Category: Self Reflections, Chit chats

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Remember the cabaret days and nightouts at the nightclub?

A few days ago, we had our Sep monthly gathering;  the event was so much fun.  And all of a sudden, I thought of having a nightout at a nightclub and cabaret.  Would it be nice if we are all part of this theme?  Some of us may have bad experiences; but I hope you will look at what I am going to write next in good light and good old memories; and not think that I am some bad hat.

Some of us have frequented nightclubs in our good young days.  For men, it could be a good night out with some young hostesses.  For  businessmen and businesswomen, a night out at the cabaret can bring in that difficult deal.  And, for some men, downing a bottle of martell helped drown sorrows and sad memories.

Imagine yourself one night, during the late 70’s, on the 9th floor of Majestic nightclub and cabaret in Taipei.  You had your car valet-parked by an attendant, and then you are up the lift with 3 other men.  Very quickly, the door hostess addressed you as Ta Ker, and lead you to a round sofa.  After you ordered your drinks, the mamasan came along, introduced a few ladies to you and your associates.  Within a few minutes, everybody settled down.

Not very far in front of our table was a stage, with blinking lights.  Mei Hua, top singer at Majestic nightclub was singing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCPYNcijVkE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  In the nightness, on the dance floor, was a group of men and women holding one another, around the waist and neck.  After the second song, the numbers changed, and my partner just walked away, and I went back to my table.

The mamasan kept introducing us to other ladies; we kept drinking and dancing throughout the night, listening to nostalgic songs.  Sometimes, we drank too much, and the bouncers would help us to our car, but not without paying the bill and tips.  It was always a night to remember.

Again, I must warn that this is a bad habit of mine.  I like to dream and when we have enough people to share the dream, we make that dream happen.  You can take one of the roles, as mamasan, dance hostesses, businessman, lady guest, door hostesses, singer or drinks pourer.  You can also be nightclub owner.  And, for the men and ladies who have never been to a nightclub cabaret, you can come as guest, make sure you are escorted.  Share with us your experience too.

Take this as a fun nostagic evening, among friends, a chance to show how naughty we were during our younger days.  An opportunity to show how seductive and sexy we can be, an opportunity to sing love and hate Chinese songs from the 70’s, a chance to be a bitchy mamasan, and for some men, to show off how big the wallets are and how big the tummies can get.  We can adjourned to the nearby teochew muay stall after midnight.

I would appreciate no one makes fun, insult or upset fellow male or female SHCian.  The bouncers will have a say, if you can enter.  This event is strictly for registered SilverHairsClub members.

Terence Seah

Roles:

  • Nightclub owner (1) – Geraldine Ting (if in Singapore).
  • Nightclub co-owner (1) – Jeffrey Lim (half time in Bkk)
  • Stage manager (1) – Thomas Loh
  • A&P Manager (1) – Frisna Tan
  • Registration desk (including ursher duties) – Eileen Thean, Oi Cheng, Veronique Lee (ursher), Ann Lim (ursher), Rene Leong (Ursher), Angela Straaten (Ursher)
  • Lining the stars singers – Lily Ho
  • Waitress (5) – Rosalind Lee. Molly Chua
  • Mamasan (Goup 1) and 5 PR hostesses – Jennifer Lim, Xiang Xiang, 
  • Mamasan (Goup 2) and 5 PR hostesses –  Susan Chan (Mamasan), Catherine Yeo, Agnes Seow, Lydia Chin & Susan Tan
  • Singers (10) – Janet Chan ???, (2)??????, (3)?????? & (4)?????????, Catherine Koh 1. Huan Le Jin Xiao, 2. Jin Tian Bu Hui Jia, 3. Zui Hou Yi Ye, 4. Wu Ye Xiang Wen; Caroline Gee (1. Jing Yue Yu Mong Mong (off-beat cha cha), 2. Qing Ren De Yan Lei (slow). 3. Bu Liao Qing (slow). 4. Cha Cham Bo), Hamidah Ishak (1) Khe Ai The Mei Kway Hwa, (2) Shanghai Tan, (3) Zhu Ni Shun Fong), Doreen Lau ?? ? & ? ??; , Sally Tan  ? ? ? ? ?; ? ? ?; ???? ?; Peng Peng (1) ?????, (2) ???????? & (3) ????. Singers list is closed.
  • Cashier (2)
  • Flower girl – Ah Nee
  • Valet assistants (2)
  • Jaswant Singh – Dan Huang
  • Bouncers (1) – Sam Huat
  • Guest (Businessmen) Group 1 – Terence Seah (Businessman), Partner MaryChan, James Tan
  • Guest (Businessmen) Group 2 – Patrick Chan (businessman), …. forming group.
  • Guest (Businessmen) Group 3 – Michael Tan (Towkay), Ah Nee, some more …
  • Guest (Businessmen) Group 4 – Andrew Koh (Businessman), forming group ..
  • Guests (DOM) – 5 or more) – Chief DOM Richard Kee, …..

Rules:

  • Ladies not allowed entry, unless escorted by male guest.
  • Lady businesswomen can be allowed entry by Club manager only.
  • Tips only for valet assistants, waiters, waitresses, mamasans and singers.  At patron’s discretion.
  • Patrons should try to form tables so that they have good view of what’s going around.  If not, to get a good seat, you may tip the waitress $2.
  • Rules of the 5-10 hand game. http://classes.design.ucla.edu/Winter09/157A/?p=216.  Ask you friend if you do not know how to play.  Or see this video. http://classes.design.ucla.edu/Winter09/157A/?p=216.

