Phonies

You know, darlings, we try to look at the good side of people when they seem to be genuine; ooh, being helpful and all that shiat but in the end they are nothing but pathetic attention seekers who absolutely don’t exist without THIS CLUB!!

Terence loves this, dahhhh!! but as far as I am concerned, please have a life, you are nothing, exactly how you feel without this club.

Sad? Absolutely! But some people are soooooo pathetic they cling on to whatever to feel their existence.

Oh, darlings, they scream (like Terence) that they are doing it out of FRIENDSHIP!!! Kekekee….

Tai Tai Nite DnD 2014 & Mr SHC and Miss / Mrs SHC 2014

Tai Tais and darlings

Another idea for next year.

We have had 2 cabaret nites so it’s time for we women to have a Tai Tai Nite.  What does it mean?

Am thinking we ladies will be there in our finery and diamonds, of course, and this time we shall have our HOT MALE MEMBERS on hand to pamper us etc.

The climax of the evening will obviously be Terence performing in his G-string on the pole.  We will have our US dollars ready………..

Let’s partayyy!!
~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ *

Darlings

This idea just popped in my mind.  Our very own Mr SHC and Miss/Mrs SHC 2014.

Anyone cares to organize this? Obviously, I would like to be invited to be one of the Judges. Heeeheee.

I will not be able to EO this due to my duty calls besides my other commitments.
There are many awesome event organizers in our club, so let’s hear from you.

We can narrow down to Prejuding (Q&A) and the Grand Finals to simplify the pageant.

Let’s do something exciting in 2014!!

Advertisement: Esplanade presents Coffee Morning & Afternoon Tea “Remembering Leslie Cheung” – 2 Dec’13 @ 10.30am / 3.00pm

Hi All

An upcoming coffee morning and afternoon tea on Mon, Dec 2 2013 in remembrance of the late Hong Kong legendary singer Leslie Cheung is not to be missed!

Our local talented singer Wilson Wong will be performing Leslie’s unforgettable hits.

Venue:  Esplanade Recital Studio
Time:10.30am / 3pm
Price:  $12

Tickets from Esplanade Box Office and SISTIC (booking fee applies for each ticket).

Coffee and tea will be provided before each show.

When the going gets tough…….

Life has a strange way of throwing challenges at us.

When we put in our effort, it does not mean we will be rewarded with a kind word, let alone appreciation.  When we ask questions, lo and behold, we are creating issues that should not happen in the first place.  Huh? Whaaa?  Hmmmm……..

How do we deal with such challenges?  For me, I speak up (even if it’s the last time; till death do us part.  Kekekeee), after which I move on and happily continue with my life.

So, darlings, when the going reeli, reeli gets tough, THE TOUGH GETS GOING!

Share with us, especially Agony Aunt G here, how do you deal with challenges that somehow makes you the bad guy?

Advertisement: Esplanade – A Date with Friends from Nov 7 to 10 2013

Hi All

The 4-day (3 ticketed and 10 free programmes) festival is jam-packed with performances including Yesterday Once More II, Unforgettable Theme Songs, Relax and Joget and the festival closing item is an open invitation for mass line dancing.

Check out the link for more information.

http://www.esplanade.com/ADateWithFriends/2013/downloads/a_date_with_friends_2013.pdf

Have a date with friends and take a walk down memory lane…………..

 

 

Rise and Shine!

Good morning, Silver Babees!

Guess most of you are up and about; probably done your chores, walked the dog and had a hearty breakfast.  Others may be out walking, cycling or simply reading the papers at the coffee shop or at home.

A typical Sunday for me when I do not have an appointment is to sleep in, perhaps throw in some exercise and surfing the internet – chilling out totally.

How do you spend your Sundays?

Here’s a song to start our day…………

 

In Memory of Janet Chan

JC

This is for you? one of your favorites………The Song of Sunset ????.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMJFBlwPdLU

Girlfren, today is Sept 18 2013………Time to say Goodbye………

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3uyEn792JuM

PS : Janet’s family requested no visit tonight. SHC friends can attend wake on Monday or Tuesday. Blk 55 Marine Terrace void deck. Funeral and cremation on Wednesday 18 Sept.

