechat at a certain date and type.  But, there maybe other members chat too.

Have fun.  Give LiveChat a try.  Any feedback appreciated.

Terence Seah

 

SHC faces a sex imbalance problem; or rather has Singapore a serious problem

Hi members,

I am going to raise a topic which has always been one of our concerns; and this is the most common observations among members and Singaporeans alike.

Why is it that there are always more men women than women men at social events?  It’s not that the ratio of women to men is 60:40; but it’s more like 80:20.  We always thought that many men do not like dancing; and this may be partly right.

When it comes to other social events, we are also having the same observations.  Why are the men shying away?  Are they too busy?  But really, I think we have to understand the reasons.  And then, we need to know if we try to do so, we are banging our head against the wall.  If we cannot have an equal ratio, then we will continue to face the same problem, even if the membership is increased.

So, should we increase our membership? What do you think?

Terence Seah

 

Participate in SPH event “Life Matters” on 27 & 28 July 2013 Suntec Hall 404

We receive an invitation to participate in an expo “Life matters”.  I thought of participating by taking a booth, with the objective of increasing our membership.  Often we advertised in the papers, but the costs are high.

This event is specially tailored for seniors in Singapore.

Where and When?
* Venue: Suntec Singapore, Hall 404
* Date: Sat & Sun, 27 & 28 July 2013
* Time: 10am – 8pm
* Feature dates: The Straits Times & Shin Min 26 July (Friday)/ Lianhe Zaobao 27 July (Saturday)

The SPH organiser has costings, starting from $4,588 for one booth.  It’s a standard size booth.

Is there any member/s who would like to share the booth?  We can share out; and it would be fun to have our members to also attend the Expo on a Saturday and Sunday.

Terence Seah

UPDATES

CONTRIBUTIONS:

 1)   Yew Kwong            …..     $100

2)   Gabriella Chua        …..     $100

3)   SusanCH Tan          …..     $100

4)   Jacqueline Wong     …..     $100

5)   Irene Poh                …..     $100

7)   Rosalind Lee           …..     $100

8)   Judy Lim                  …..     $100

9)   Leon Lau Eng Seng      $50

10) Mary Chan               …..   $100

Manning the Booth

1)   Yew Kwong

2)   Gabriella Chua

3)   SusanCH Tan

 4)   Jacqueline Wong

5)   Irene Poh

6)   Mary Chan

Other form of support:

1)   Sam Goh-Huat huat huat!  Distribute flyers.

 

 

SHC March monthly update

Dear fellow SilverHairsClub members,

The lunar New Year festival has just passed. It’s always full of memories.  To some of us, it’s a quiet time of the year.  The Snake year is a good year for you to introduce yourself to other members of the Club, if you have not done so.

SilverHairsClub is the place for you to find new friends, and find other members with similar hobbies and interests.

1.  SilverHairsClub.com: Has been upgraded to include new features eg adding pictures. You can attract members to your events by adding a picture to the Post.

2.  Introduce yourself:  If you have not introduced yourself, write to us.  We would help you to put your introduction in the Club. Include something about yourself, hobbies, interest, work or even family. Tell us your dreams, plans and future ideas. What u like and what you don’t like.   Tell us which schools you studied; you may find a lost class mate.  Even which company you are working for.  We like to know if you are retired or still working part-time or full time.  Even the not-so-good about yourself eg you love to drink yourself drunk, or you love the casino from morning till night.  Someone may like you.  Age not needed as everyone is over 45.

3.  Single Seniors:  The Club has many activities, organised by fellow members.  These activities will continue.  In addition, this year, we are focusing on single seniors.  Some of us may be single or “singles again”.  Members who are legally not married can join “Paper Clips”.  During the 1st 6 months, we will organise group singles activities, specially for “Paper Clips” only.  These activities will have a 50:50 male:female ratio.

*  To join “Paper Clips” as a participant, please email to paper.clips@SilverHairsclub.com.

*  If you like to join the Paper Clips committee, helping to organise singles events, do write to terences@SilverHairsClub.com.

Participate in SilverHairsClub activities. And you will find new friends, SilverHairs friends.  Travel together.  Have tea or potluck sessions together.  Play golf together.

I look forward to hear from you.

Terence Seah

SilverHairsClub.com

An informal social club, for Singaporeans, over 45.