Details:

  • Venue: eight degree, located 8th floor, NTU Club @ One North, 6 mins walk from Bourna Vista MRT station.
  • Date/time: Sat, 16 Jan 2010 evening Now, it is Sun 17 Jan 2009, 1900 to 2359 hrs.
  • No of participants in this nightclub script – approx 60 Pax.  100 pax.
  • Cost:  Before 20 15 Dec 2009 – $20/pax; after 20 15 Dec 2009 – $25/pax.
  • Internet banking account:  DBS savings plus  023-2-036 239

Registration starts:

  1. Steven Chan – patron, also assisting in the decor. Ticket A008, paid
  2. Terence Seah – Businessman, Ticket E041, paid
  3. Eileen Thean – Registration, Ticket not issued, paid, G061
  4. Lily Ho – patron, Ticket C030, paid
  5. Oi Cheng – Registration desk, patron, ticket not issued, paid, G064
  6. C J Ang – Patron, ticket not issued, paid, G063  Ronald Lam, Patron, Ticket G063, paid
  7. Kristin Leong – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F059
  8. James Tan – businessman’s table, patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F060
  9. Anna Seet – patron, Ticket A002, paid
  10. Mary Chan – businessman’s table, partner, Ticket not issued, paid, G065
  11. Geraldine Ting – co-owner, Ticket not issued, paid, G062
  12. Jeffrey Lim – half owner, Ticket D031 paid
  13. Frisna Tan – A&P manager, Ticket A007, paid
  14. Jennifer Lim – patron and hostess, Ticket not issued, paid, K100 xx
  15. Xiang Xiang – patron and hostess, Ticket not issued, paid, K099
  16. Susan Chan – mamasan and patron, Ticket D032 paid
  17. Janet Chan – Singer and patron, Ticket C026, paid
  18. Catherine Koh – singer and patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K098
  19. Caroline Gee – singer and patron, Ticket A004, paid
  20. Hamidah – Singer and patron, ticket not issued, paid, K097
  21. Doreen Lau – singer and patron, Ticket A003, paid
  22. Sally Tan – singer and patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K096
  23. Lee Ah Nee – Flower girl and patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K095
  24. Dan Huang Ronnie Sow – patron, ticket not issued, paid, K094
  25. Sam Huat – Bouncer and patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K093
  26. Eileen Lee – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K092
  27. Bira Lupolo – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, K091
  28. Ann Lim – Patron, Ticket D039, paid
  29. Ann to – Patron, Ticket C022, paid
  30. June Lim – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid J090
  31. Sock Cheng – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J089
  32. Karen Thio – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J088
  33. Thomas Loh – Stage manager, Ticket A001, paid
  34. Lilian Teo – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J087
  35. Sunny Yeow Jacqueline Han – Patron, Ticket B013 not issued, paid
  36. Tan Boon Liang – patron, ticket C025, paid
  37. Richard Wong – patron D033 paid
  38. Thomas Lau Say Lian – patron, Ticket D034 paid
  39. Eileen Gum – patron, Ticket D035 paid
  40. Clarice Ng – patron, Ticket D036 paid
  41. Rena Wong – patron, Ticket D037, paid
  42. Lai Fong – patron, Ticket D038, paid
  43. Lydia Chin – patron, Ticket A005, paid
  44. Cat Yeo – patron, Ticket A006, paid
  45. Ronald Wie – patron, Ticket A009, paid
  46. Marilyn Tang – patron, Ticket A010, paid
  47. Alice Teo- patron, Ticket C023, paid – unable to come.  Irene Poh – patron, Ticket C023, not issued, paid
  48. Sunny Yeow – Patron, Ticket C024, paid – unable to come.  Maureen Lee – patron, Ticket C024 not issued, not paid
  49. Jenny Tan – patron, Ticket C028, paid
  50. Brenda Kim – Patron, Ticket C029, paid
  51. Veronique Lee – Patron, Ticket B011, paid
  52. Dan Huang – Jaswant Singh, patron, Ticket B012, paid
  53. Eyvonne Chew – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J086
  54. Joy Chuang – patron, Ticket C027, paid
  55. Clara Chay – patron Jonson Tan – patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J085
  56. Richard Kee – patron, ticket not issued, paid, J084
  57. Jane Kee – patron, ticket not issued, paid, J083
  58. Pauline Khoo – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, J082
  59. Rene Leong – Ursher, patron, ticket not issued, paid, J081
  60. Malcolm Chen Ong – Patron, Ticket not issue, paid, H080
  61. Michael Tan – Businessmen and Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H079
  62. Susan Chang – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H078
  63. Gingko Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H077 xx  Nellie Wong Venika Leong – Patron, Ticket H077, paid
  64. Hou Chong – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H076
  65. Lina Ng – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H075
  66. Susan Tan – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H074
  67. Mike Tan – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H073
  68. Alicia Soh – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H072
  69. Angela Straaten – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, H071
  70. Helen Kwek – Patron, ticket not isused, paid, G070
  71. Lim Tian Soo – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, G069
  72. Agnes Seow – Hostess, Ticket not issued, paid, G068
  73. Zahariah Helen Wong – patron, ticket not issued, paid, G067
  74. Molly Chua –  patron, ticket not issued, paid, G066
  75. Andrew Koh – Patron, Ticket B014 not issued, paid
  76. Lina Tan – Patron, Ticket B015 not issued, paid
  77. Wong Hong Jeng – Patron, Ticket B016 not issued,  paid
  78. Eliza Chua – Patron, Ticket B017 not issued, paid
  79. Lawrence Khan – Patron, Ticket B018 not issued, paid
  80. Marg Tian – Patron, Ticket B019 not issued, paid
  81. Kent Chan – Patron, Ticket B020 not issued, paid
  82. Susan Tan Seok Wah – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F058
  83. Pearl Goh – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F057
  84. Paul Kong – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F056
  85. Peggy Kong – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F055
  86. Rosna Rauaee Grace Kok – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F054
  87. Dolly Lim – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F053
  88. Norlinda – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F052
  89. Loh Yew Kwong – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, F051
  90. Nina Choo – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E050
  91. Mega Abdullah – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E049
  92. Jane Tan – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E048
  93. Peng Peng – Singer, Ticket not issued, paid, E047
  94. Dennis Wee – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E046
  95. Shirleen Kao – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E045
  96. John Howe – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E044
  97. Joyce Tan Patrick Chan – businessman, patron, ticket not issued, paid, E043
  98. Chin Boon – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E042
  99. Judy Lim – Patron, Ticket not issued, paid, E041
  100. James Chan – Patron, paid, Ticket K092
  101. Ben Foo – Patron, paid, New ticket will be isued. Ticket M101
  102. Maggie Teo – Patron, unpaid, new ticket not issued. Ticket M102

Our target is now revised to 100 paid pax. 