***Funeral service starts at 8.45am on Wednesday 18 Sept

    Casket leaves at 9 am to Mandai Crematorium

For Shc friends who wish to attend the funeral on Wednesday 18 Sept,  please indicate here from now till tomorrow, Tue by 8pm in order for the family to ensure there are enough seats on the bus to Mandai Crematorium.

For those who wish to drive to Mandai, please go to Hall 3. Time: 9.45am – 10.15am***

 

Dear Janet

I am saddened by your passing this morning.

You were a soft spoken yet feisty fighter throughout your illness. Your passion for singing is well known. The Shanghai and Taipei Nite would not be the same without you.

Will not have the chance to duet ??? with you, sweet lady……my ??.

May you rest in peace, dear sweet fren.

Love ya!! Mwah.

“I forgot I only exist when you need something from me”

UH-OHH…………..

Yes, when your child says, “I need money to go hang out with my frens after school.  Mommie?  Pretty, please??”

When you are eating your meal and your dog sits right next to you and nudges you on the leg……….

When your husband says “Honey, care to go for a drive to the mall?  I need your help to lug 10 cartons of beer.  My drinking buddies are coming over later.”

Anymore?

Phobias

When I read definitions of Phobia:

A phobia is an irrational and excessive fear of an object or situation. These fears can interfere with an individual’s life and lead to considerable anxiety and stress …”

A persistent, abnormal, and irrational fear of a specific thing or situation that compels one to avoid it, despite the awareness and reassurance that it is not …”

I was, like, hey, sounds like most SHC members……….fear of writing/chatting.  Kekekekeeee.

Seriously, darlings, we are in this club not just to attend activities/gatherings etc, we are also here to make frens and to know others, let us hear your thoughts, views, experience etc.

So, tell us your phobias.  I shall start with mine.

I was totally, totally petrified of cats when I was young but thank goodness I have overcome it.  To cut a long story short, I sat ten feet away from a fren’s cat and the cat seemed to know I was scared of her and she approached me very slowly while my heart was pounding to death.  Finally she climbed on my lap, again extra slowly, laid down and fell asleep.

I thought I would die but surprisingly, my panic gradually subsided and I even stroked her!  From then on, my fear of cats slowly disappeared; thanks to this sweet, adorable cat.

Your turn.

Why don’t husbands send flowers or even remember their wives’ b-days?

Darlings

I have heard this a gazillion times and each time it makes me wonder, too, cos my ex always remembers and I must say, those were the moments I cherish till today; not just the flowers, gifts and a nice dinner, but the thought behind it to make my b-days memorable.

This topic is not just for husbands/boy frens/partners to ‘come clean’ kekekekee and tell us why but it’s also for wives/girlfrens/partners to share with us how they feel.  Some may not think the b-day is such a big deal so what’s the fuss?  Others may feel…………..

Share, darlings.

Do the Elderly/Seniors take things for granted?

We often hear of abuse, neglect and abandonment of the elderly.  It’s heart-wrenching when we come across such cases.

Recently I had a chat with a friend who feels that the elderly/seniors do take things for granted because the society is ‘over protecting’ them.  I went, ‘Hmmmm, interesting.’

So, have you been taken for granted by the elderly/seniors or know of such a situation?

Discussion time.

SHC Ladies Skype, Sat Aug 25 2012, 9pm to 11.30pm

Dear Ladies

We shall meet up at Skype on Sat Aug 25 2012 from 9pm to ll.30pm to get to know one another better without leaving our homes.  For newbies or existing lady members who are shy to join our activities due to apprehension, this is it……..come forward and let us hear your voice and get to know you. 

I have made a few frens (as an Oldbie) since we started Shc Live (by Terence), so there you go.

Date:           Sat Aug 25 2012

Time:           9pm to 11.30pm

Venue:         Home (yours or……..)