Our objective is to provide a platform for SilverHairs to meet new and more friends.

(Strictly no politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM)

Updated SilverHairsClub.com with new features wef 20 Feb 2013

New features have been incorporated in the new SilverHairsClub.com. ?However, it is not fully completed yet. ?We had commissioned a company to do our upgrades; and I am pleased with the change. ?You may test it; and if there are any issues, please feedback on this Post.

If a member asks a questions, please feel free to help out the person. ?For those who are familiar with WordPress, and if you have the time, please organise small get togethers to explain its workings. ?I wont respond to your feedback; although I will read all of them.

The major changes are:

  1. Better control over spams.
  2. Photographs can be added. ?Only one picture is allowed per post; more than that, the Post will be on hold or deleted. ?You may put in a picture that is relevant to the Post. ?If you put in a picture of a person or a group, it is your duty to ensure that approval has been given by that person or the group; failing which you will not be allowed to enter the Club.
  3. For portrait pictures, FULL face must be shown. ?Ideal for member introduction.
  4. The Club taboos continue to apply; no discussions on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling or MLM.
  5. Any advertisements, not under the monthly fleamart Posts, need to be referred to admin@SilverHairsClub.com. ?T&C apply.
  6. Promotional logos, external organisations, company logos or pictures and pictures of non-members are not allowed.

There will be more changes; and they will be announced over the next few months.

We dont use all the features of WordPress. ?But here are some useful Youtube demos. ?You may try others demos.

  • How to write a new Post: ?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IGMLYy16jQ
  • How to insert a picture in the Post: ??http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4WhyhWLpl0

Have fun.

Terence Seah

Life partners for single Seniors

It’s been a long time since I last raised the issue of dating for Seniors.  Recently I had a chat with a few members, and the same topic arose.  I would like to revive the issue for discussion; give some serious considerations to the issue and perhaps plan for a dating event for Seniors.

Among club members, some of us are single; others are divorced; some are separated while others are going through the divorce process.  For some, the spouse has left the world.  There are reasons why some of us are single or single again.  Life can be lonely, as we walk the path thrugh our SilverHair years.  There is so much to live for; for our siblings, our friends, and for the freedom to see the world.  We have also SilverHairsClub members; many of whom have become close friends.

But, in our private life, we still want to have a close partner; someone whom we can chat from morning till night, hold hands as we stroll around the parks, hug one another when there is the feeling of sadness and pain.  To have a partner to live together as we walk towards the end of the rainbow.  For those who have a spouse or a partner, you will know what I mean.

For some of us, being single is a choice.  For some, having a life partner can make a difference to our everyday life.  No one can predict the outcome of having a partner; neither can we have a guarantee of a more meaningful life.

Many of our friends are singles or singles again.  And we know they would like to find someone who can share the rest of their lives together.  As we have read in the newspapers, the country places a lot of attention to young adults.  But, Seniors deserve attention too.  In this Post, I hope we can help our fellow members, friends and other Seniors who are singles to find someone who can be their life partner.  Let’s do something.

If you share the same concerns, I would like to ask you to join me in a discussion group, to discuss what we can do; and perhaps organise an event, specially for our single or singles again Seniors.  We keep the options and ideas open.  Feel free to discuss with ideas and thoughts.  Keep the warm water flowing, so as to encourage participation among singles and non-singles.

If you would like to join in the “planning committee”, please email terences@SilverHairsClub.com. We will likely have regular discussions over Whatsapp, followed by a meeting sometime end March.

 

This is a sensitive topic for some, so your encouragement would be great.

Terence Seah

 

Supporting role players in SilverHairsClub

The SilverHairsClub is a social club, mainly for Singaporeans, and targetting those who are 45 years and above.  The Club’s key objective is to provide a platform for members to meet new and more friends.

SHC, in short for SilverHairsClub, revolves around a virtual club named SilverHairsClub.com.  This is accessible by all members as well as members of the public.   Members can enter the Club, as long as they have an userid and a password.

The Club has been very successful and active, and this is attributed to the many SHC members who help to bring other members together, by organising physical and real-life activities.  Members who organise activities strictly for members are called Event Organisers EOs”; while members who organise activities for members as well as non-members, are called Event Coordinators ECs.  All these roles are voluntary.  In return, we encourage members to do their part by organising activities for other members too.

