To share a story I read yesterday
A young guy left his home, country and went working in a foreign country. He got a job and a girlfriend there. He never talk to his girlfriend about his home, even she asked him many time.
After 4 years, something happened that the guy has to come home to handle. He came with his girlfriend. He told his girlfriend there is only his mother in his home and refused to talk anything more about his mother. This gave his girlfriend an opinion that his mother is not a nice, easy get along lady.
To his girlfriend’s surprise, when his mother first opened the door to welcome them, she found that his mother was a very nice lady – kind, sweet and soft talking ……, she is a devout Buddhist, but his boyfriend refused to do any talk with his mother. The girlfriend don’t know why, because she knows her boyfriend is not such kind of person. She asked her boyfriend why, but he refused to disclose.
Due to her curiosity, she asked the mother what had happen to get them into such a situation. The mother told her the following story:
“I has a daughter. The relation between the brother and sister is very good, they love each other very much. 4 years ago, a tragedy happened, my daughter was raped and killed by the neighborhood boy (raper). The boy was caught and was sentenced to death. But I pleaded the court to change the death sentence to jail term. My son cannot forgive me for what I did, left home and not contact me any more”
The girlfriend asked the reason why she do the pleading, the mother said: “When the death sentence is announced, I noticed the deep sorrow in the raper mother’s eyes. I think should give the raper’s mother a chance. so I do the pleading, but my son never give me a chance to explain to him”.
The girlfriend told her boyfriend the reason of his mother, but her boyfriend still could not forgive her mother’s doing
At last, the guy finished the thing he has to handle and intended to leave. His girlfriend tried her last effort to convince him at least to talk to his mother once. The guy promised.
To start the talk, the guy said to his mother: “If you can give me a satisfy answer for my question, may be I will forgive you. In these 4 years, I always think of the raper, I feel the pain in my heart, then you will also appear to my mind, and I cannot stop to hate what you have done. Can you tell me what is your feelings when you think of the raper these years”?
The mother silenced for a while and gave the following answer:
“Sorry son, I cannot give you an answer, because I never think of the raper after the court. What I always think of are the time when your sister is around. The time we live happy together. This will give me warm in my heart. So sorry son, I don’t have the answer you want”
The ending of the story …..it is not important, you can set your own ending for it
I don’t think this is a good story, as what the mother do is far from the human nature (not much people in this world can forgive such kind of thing). What his son done is more prone to human.
Why I share this story, because I have experience similar to it (just a little bit, not so extreme). In a few years back, many people talk about positive think and say they always do positive thinking. But I think positive thinking (also forgiveness) is not a human nature, especially when something not good, serious. Usually the thinking is negative and hate.
I am not a positive thinking guy, actually I am quite negative, but I seldom hate (not because of forgiveness, but because of laziness). As I am lazy, there is not much thing can bothering me.
There is one thing that bothering me for nearly 30 years, and when my thinking of this thing change from negative to positive, I got the peace of mine.
The thing that bothering me is my wife’s jealous, I never fooling around since she is my girlfriend (not due to loyalty but due to laziness, why be so trouble to get two or more girlfriend). I think my wife’s jealous is unreasonable and make me annoyed. This happen even when she passed away, whenever I think of her, I will think of her jealous.
But after I join SHC and know more friends (once upon a time, I tried to be friendly but failed). A new thinking come to my mind. I guess her jealous is due to I have not paid enough attention to her.
If this is mentioned in an Elvis Presley’s song, it should be: “May be I didn’t treat her, quite as good as I should have,
May be I didn’t love her, quite as often as I could have.
May be I didn’t hold her, all those lonely, lonely time.
And I guess I never tell her, I so happy that she’s mind.”
so she used jealous to attract my attention. Even this is not the case, Her jealous should be because she care about me very much, why should I bother?? After I change my thinking, whenever I think about her, I feel warm.
Think positive can make people happy. If you can, try it, don’t just talk it.
This year, we shall organise our Business Networking session as follows. During the session, members are encouraged to discuss business opportunities, share ideas and plans, make business friends, exchange business name cards and find partners. Rules of the Club apply.