Fee:             Nada, zilch, none.  Strictly for SilverHairsClub lady members

Dress code:  As you wish

This will be our virgin get-together so give it to me………no men allowed and that includes Terence (don’t even try).

What shall we talk about?  Nothing in particular; just chill out and chat.  We can talk about our cellulite, our womanizing pets, shc men (of course) etc etc.

Besides the above, please share any ideas you may have cos hey, you’d never know how awesome it is until it’s shared.

I would like to thank Sue Tan (my heart melts whenever I hear her sweet voice) who has offered to help to create the ladies’ list for Aug 25 and she will call you when you log on to skype.  Please add her on skype at:  sue6382

My skype id is panda_chow8.  Ros, the OC id is exclusively reserved for you.

We ladies will take turns to organize this Shc Ladies Skype.  I believe it will be more fun cos variety’s good.  I shall start the ball rolling and will moderate this gathering. 

Kindly register here as it is strictly for lady members who have registered for the ladies skype on this website.  Those ladies who had registered for the very first Shc Live skype and wish to join in, please register here again as stated by Terence.

Rules apply:  Strictly no politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM.

Registration List (max 24):

1  Geraldine Ting (EO)

2  Sue Tan (Calls Co-ordinator)

3  Janet Ang (tentative)

4  Jenny Lee

5  Jayne Ho

6  Vivian Lai

7  Patricia Low

8  Lynn Tai

9  Dorine Tan

 

Oldest child’s ‘responsibility’ to pay for younger sibling’s college tuition?

When I heard of this expectation from some parents, I went, ‘You’ve got to be
kidding!’

This is the situation.  A dad with two children, who can ‘only’ afford
to pay for one college tuition automatically feels that the oldest child,
by token of being the oldest of the two, deserves his support and really
expects this child who will be working (let’s hope so) by then to support
and pay for his younger sibling’s college tuition.

When the dad was asked why can’t he put the money aside for the younger
child instead since this second son is more brainy – academic wise whereas
the older brother is not and is struggling with getting decent grades?

Classic reply; this is how it is in a Chinese family. 
WHAT??!!  REELI??  Am I missing something here?  I am Chinese,
too, but fail to see the ‘logic’.

When further questioned what makes him think the older brother would give a
shiat about the younger brother, let alone put him thru college, the dad smiles
stupidly and says, well, it is the older brother’s responsibility, not
his.  Good grief.

He has conveniently overlooked the fact that the older son may not even be
able to support himself; how else is he going to support his younger brother
even if he wants to?  Shakes head…….

Needless to say, the younger son is aware of this and is already hurt and
sad.  Poor child.

Your take, please.

Secrets of Happy Couples

Dear All

I have always been intrigued by how couples (married or living together) stay
happy even way after the pheromone-crazy feeling has fizzled and they no longer
just want to stay in bed.

Some say it’s doing things together, not taking each other for granted,
giving each other space etc etc.

Whenever I see old couples, bent and shuffling yet holding hands,
awww………sooo sweet, I give them a big smile.  Sometimes they smile
back, sometimes they glare at me, especially the wives, kekekekeee.  Oh
well.

Share with us, darlings, if you are one of the happy couples or know of
people who are.  Hey, even your own child’s happy
marriage/relationship.

Mine failed, so wanna know what I could have done better or what HE could
have done better.  Gosh.

Do Bad Habits Die Hard?

Dear All

Does the above proverb ring true?

There is a difference between habits and bad habits though.  Habits such
as driving to work, making your cup of Joe (coffee) – I would call it being on
autopilot; things that we do without having to wreck our
brains.  

On the other hand, bad habits are hard to break; one tends to ‘fall off the
wagon’ so to speak.  For instance, losing weight and gaining it back by
bingeing/stuffing one’s face, stop smoking but greedily drawing in lungfuls of
nicotine when the need is soooo unbearable etc etc.

Bad habits literally have a vicelike grip on one’s mind and behavior – reeli
reeli hard to break.