On hold and waiting:

  1. Rosalind Lee – confirmed.
  2. James Chan – confirmed
  3. Nellie Wong – confirmed
  4. Irene Poh – confirmed
  5. Maureen Lee – confirmed
  6. Maggie Teo – Ticket  not issued.
  7. Venika Leong – Ticket not issued.
  8. Ronald Lam – will try.  lucky got someone pull out, G063

Attendance closed.

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What will you be doing over the next 3 days?

Many SHCians must have made their plans to go away for this long weekend.  I am also quite sure a number will stay in Singapore to enjoy the quiet surroundings.  For some, it will just be a case of no plans; just staying at home to enjoy TV, Mahjong and maybe a few kakis coming to the house.

Share with us what you will be doing.  And if you are not doing anything, nothing to be shy about, maybe some of us can meet up for tea or kopi.  Enjoy the peace Sat, Sun and Mon.

Terence Seah

Barter, Swop, Hire, FOC…

Members interested in the idea of learning or receiving through an exchange scheme may be wondering how the idea can be implemented without fuss. Here I suggest two main ways:

1. Direct approach – state/explain your interest(s) e.g. to learn the cha2. Then state/ explain the skill(s) or service(s) you are offering  for the exchange/swop.

2. KIV approach – (a)state/describe your interest(s) e.g. learn to bake pineapple tarts and indicate your willingness to barter or to make payment. Then wait for interested parties to approach you.

(b)state/describe your skill area(s) or the service(s) you are able to provide, e.g. teaching craftwork, language, etc and indicate your interest to barter or to be ‘hired’.  Then wait for interested parties to make their offers.

If there is a ‘match’ of mutual interest, the two parties carry out their negotiation, etc. in private and they will be solely responsible for any agreements reached or decisions made.

Of course you can offer your service(s) for FREE. That’ll be the icing on the cake. I’m sure the recipient will be very grateful.

Feel free to offer your suggestions, feedback, etc, as these will help to shape the exchange scheme. Because it’s a win-win situation, I hope ‘barter trading’ will become a feature of the SHC.

Do you watch the weekend TV drama Ai ??

Whenever I am in Singapore over a weekend, I would watch this TV drama Ai ?.  Must have seen at least 10 episodes.  Full of tears, plenty of hate, lust and jealousy.  I heard from my colleaques that this TV drama will last 5 years.  And, if you have not seen the drama, watch out for the actors and actresses.  The guys are handsome and they dont seem to need to work.  The actresses are really pretty.  Each time, when the show is on, I would just wait patiently for this petite actress to come online.

The theme song is very nice too.  In case, you have not heard of it, here it is.  Click here.

Do you watch this Chinese drama, and what do you think of it?

Terence Seah

Live to eat or eat to live?

Most of us will one way or another be confronted by this question. I want to carry the question posed by Terence further, is it enough to ask ourselves what make us feel good or look good. When I look in the mirror, at the receding hairline and the paunch on me; I deny that I am looking at myself. This just cannot be me like when I was about 20 years ago; I was sporting more hairs and lot of muscle mass then.

Just some years ago I invested in a toupee which cost me $1000, it certainly makes me feel good and look good. It was weaved on my head at four corners and each week I need to go back for maintenance which cost $15 for each visit. One day I look for my toupee and found it missing, someone may have stolen it! Well, vanity comes at a cost!

I love to jog and swim when I was younger. With some friends we frequently jog at Mac Ritchie Reservoir and I can swim ten laps free-style effortlessly. Those were the day; I have put off doing exercise and neglecting to eat healthily. At what price? Now I am contending with diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.

About twenty years ago I bought a book entitled ‘Eat right for your blood types’ by an author called, I think it sound like ‘Alamo’. It was recommended by a client of mine; I did try to read the book but was too lazy to read it through.

There will be lot of skeptics around denying the usefulness of sticking to the teaching. I belong to blood group A and realized that if I want to stay healthy and live longer I have to adhere to a certain diet. To my horror Type A blood type must stick to a vegetarian diet as we are prone to heart disease, cancer and diabetes. We must stay on foods in their natural state: fresh, pure and organic and we will naturally not put on weight.

I was disheartened to know that I must not consume beef, pork, lamb, veal, venison, duck and goose but luckily chicken, Cornish hens and turkey are okay. Seafood like carp, cod, grouper, mackerel, salmon and snail are most beneficial. Catfish, caviar, clam, crab, eel, frog, lobster, mussels, octopus, scallop, shrimp, squid and turtle are no no! Dairy products of all kind not good at all for Type A. Yogurt, goat cheese and goat milk are okay but all other cheeses and milk not allowed.

I have thought of becoming a vegetarian but the idea of denying me a juicy sirloin steak made me gave up the idea. The spirit certainly is willing but the flesh is tremendously weak! Will I be strong enough to stay on this diet knowing that the reward is overwhelming, to look good and feel good? I am looking for like-minded folks willing to share my dream of eating healthily and living life with zest and vibrancy.

Those who are curious to know their blood types and diets, there are:

Type A is people who should be vegetarian and avoid meat and dairy products.

Type B should eat red meat and fish. Type O should eat lots of animal protein and little carbohydrates and Type AB should eat a combination of Types A and B.