Every club has its rules; and SHC, being a social club, does not permit discussions on politics, race, religion, sex, direct selling and MLM on its forum and activities.  We have been more relaxed on advertising, and we can now accept paid advertising.  Cooperations with external organisations or groups can be made via its Corporate membership.

I have tried to handover the running of SHC to interested members, by mid 2013; but unfortunately, there has been no response or interest.  While I would still keep this option as open, I think I would not delay a change further.  Most of the feedback centred around having a committee.  I have thought about it and shall give it a go. However, EOs and ECs are still free to continue to organise activities as they seem fit.

Currently, we have the following members providing supporting roles in SHC.  They are:

  1. Loh Yew Kwong – supporting members who have difficulties with Posting and comments.
  2. Lily Ho – supporting members who have difficulties with Posting and comments.
  3. Dolly Lim – supporting members who have difficulties with Posting and comments.
  4. Lee King Seng – role of picture manager, uploading photos onto our website.
  5. Jassmine Teo – runs SHC online Fleamart, every month as a free personal advertising service to members.
  6. Membership role – role of increasing Club’s membership
  7. Media relations – Daniel Chan, liaising with media companies, interviews and spokesman
  8. Public relations role – Coordinating with external organisations
  9. Sports – supporting and encouraging more sports activities.
  10. Charity – encouraging and supporting more charity events.
  11. Small business – previously called the Round Table.
  12. Advertising – looking at means of generating advertising revenue.
  13. Jobs – encouraging and supporting job opportunities for SilverHairs.
  14. Others.

Generally, I am looking for members who are keen to serve on the committee.  The roles are mainly to encourage and support different activities and topics., and not to organise activities as a key role.  Some of the roles I am looking for are in membership, Public relations, Sports, Charity, small business, Jobs and Advertising.  There are more; and we can definitely look at more roles, with the aim of supporting members needs.

I look forward to your ideas and thoughts.

Terence Seah

 

Wishing all SilverHairsClub members a healthy, wealthy and prosperous Lunar New Year

Very soon, we will be celebrating Lunar New Year.  And, I like to take this opportunity to wish everybody a healthy Snake year.  I believe a number of us are sentimental as we remember the many traditions we used adopt during this Spring festival.

So, enjoy all the eating, drinking, gambling and meeting up with friends and relatives.  Let’s take this occasion to give our best wishes to our fellow friends.  Include some YouTube songs, stories and reflections

Terence Seah 

6.9 million population in 2030 – Share your thoughts

For many of us, we will be at least 65 years old in 20 years time.  Last week, the Singapore government released the Population White Paper with the headline "6.9 million population in 2030".For many of us, we will be at least 65 years old in 20 years time.

Of course, some of us might not need to be too worried, as we may not be around.  This projection has generated a lot of interest in Singapore, and among Singaporeans.  Name it and we can read them in the papers concerns of high cost housing, medical care, less space and job competition.  There are numerous concerns.

I thought we can have a hearty chat on this topic, which is close to the hearts of many of us.  As the elderly population increases, does Singapore need to raise the projected population to 6.9 m people in 20 years time? The paper projects growth rates of 2 – 3% with this population increase.  This number seem rather modest, as any global financial crisis can easily wipe this number off.

What can we do, being a part of Singapore elderly?  Take a broad view on the topic.  What would you do? Maybe take a less serious view or even a fun view;  your thoughts and ideas may be worth considering.  Some ideas and suggestions may be useful to the economists and the government.

Keep the politics element out of this Post please.

Terence Seah 

SilverHairsClub.com will be shut 19,20 and 21 Feb 2013 for system upgrade

Unless there are any last minute changes, SilverHairsClub.com will be shut from 19 Feb 2013 0600hrs to 21 Feb 2013 0600 hrs.  During this period, our club’s website will not be accessible to members and the public.

After the system upgrade, some members who have never accessed the website at any stage, may have to re-apply as a new member.

If you have not accessed the Club before, do make sure you have done so before these dates.  We are expecting a major upgrade, so the old look will no longer be there, when we return.

Will update you as we go along.