Share with us your bad habits and if you have managed to overcome yours,
awesome!  All the more we need to hear/learn from you.

Anxiously waiting, darlings.

Quiz: Is Your Sex Life Aging Well?

Dear All

 

This Quiz is interesting.  Take it with a pinch of salt; it’s not dirty
or degrading.  As a matter of fact, it’s applicable to us or most of us
despite our being young at heart or perhaps we are young.

Have fun answering, darlings, and I shall post the results on Sunday March 11.

1   What percentage of people over age 45 say they are
satisfied with their sex life?

  • 19%
  • 31%
  • 51%
  • 61%    

2    What percentage of men over 50 say they have sexual
intercourse a few times a month or more?

  • 5%
  • 19%
  • 35%
  • 53%   

3    Among older people, what percentage say treatments for
sexual problems have helped their sex life?

  • 22%
  • 44%
  • 64%
  • 82%   

4    Middle-age men who have frequent sexual intercourse are
at greater risk for a heart attack.

  • True
  • False   

5    Most men will have some kind of erectile dysfunction at
some point in their life.

  • True
  • False   

6    Which medications can cause erectile dysfunction?

  • Antidepressants
  • Antihistamines
  • Blood pressure medication
  • All of the above   

7    After menopause, women have lower levels of what
hormone?

  • Estrogen
  • Progesterone
  • Testosterone
  • All of the above   

8    It’s normal for healthy older men to have no interest in
sex.

  • True
  • False   

9   Older men are more likely than older women to be sexually
active.

  • True
  • False

10   Frequent sex has which of the following health benefits?

  • Relieves stress
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Boosts immune system
  • All of the above   

Lowering the minimum age from 45 to 40

Dear All

I have wanted to ask Terence for the longest time to lower the minimum age to
join Silverhairs Club from 45 to 40.  Did not bother until now.

Why do I have this idea?  I believe the club needs new blood, there is
only a 5-year age difference to join, the early forties to mid-forties will add
more vibrancy and possibly more ideas.

I came across SHC from clicking here and there over here in HK and read with
interest.  After reading the site for a few nites I decided to join as I
qualified in both the minimum age of 45 at that time and being a
Singaporean.

If I was not 45 or above then, I would be frustrated not being able to
join as I was reaching out to my fellow Singaporeans.  Think I would have
written to Terence and he would have told me to wait till I reach 45.  My
comeback would be ‘I may not live to 45!!  Gosh.’

Have brought this topic up with Terence at our meeting and we could have
easily decided whether or not to do so but I believe in discussing with our
members, so let us hear your constructive opinions.

Discussion will close on Sat March 17 at
23:59.

Geraldine

Monthly Gatherings – 2012

Dear All

Our monthly gathering is important for members to get together to catch
up with and to meet other members.  It is an informal gathering to
mingle.

If you have been chatting with members whom you have yet to meet, the monthly
gathering will be a good place to finally meet.  Even if you have not
chatted with some members before, take this opportunity to make new friends;
you may be pleasantly surprised.

At last month’s gathering, I was very happy to come across some very sweet
and pleasant members whom I met for the first time.  See, first dates are
exciting!

As with any gathering, Event Organizers (EOs) are needed which brings me
to bring up the following list of EOs for the monthly gatherings in
2012 which Terence posted on Dec 7 2011.  

  • Jan – Lily Ho
  • Feb – Janie Leong
  • Mar – Audrey Wong  Frisna Tan 
  • Apr – Peter Lim
  • May – Dan Huang
  • Jun – Richard Wong
  • Jul – Peri Liew
  • Aug – Victor Khor
  • Sep – Henry Foo
  • Oct – May Woo
  • Nov – Caroline Gee
  • Dec – Jane Tan
  • Looking at the above list, Audrey Wong is the EO for our March monthly
    gathering unless she is unable to do so.  Keeping fingers and toes crossed
    that Audrey will organize for us. 

    Let’s hear from her.