Type A+ :

  1. Dan
  2. Caroline
  3. Patrick Lee
  4. Angela
  5. Mary Chan

Type AB+ :

  1. Tian Soo

Type O :

  1. Amy Soon
  2. Catherine Ho

Type O + :

  1. Nor

Type XO ?

What is your secret to looking good and feeling good?

All of us have our own secrets to looking good and feeling good.  We might think there are no secrets; but if we dont do anything about our health, our body and our mind, we can deteriorate.  I see many SHCians look and feel very good.  You see them at walks, cycling, badminton, dancing, tours and conversations.  They have great smiles, firmed bodies, healthy looks and are pleasant to talk with.

All of us have reached a stage in our life where such tips can help us feel good and look vibrant.  Do share with us, what is your secret to looking and feel good.  Is it your dress, hairstyle, or is it disco dancing all night or a glass of wine every day?  Dont be shy.  We love to hear from you.

Please do not copy and paste from the internet.  Please do not give advice.  Simply your secret.

Terence Seah

Knowing fellow SHCians:

  • Geraldine Ting – My secret is to keep smiling, laughing and keeping peace, while enjoying my vices.  I love going home before 1am.
  • Mary Lee (Perth) – My secret is a healthy drink of Korean ginseng red extract with honey, raising a garden and pampering myself once in a while.  My secret to feeling good is when I am able to help someone look good and feel good.
  • Terence Seah – My secret is a young son, moving all the time, and wash my face without soap.  My new secret to feel good is to read the SHC forum everyday.
  • Lina Ng – My secret is to start the day early, swim, gym and maintain crazy circle of friends.
  • Steven Chan – My secret to feeling good is to be with my dog and bringing him for walks.  Daily gardening, alternate day swimming and cooking my specialties.  As for looking good, I think my height is just great.  Just hoping to gain another 50 kg.
  • Tim Liu – My secret to looking good is my hair.  I feel good when I have some things to comment, and enjoy making fun of everybody else. I grumble when I talk about myself.
  • Hou Chong – My secret is really to be passionate about what I do.   And, I feel good when I smile at you and you smile back.  I love my "Min kiah Yu".
  • Abel Tan – My secret to feeling good comes from my two daughters 2.5 and 6 years.  And of course a good night sleep.
  • Mary Chan – Every body knows my secret.  It’s keeping fit walking and dancing.  I believe it is important to feel good and look good too.
  • Marilyn Tang – My secret is feeling good and looking good is my early retirement at 50.  I keep healthy, meet friends, keep investing and watching the world go by.
  • Sekaran – My secret  to looking good and feeling good lies behind my rehab and supervision job. I also job 2 to 3 times a week.  I hope SHC activities will also keep me active too.
  • Patrick Yeo – My Secret to looking Good and Feeling Good is to tell myself that I’m feeling good and looking good every morning in front of the mirror before going to work.  It’s mindset and positive thinking.
  • Lisa Ong – My secret to feeling good and looking good is to sleep before 10pm and rise early.  My other secret is to be happy and be harmonious with myself and everybody.
  • Rosna White – My secret to looking good is to smile at the moon every night and feeling good when the moon smile back at me.
  • Anne Chua – My secret is to stay bubbly, though I am already a grandma of two going three coming on the way.
  • Sue Chan – My secret to looking good is a strict 3-day fruit regime once a week.  I stay confident & keep thinking positive.
  • Sock Cheng – My secret is simply be happy and pamper myself with massages, shopping and eating.
  • Sylvia Ang – I look good and feel good, just by doing things in moderation and leading a simple life.
  • Shirley Yuen – My best kept secret to looking good is plenty of SEX, with some tongkat ali and bittle juice.
  • Sam Goh (Ah Huat) – I feel good when I deliver food to chairity homes and orphanages.  When the children smile, I feel happy and eage to continue do so again.
  • Norlinda – Hmm, you know my secret to feeling and looking young. I love, I care and I trust my family and friends.
  • Your turn – tell us your secret to looking good and feeling good.

Life saving article on Stroke

To all fellow SHC members

Hope this article will prove effective in real times of emergency, especially to those members who have elderly parents / relative staying with them.  I think it would be useful too that we should pass on this info to our children for their knowledge. 

"From a Chinese Professor .                                                                                     
Keep a syringe or needle in your home to do this… It’s amazing and an unconventional way of recovering from stroke, read it through it can help somebody one day.                                                         
                                                                                                               
This is amazing. Please keep this very handy. Excellent tips.                                                 
Do take a minute to read this. You’ll never know, ones life may depend on you.                                 
                                                                                                               
My father was paralysed and later died from the result of a stroke.  I wish I knew about this first aid before. 

When stroke strikes, the capillaries in the brain will gradually burst.                           
When a stroke occurs, stay calm.                                                                               
                                                                                                               
No matter where the victim is, do not move him/her. Because, if moved, the capillaries will burst.             
                                                                                                               
Help the victim to sit up where he/she is to prevent him/her from falling over again and then the blood letting can begin.                                                                                                     
                                                                                                               
If you have in your home an injection syringe that would be the best.                                         
                                                                                                               
Otherwise, a sewing needle or a straight pin will do.                                                         
                                                                                                               
1.    Place the needle/pin over fire to sterilize it and then use it to prick the tip of all ……10 fingers.
2.    There are no specific acupuncture points, just prick about an mm from the fingernail.                   
3.    Prick till blood comes out.                                                                             
4.    If blood does not start to drip, then squeeze with your fingers.                                       
5.    When all 10 digits is bleeding, wait a few minutes then the victim will regain consciousness.           
                                                                                                               
6.    If the victim’s mouth is crooked, then pull on his ears until they are red. 
                           
7.    Then prick each earlobe twice until two drops of blood comes from each earlobe.     
                   
After a few minutes the victim should regain consciousness.                                                 
                                                                                                               
Wait till the victim regains his normal state without any abnormal symptoms then take him to the hospital.    Otherwise, if he was taken in the ambulance in a hurry to the hospital, the bumpy trip will cause all the capillaries in his brain to burst.                                                                             
                                                                                                               
If he could save his life, barely managing to walk, then it is by the grace of his ancestors.                 
‘I learned about letting blood to save life from Chinese traditional doctor who lives in Sun Juke.
                                                                                                               
Furthermore, I had practical experience with it. Therefore, I can say this method is 100% effective.   
       