Terence Seah 

Chinese New Year lunch dim-sum in Feb 2013

Hi everybody,

It’s probably a good time of the year to start thinking about our CNY lunch/dim-sum.  In previous years, we hold the event at the Red restaurant or the old Lucky restaurant at Toa Payoh Central.  Let’s give the event some tonight.

Personally, I always prefer the event to be a dim-sum or maybe a buffet.  But, more importantly I like the event to stay low-cost, somewhere in the region of <$20.  It can be held in a restaurant or a Club house.  Some difficulties we faced in previous years are unless we have a firm booking, we cannot get a place.  I remembered once we had to go to the Toa Payoh restaurant at 7.30am, queue and leave the place by 10am.

Maybe the difficulty is to find a $20 place.  We do not need the peak hous of 12-2pm; anytime after or before this time is fine.

If someone has a club house or a big house, and able to host a lunch, around this price, for 40-50 people, this would be fine and fun.  We can also have mahjong, maybe with prata or non-Chinese food.  We keep our options open.

Date or day-wise, we can go for the first suggestion.  Same with time.

Ideas or suggestions welcome.

Terence Seah 

Travel complaints among members

One of the activities which seniors love to engage in is to see the world while their legs are still strong.  Many of us plan to go on trips which travel agents do not normally bring travellers to.  Sometimes,  we do not have kakis to travel with.

Quite often, some members do ask if there are like-minded SHCians who would like to travel together.  At the same time, some members, because of their knowledge of some places, invite fellow members to join them to travel to selected cities or remote parts of the world.

From what we read in the forum, most self group travel among members turn out well; and members enjoyed the friendship and the trip proper.  Members also tend to trust and accept travel arrangements organised by fellow members.

But some trips can turn into disaster trips; and the consequences can be unhappy. Expectations can be totally mismatched.  Our expectations of costs can vary eg what is the perceived cost of hotel or guesthouses.  Food can be another area where value and price mismatch.  Service is another area.  Sometimes, we may feel it is better to take an organised tour vs a self-planned tour.  Gosh, things can go wrong.

Some trips among members do turn out into disaster trips.  Friendship goes down the drain.  Many travellers keep quiet, rather than speak out on what they see as bad organisation or they just stress themselves quietly among themselves.  Some feel strongly other members should be informed.

Some feel I should highlight these members or even ban such members from the club.  Should we discuss this openly on this forum?  Should the organiser who led the trips be given a chance to speak out?  Very often, when things go wrong, there is a feeling the organiser made some money. 

Yes, we all know things do and can go wrong.  When a service is offered, the follow-up communication is usually between seller and buyer, organiser and fellow travellers.  The unhappiness lives on.

As a club, we do not have the resources to track all travel arrangements.  We do not track any sale of products and services between or among fellow members.  Who would put up travel guidelines? Who would check and enforce these guidelines? Would there be club volunteers to track any complaints?

I am writing this email because there are such complaints.

I like to hear your views.  Stay objective please.

Terence Seah 

 

Liner advertising accepted from 1 Jan 2013

The SilverHairsClub.com forum can now accept liner advertising from members and non-members from 1 Jan 2013. Liner ads will be made simple to publish.

1. Liner ads are req’d to use the category "Advertisement". Only plain regular text are permitted.
2. Each line will be charged $5 for non-members. SilverHairsClub members will only pay $2.50 per line. Liner advertisers should optimise their space.
3. Max number of lines per liner advertisement: 10.
4. All Liner ads have no expiry dates, except as determined by the publisher. There is no limit to the number of liner ads or frequency.
5. Contents should not related to religion, politics, race, sex or MLM.
6. All liner advertising will go into the moderation queue, and advertisers need to give at least 24 hours for payment processing before publication. Ads may be released earlier.
7. Advertisers should enter their email address for response. No tel number.
8. Comments are to be switched OFF; ie no discussion of products or services. Strictly advertising only.
9. Payment is pre-paid, via paypal/credit card at www.paypal.com to SHE@SilverHairsClub.com. No cash payments. All payment will be handled by SilverHairs Enterprise Pte Ltd. A receipt wll be emailed to the advertiser.  In the event of non-publication, a admin fee of 2.50 will b charged.

10. Advertising by members in the Online Fleamart will continue to remain free. T&C apply.

I hope that liner advertising will meet the requirements of members who need to advertise their services or products to other members, for ether personal or corporate.

Terence Seah