    SilverHairsClub Feb monthly gathering, Fri 24 Feb 2012 at Hans

    This Post is now reassigned to Geraldine Ting. 

    The feb monthly gathering is now confirmed.  

    • Venue:  Hans cafe at Upper Pickering Street
    • Date:  Fri 24 Feb 2012
    • Time:  1600 hours to 2030 hours.
    • Charges:  Free, strictly for registered SHC members.
    • Food and drinks:  Please buy from the Hans counter.

    Do use the monthly gathering to know new friends; and to catch up with old friends.  If there is some interests of yours that you like to be connected with, say that you are attending, what is it, and we will mention it in the club gathering.

    Take this opportunity to meet the new Club Manager, and share with her your thoughts too.  Have fun; and see you on the 24 Feb.

    Terence Seah

    Registration list:

    1. Geraldine Ting – EO
    2. Lily Ho
    3. Terence Seah
    4. Lim Tian Soo
    5. Henry Yip
    6. Mary Chan
    7. Lydia Chin
    8. Caroline Gee
    9. Hew Lee
    10. Dan Huang
    11. Felice Lim
    12. Cheng Pun
    13. Charles Wee
    14. Ann Lim – Registration
    15. Lilian Teo – Registration
    16. Molly Chua
    17. H C Lee
    18. Eyvonne Chew
    19. Charles Chua
    20. Daniel Chan
    21. Sockie
    22. Gingko (tentative)
    23. Boon Liang (tentative)
    24. Bira L
    25. Ray Khoo
    26. Rosalind Lee
    27. Angie Ng
    28. Bobby Bok
    29. Constance Wong
    30. Lai Fong (tentative)
    31. Clara Chay
    32. Bernie Chung
    33. K C Lau
    34. Peggy Ho
    35. Zahriah Kassim
    36. Sue Chan
    37. Cat Yeo
    38. Martin Lee
    39. Stephen Low
    40. Ron Lee
    41. Jeffrey Lim
    42. Robert Ong
    43. Janie Leong
    44. Roy Koh
    45. Lilian Koh
    46. Jimmy Tsin
    47. Norlinda
    48. Sue Chang
    49. Merilyn Tay
    50. Malcolm Chen
    51. Vincent Khoo
    52. Roland Tong
    53. Sam Goh (tentative)
    54. Johnny Pow
    55. Annie Pow
    56. Thomas Loh
    57. Pat Oei (tentative)
    58. Linda Oei (tentative)
    59. Terry Tang
    60. Dorine Tan (tentative)
    61. Ronald Lam
    62. Gabriella Chua
    63. Rene
    64. John Howe
    65. Petula Chak
    66. Freda Lim
    67. Peter Goh
    68. Victor Chee
    69. Steven Yuen

    70. CLICK here to see PHOTOS

    71. Strictly for registered SHC members.  Please remember to bring your name tag.

     

     

    Typhoon 8

    The wind is really, really howling outside my windows and now as at 4:02, (AM that is) its screaming outside wanting to get in……………….keep my fingers crossed that my glass windows will hold up. 

    As this is my 1st typhoon since moving to this place last Nov, really want this place to stay in one piece.  My old place though very old held up well considering.

    Been hearing lots of things flying and breaking; hope no one is hurt or their property.  Still watching the news now and more things etc have blown off , scattering all over……………

    Apparently, this weather will continue on Tuesday and will be better towards the end of the week.

    Sleep

    Dear All

    Came across this article and thought I would start a new thread to share.

    7 Surprising Facts About Sleep

    Must-know info to help you get your zzz’s

    Can’t sleep? You have plenty of company. About half of all adults experience insomnia on occasion, and 1 in 10 battle insomnia on a regular basis, according to the Cleveland Clinic. If you fall into one of those groups, chances are you’re already following the tried-and-true rules for a good night’s sleep: Don’t have too much caffeine (especially late in the day), don’t exercise late at night, keep your bedroom at a cool, comfortable temperature, and make sure your bed, pillows and linens are comfy. Those are all good tips, but there are lesser-known things you can try to help you get more rest.