In 1979, I was teaching in Fung Gaap Collegein Tai Chung.                                            
                                                                                                         
One afternoon, I was teaching a class when another teacher came running to my classroom and said in panting,   
‘come quick, our supervisor has had a stroke!’. I immediately went to the 3rd floor.                   
When I saw our supervisor, his colour was off, his speech was slurred , his mouth was crooked – all the symptoms of a stroke.                                                                               
                                                                                                               
I immediately asked one of the practicum students to go to the pharmacy outside the school to buy a syringe,  which I used to prick his 10 fingers tips.                                                             
                                                                                                               
When all 10 fingers were bleeding (each with a pea-sized drop of blood),after a few minutes, his  face  regained its colour and his eyes’ spirit returned,                                                             
                                                                                                               
But his mouth was still crooked. So I pulled on his ears to fill them with blood.                             
When his ears became red ,                                                                    
I pricked his right earlobe twice to let out two drops of blood .                                                 
When both earlobes had two drops of blood each , a miracle happened.                                           

Within 3-5 minutes the shape of his mouth returned to normal and his speech became clear.                     
                                                                                                               
We let him rest for a while and have a cup of hot tea , then we helped him go down the stairs, drove him to Wei Wah Hospital . He rested one night and was released the next day to return to school to teach.. Everything worked normally.                                                                                               
There were no ill after effects.                                                                               
On the other hand, the usual stroke victim usually suffers Irreparable bursting of the brain capillaries on the way to the hospital. As a result, these victims never recover.’ Therefore, stroke is the second cause of death. The lucky ones will stay alive but can remain paralysed for life.                             
                                                                                                               
It is such a horrible thing to happen in ones life.                                                           
                                                                                                               
If we can all remember this blood letting method and start the life saving process immediately, in a short time, the victim will be revived and regain 100% normality. "     

Myra Chia

                                 

I lost my phone…..

Hi to all my beloved SHCians,

A big THANK YOU for specially making the trip down to Adonai last Saturday.  Apologise if I have been slow in serving.  Appreciate greatly your presence.

Thanks Dan a great deal for organizing this gathering but again apologise for the ‘cramp’ but hopefully we can have that gathering on weekdays or better still in the evening…Adonai can extend the operaion hours for you guys.

By the way, my mobile chose to stay behind when I got off the cab.  I have one whole list of contacts that my mobile has taken off with it.  Appfreciate if you guys can kindly leave your contact numbers via my email address everson_theblueplace@hotmail.com so that I can update into my new mobile which sad to say, I have not gotten the time to hunt for one.  You can also sms me the contact as I have gotten a replacement SIM card and had it activated.

Thanks alot guys!

 

Regards!

Anne Chua

Got a lobang, call abang!

Just yesterday I received a call stating that I was selected to attend a survey. An appointment was fixed at 1:45pm today and I attended. The session was supposed to last for half an hour but stretched to about forty-five minutes! I was asked a lot of questions and when it finally ended I was given a token of $40.00. Not bad huh for less than an hour of drilling?

Some of you may be skeptical whether this is selling of time-share or spa services. Let me assure you there are also true blue company sincerely doing some survey for products to be launched soon. There may be other surveys done and if some of you were involved, do share with us what you went through and how you were compensated. I have also heard of some hospitals looking for ‘guinea pigs’ to try out some pills or supplements.  Would you go if the compensation is good?

If you think that the survey is good and want to recommend a friend to benefit as well, do refer us.  Dun know what Terence will think.  Are we advertising here? Sorry I just do not know what category this post should come under!

Dan

What ideas and suggestions do you have for SHC?

Time flies and it’s already mid year. Many of you have been SilverHairsClub members for some time, while others are new. For those who are new, I am sure you are wondering what SHC is all about. For those who have been with us for a few years, you probably have some expectations. Now, let’s see if we can refresh and review SilverHairsClub.

SHC’s prime and only objective is to provide a platform for SHCians, over 45, to meet new and more friends. With new and more friends, we take our SilverHairs years into another level.

Over the next one or two months, I like to ask you to open up and share with us what ideas and expectations you have. Is there something you wish SilverHairsClub or its members can do? Is there something you like to do for the club to make it more vibrant and exciting? What other activities do you hope to see, besides dancing, cycling, walking, eating, golfing, board games, bowling, mahjong, travelling, chatting and talking about retirement living?

Share with all of us. Who knows, your idea or suggestions may trigger others to think aloud too. And, please do not trample the ideas or suggestions of fellow members. So, go ahead and actively speak your mind.

Terence Seah

Thailand a place for 3-mths short-term retirement

I would like to start a topic on short-term retirement in one of our neighbouring countries.  And, as I plan to spend most of my retirement time in Thailand, I would love to see more SilverHairs considering Thailand as one of the locations.  Do note I am not encouraging you to migrate.  Singapore is our home.  I hope others who are familiar with neigbouring countries and who are familiar with the country and wish to take the lead to do likewise, a new Post on that country.

Thailand is a great tourist place, but this post would not dwell on shopping, holidays and eating.  Your travel agent can take care of that.  Of course, in discussing short term retirement, we can cover medical, residence, retirement visa, acceptance by the community, friends, costs and enjoying the country.

Of course, some of us are critical of the country for various reasons.  In this case, Thailand is not for you.  If you are positive, join this forum, and I believe we can exchange good information.

Terence Seah

Singing moves the body in us. Can you sing and entertain?

Today, I am in Hyderabad, staying at the Taj Benjara Hotel and having an afternoon tea alone. Gosh, alone again, but my mind is pretty active with SilverHairsClub. Surprising in India, where the population is 1 billion, the hotel has a 2 girls Filippino band playing and singing and entertaining the high tea crowd.

From time to time, we see some amateur singers from within SilverHairsClub, popping up once in a while. I don’t mean the professionals who sing with bands or in clubs. I mean those who can go on stage, hold a mic, sing without scripts, without a karaoke system, but with accompanied music. And, able to entertain the audience.

One person who can sing, but can be entertaining if he wants to, is Timothy Liu. I saw him sing in Batam. Two ladies whom I have observed as very entertaining with Cantonese and Hokkien songs are Janet Chan and Peng Peng. Caroline Gee has the courage and the guts, and she sings confidently English songs. There is another gentleman, whom I recently met, and who sings and plays the organ and the guitar is Hou Chong. I met him in Perth. No doubt, we have a Rod Stewart in the body of Boon Liang. He is great. We also have Shirleen Kao with her Japanese numbers. Heard her sing at Kukup.

I am not a singer, but I believe we have many talent spotters who have seen other SHCians sing and entertain. If you know of someone within SilverHairsClub and who can sing and entertain, accompanied by music, as an amateur, not a pro, plse share with us who these SHCians are. He/she can sing in any language or dialect, but must be entertaining too.

Why am I asking? This is for an activity which I plan to organise next year. I have not spoken with our Club Manager, as she comes online only on 1st May. No, this is not for Stars-in-Concert.

So, you can see my mind works, even on a Sunday, and while doing nothing over High Tea and listening to a sweet 2 ladies band in Hyderabad, India.

Geok Suan, Dhevi, Dolly and many more talked about this too. All to find reasons for us to get together, and know more friends, our age.

Terence Seah

Do you have a new shop, a new house or a new office?

I have a number of delicate Chinese fingerines, vases, wall hangings, rare stone carvings, etc.  And, I am looking for a place to have them displayed or appreciated in a new house or shop.  They are not for sale, neither are they to be given away.  They are not cheap.  I have bought them from Shanghai, and am looking for a temporary place to hold them and for others to appreciate.

One day, when we can find a place where we use as a lounge or a meeting place for SilverHairs, I shall ask for them to be returned.  Then, we can all appreciate them.

Terence Seah

Do we have enough Teochew nan in SHC?

When I was in Perth last week, I realised that we do have many Teochews in SHC.  I am a Teochew, and I only speak teochew with my parents.  Today, I have not had opportunities to speak teochew with many people.  My hougang gang have always told me that teochews have red "ka chng", and I believe this must be the first criteria for someone to be called a teochew.

Teochews should also be able to understand teochew jokes.  I think it is fun if not memorable to view some video clips from youtube, using search words "teochew joke" or "teohew language" or "teochew show".  So, knowing at least two teochew jokes, comedies or songs would be the second criteria for someone to be a teochew.

The third criteria is if one of your parents is a teochew, I also think we can classify you as a teochew.  But, must have evidence.

The last criteria is the teochew clan must recognise you.  I guess if you can get two teochews to certify you as a teochew, this should be good enough.

Perhaps, at the end of this year, we can have a teochew dinner for teochews. So, Let’s start by checking the backside.

Terence Seah

 

What will you be doing during “Earth Hour”, 8.30pm Sat night

I only came to know about "Earth Hour" today.  At the strike of 8.30 pm on Saturday night, everybody switches off the lights and other power supply in the house, the office and in the entertainment spots.  Some suggestions, I thought was interesting.  Sleep naked, because the airconditioning is off.  Time to sneak off the restaurant without paying.  Give someone a smooch, cause you won’t be reognised.

If you know what is Earth Hour, share here what you will be doing?

Terence Seah

A Bangala mix with Hindi music disco

Oooh, I just love to dream. I just got out from a dinner at a posh Dhaka social club and now into a local Bangladeshi disco. Located on the 19th floor, the disco is packed with some 100 bangladesh professionals, who are just unwilling to go home. The time is 1055pm. The music is Bangladesh mixed with Hindi. You won’t believe it but the singer is 35 year old, from Dhaka, and extremely sexy and entertaining. With one keyboard, and a tabla, the mood was just right for a disco. Reminds me of the Bollywood disco I went to in Goa. Here, all hairs down. And everybody were as close as a sandwich pair with only a piece of cheese in between. if you think there is a recession in Dhaka, then I would say this city is 6 months behind the rest of the world. Red sarries, fast tempo, oohs, hi my friend, dim lights and bangla mad drinks. Gosh, I had 6 doubles of black label whisky, so this may not make sense. But, in my restrained body, I am thinking and dreaming of a Indian Bollywood mixed with Bangladesh disco for all of us. The music is loud and fantastic. How, cannot express in English. Oh, and not to forget, the cigar. When, aiyah, this year. Terence Seah

55 – the celebration years

Hi All SHCians, this was from Lee Patrick SJ which I had post on his behalf for this time only. 

So Patrick, next time, you have post on your own liao.. ok… Dolly 

~ For Those Over 55 Years Old ~

Some recipients below 55 included : )

Read and get on with celebrating your life!

Time is like a river . . .

You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow has passed and will never pass again. 

Enjoy every moment of life.

– For those who are already 55, start practicing.

– For those almost 55, get ready.

– For those where 55 is a long way off, help your parents do it.

For Those Over 55 Years Old :

1. Focus on enjoying people, not on indulging in or accumulating material things.


 2. Plan to spend whatever you have saved.  You deserve to enjoy it and the healthy years you have left. 

Travel if you have not done so.  Don’t leave anything for your children or loved ones to quarrel about. 

By leaving too much, you may even cause more trouble when you are gone. 

 3. Live in the here and now, not in the yesterdays and tomorrows.  It is only today that you can handle. 

Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not even happen. 