    1. Set a Bedtime Alert
    Most of us already use an alarm to wake up in the morning, but sleep expert Mxxx Bxxx, PhD, suggests setting it at night as well. "I tell people to set their alarm for one hour before bedtime, which reminds them to begin what I call the power-down hour," says Dr. Bxxx.  He says you should spend the first 20 minutes of that hour taking care of any necessary chores (like walking the dog or making your kids’ lunches), then spend the next 20 minutes on hygiene (washing up, brushing your teeth, etc.), and save the last 20 minutes before bed for relaxation. You don’t necessarily have to meditate, if that doesn’t appeal to you; you can also do deep breathing exercises, read a book or even watch a little TV (as long as it’s not too stimulating).

    2. Don’t Clear Your Mind
    Experts say anxiety and depression top the list of reasons people have trouble sleeping. Part of the problem is that many of us just can’t seem to quiet that internal voice that starts rambling on about the worries of the day. Of course, if you can clear your mind, go ahead and do it. But if that’s impossible, don’t force it–you’ll only end up panicking about the fact that you’re not sleeping, says Pxxx Mxxx, PhD.  Instead, try slowing down your thoughts. "Practice saying anything and everything that comes into your mind to yourself in a slow, monotonous, drowsy tone," says Dr. Mxxx. It doesn’t matter if you’re thinking about what to buy tomorrow at the grocery store or how a big presentation at work is going to go. If you slow everything down and talk to yourself in an even tone, you’ll find it’s that much harder to keep worrying (or stay awake).

    3. Count Numbers–Not Sheep
    Another great way to quiet those racing thoughts is to count backward from 300 by 3s, says Dr. Bxxx. Unless you’re a math ace, you probably won’t be able to focus on anything else while you’re doing this, which means you’ll end up distracting yourself from your stressful thoughts.

    4. Get Up a Half-Hour Earlier
    Yes, you read that right! If you’re suffering from chronic insomnia, try getting up, for example, at 6:30 instead of your usual 7 wakeup time–no matter what time you fell asleep the night before. You may be extra-sleepy for a little while, but this is hands-down the most effective way to reset your body clock, says Dr. Mxxx. It works because it teaches your body that it can’t catch up on sleep in the morning, so eventually you’ll start feeling drowsier earlier in the evening.

    5. Consider Seeing a Professional
    A sleep psychologist is someone who specializes in gathering info about your emotions and your behaviors specifically as they relate to sleep. Often found at sleep centers, a sleep psychologist can usually help resolve your sleep issues in just four to six sessions, says Jxxx Oxxx, MD, a spokesman for the National Sleep Foundation.

    6. Don’t Worry If You Can’t Sleep Right Away
    You shouldn’t pass out the second your head hits the pillow. If that happens all the time, it’s a sign that you’re sleep deprived. (Ditto for nodding off during boring meetings and long movies.) Ideally, it should take 15 to 25 minutes from when you lie down to when you drift off to sleep, says Dr. Bxxx.

    7. Go to Bed When You’re Tired
    If you’re having ongoing sleep troubles, don’t worry so much about the fact that it’s almost midnight and you have to get up in less than seven hours. Forcing yourself to stay in bed when you’re not sleepy is just going to contribute to more tossing and turning, says Dr. Oxxx.  Instead, get up, do something relaxing, and go back to bed whenever you do feel tired. You might end up exhausted the next day (but that was bound to happen either way under these circumstances), and the following night you should have better luck getting to bed earlier.

    Hope the above helps and look forward to hearing from members – cures etc.

    The Rope

    Hi SHCians
    Want to share this………
    The Rope
    Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter; 10 men and 1 woman. The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, otherwise they were all going to fall. They weren’t able to choose that person, until the woman gave a very touching speech. She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope because as a woman she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids or for men in general and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping.
    SEND THIS MAIL TO AN INTELLIGENT WOMAN, SO THAT SHE HAS SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT TODAY!!!!