 4. Enjoy your grandchildren (if blessed with any) but don’t be their full time baby sitter. 

You have no moral obligation to take care of them. 

Don’t have any guilt about refusing to baby sit anyone’s kids, including your own grandkids. 

Your parental obligation is to your children.  After you have raised them into responsible adults,

your duties of child-rearing and babysitting are finished.  Let your children raise their own off-springs. 

 5. Accept physical weakness, sickness and other physical pains.  It is a part of the ageing process. 

Enjoy whatever your health can allow.

6. Enjoy what you are and what you have right now.  STOP working hard for what you do not have. 

If you don’t have them, it’s probably too late.

7. Enjoy your life with your spouse, children, grandchildren and friends. 

People, who truly love you, love you for yourself, not for what you have. 

Anyone who loves you for what you have will just give you  misery. 

And you’d probably know that by now.

8. Forgive and accept forgiveness.  Forgive yourself and others. 

Enjoy peace of mind and peace of soul.

9. Not trying to be morbid, but befriend death.  It’s a natural part of the life cycle.  Don’t be afraid of it. 

Death is the beginning of a new and better life. 

So, prepare yourself not for death but for a new life towards the realms of eternity.

10. Be at peace with your yourself.

You are the children of the universe.

In the Mood for Love?

Gong Xi Fa Cai to all SHC Members!

My bi-monthly lifestyle magazine "Silver Lining" finally went to press in December and we have just finished our 2nd issue due to hit the news-stand on Feb 1st. 

February issue will carry a "Love" theme and while I was commissioning the stories to our pool of writers, we ask a married friend to write a story about LOVE and ROMANCE for the Feb issue.  Her immediate response was "when you’ve been married as long as I have, you are more likely to bash your partner over the head with a saucepan than woo him with a candlelight dinner"!!  

It will be interesting to hear your perspective on this topic – whether you are married, divorced, single or widowed.  An appropriate topic since we will soon be approaching Valentine’s in a fortnight’s time :)  So what does Valentine mean to us, the Silver Hairs?

BTW, I would be happy to give out complimentary copies of our Feb "Love" issue to all SHC members.  Interested, please drop me your contact.  

Diana

Viewpoint on prostitution

Now that some of us are going to visit a brothel in Karimon, it is good time to get your views on Prostitution.

We are all brought up to shant prostitues. They are  the scorn of almost all societies. They are evil people with no morale. They break up families, spread deceases and are shameless. Many religions forbids protitution as a profession or using this service.

To prostitute oneself is to sell your body in exchange for money or other  benefits. When a parent arranges for a daughter to merry a rich man or when a girl chooses a man for financial security we call them ‘clever girls’.

I can only think of 2 reasons why a women would want to bcome a prostitute. First, There are women who required to sell their bodies because that is the only way they or their family can survive. Secondly there are those who choses it simply because it is a better option than doing ‘proper’ work.

The women in the first category must be honurable. They work is hard for their money. They not only endure dirty old man but also the social disgrace and scorn they receive from proper ladies and men.  They do not resort to stealing or cheating.

The group of people that chooses to be prostitutes, they do it after assessing their own assets and weight their options. This is a same as what we all do when we choose a job or career. You do what you are interested and/or can give you maximum returns in wealth and happiness. It is a job, perfectly legal in Singapore. It is legal because it does not infringe on the rights of other citizens.

If we consider morals, the bankers at Lehman Brothers and corrupt politicians, they are by far much worst. A prostitute can show as much as she/he can to the buyer and the buyer gets what he pays for. A prostitute may transmit a desease to the customer but the customer can avail himself with protections. A banker and politician would deliberately take advantage of people by lies and deceits and yet we regard them with high esteem.

Does prostitution provide a service to the community? I think they must do, otherwise we would not see it florishing in all countries even in those that make it illegal.

I have difficulty figuring out what is so wrong with protitution, but I would not want my children, if I have any to be protitutes because they will pay a high price being marginalize by society. But why?

Feel free to share with us what you are doing or have done today

It’s nice that Chinese New Year has arrived.  The weather is holding, warm and dry.  When you get a chance to peep into the SHC website, do write a few lines and tell us what you are doing.  Keep writing and share your traditional excitements with us.  And, refresh your browser.

Terence Seah

Lunar New Year greetings to fellow SHCians

The Lunar New Year festivities and traditions have been celebrated by Chinese for many centuries. It is an important occasion, bringing children, grand-children, parents and grand-parents together.

As has been practised many years in our life time, Chinese New Year brings to us memories of spring cleaning our houses, giving ang-pows to children, exchanging oranges, wearing everything red, getting together the families for the grand re-union dinner, visiting friends and relatives and remembering our loved ones.

Here we share our thoughts and exchange our greetings. Feel free to tell us what you have been doing in your house, whether you make or lose, how much ang pow you have given or collected and what you doing during the Lunar New Year, the year of the hard-working Ox.

And if you are an Ox, come tell us what the new year will mean for you. No limit on the number of words or times you want to share your thoughts. A Happy prosperous New Year to everybody.

From and to every SHCian.

Extract-ST Article “Retooling for Encore Careers”

Hi SHCians:

I would like to share the following extract by Mr Marc Freedman, founder of non profit organisation Civic Ventures in San Francisco:

Many of the most important social and human services needs of the coming decades will require        

  •  fundamental human kindness
  • mentoring children
  • caring for the frail
  • supporting the elderly  

Individuals of any education level are in a position to provide these services.

Even if they dont want to save the world, finding a renewed purpose later in life can be a blessing since many would have otherwise lived out their last years in loneliness.

Ultimately an encore career – whatver it may be put older folks at the intersection of money, meaning and impact, he says.

Its about reaping the maximum returns on experience and paying it forward.

Wow……….. after reading all that we need to tell and constantly remind ourselves that being old still has our own "value added" ness.

Enjoy ………..Seize the day!!!!!           

Nostalgic songs of yesteryear!

Dear SHCians, 2008 has gone and we have just started on 2009. How will we fare this year with the recession in our midst. What upcoming events will we look forward to and what activities have we in mind to contribute to the SHC’s fraternity. As Terence has put it, we must dare to dreams and do what we have not done before. Hopefully more of you with ideas will come forward and share with us.

As the heading suggest, I have in days gone by listen to beautiful songs and music that kindles the spirit and the soul. I have listens to the music by ‘Los Indios Tabarajas’ and was overwhelmed by the instruments that brought forth those exquisite tunes. I lost my copy of this group and been hunting high and low for it. Perhap someone may tell me where to get it. Another group that moves me by their songs and music is the ‘Ray Coniff Singers’.

This is also an opportunity for music and songs lovers to share and perhap meet together!

Dan Huang

What are your dreams and wishes for 2009?

The year 2008 has just past, and most of us have made our 2009 resolutions, dreams and wishes.

You may be surprised, but we can help one another fulfil or achieve our dreams and wishes. And one way is to openly share our resolutions and dreams with other SilverHairs.

Whether you are a new or old SHCians, don’t be shy.

Terence Seah

US dollar has begun to fall. What ‘s its impact on Singapore?

US fed reserve has just slashed its benchmark Fed funds rates to near zero.  This signals the US readiness to keep rates low for some periods of time.  With further contraction of the US economy and further deflationary pressures, banks have been charging one another below 0.5% for overnight loans.  All tools have been tried.  What else is there to try?

Where will the Sing dollar be heading towards?  Please share your thoughts on the impact on Singapore.

Terence Seah 

Going to Batam 7/8 Dec 2008

I am thinking of going to Batam on a 2D/1N holiday. Will only stay within the hotel compound. Just to breathe some fresh, maybe be naughty a bit and enjoy some beers or whiskies. Do nothing. Start early Sunday and return Monday late afternoon.

Anyone interested or any suggestions for hotels or bookings? I am 99% sure of going.

Terence Seah

Today’s news reports

So much has happened lately; carnage in Mumbai; Bangkok’s airports chaos & of course the on-going financial crisis. I shed tears everytime I read the daily reports of the senseless loss of Ms. Lo Hwei Yen in Mumbai. The pain felt by her immediate families and loved ones and even those who don’t know her is indescribable. How tragic.

On a more uplifting front is the return to normalcy of the Bangkok airports and especially heartening to know that our fellow SHCians are all home safe and sound. Your families must be happy & relieved!

Today in the Mind Your Body segment is an interesting article "Ageing In Style" written by Gary Hayden. He also quote an interesting poem by Samuel Ullman: ‘Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideas. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul’. The hale & hearty ways some of the SHCians displayed here are so true to this poem. These members are out to have a good time and at the same time they are ‘spreading’ their enthusiasm to other members. These members know who you are – so give yourselves a pat on the back!

Here’s wishing all a Happy, Healthy and SAFE New Year.  Cheers, fellow SHC members.

Florence Ho

Touching poem about a “Crabby Old Woman”

Someone I know sent me this very touching poem. It refers to a nurse, but I’m sure we are all guilty of this to some extent. Do read and do some deep thinking.

Crabby Old Woman

 

  • What do you see, nurses?
  • What do you see?
  • What are you thinking,
  • When you’re looking at me?

 

  • A crabby old woman,
  • Not very wise,
  • Uncertain of habit,
  • With faraway eyes.

 

  • Who dribbles her food,
  • And makes no reply,
  • When you say in a loud voice,
  • ‘I do wish you’d try!’

 

  • Who seems not to notice,
  • The things that you do,
  • And forever is losing,
  • A stocking or shoe

 

  • Who, resisting or not
  • Lets you do as you will,
  • With bathing and feeding,
  • The long day to fill?

 

  • Is that what you’re thinking?
  • Is that what you see?
  • Then open your eyes, nurse,
  • You’re not looking at me.

 

  • I’ll tell you who I am,
  • As I sit here so still,
  • As I do at your bidding,
  • As I eat at your will.

 

  • I’m a small child of ten,
  • With a father and mother,
  • Brothers and sisters,
  • Who love one another.

 

  • A young girl of sixteen,
  • With wings on her feet,
  • Dreaming that soon now,
  • A lover she’ll meet.

 

  • A bride soon at twenty,
  • My heart gives a leap,
  • As I make the vows
  • That I promised to keep.

 

  • At twenty-five now,
  • I have young of my own,
  • Who need me to guide,
  • And a secure happy home.

 

  • A woman of thirty,
  • My young now grown fast,
  • Bound to each other,
  • With ties that should last.

 

  • At forty, my young sons,
  • Have grown and are gone,
  • But my man’s beside me,
  • To see I don’t mourn.

 

  • At fifty once more,
  • Babies play round my knee,
  • Again we know children,
  • My loved one and me.

 

  • Dark days are upon me,
  • My husband is dead,
  • I look at the future,
  • I shudder with dread.

 

  • For my young are all rearing
  • Young of their own,
  • And I think of the years,
  • And the love that I’ve known.

 

  • I’m now an old woman,
  • And nature is cruel,
  • ‘Tis jest to make old age,
  • Look like a fool.

 

  • The body, it crumbles,
  • Grace and vigour depart,
  • There is now a stone
  • Where I once had a heart.

 

  • But inside this old carcass,
  • A young girl still dwells,
  • And now and again,
  • My battered heart swells.

 

  • I remember the joys,
  • I remember the pain,
  • And I’m loving and living
  • Life over again.

 

  • I think of the years,
  • All too few, gone too fast,
  • And accept the stark fact
  • That nothing can last.

 

  • So open your eyes, people,
  • Open and see,
  • Not a crabby old woman;
  • Look closer – see ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet an old person, whether man or woman, who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!