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Here is a list of the confirmed attendees.  We apologise that we cannot accept any more participants as the place is booked full, and we are unable to accept walk-in during the evening.  There is no money collection, during the evening. 

For attendees, please note the evening is free seating, and signing-in starts at 5pm.

We wish members an enjoyable evening, getting to know other SilverHairs in Singapore.

Dolly Lim & committee

If you have some old pairs of spectacles, sitting somewhere in the drawer, and you are not using them, do not throw them away.  There are many less fortunate people who have difficulties with their vision, and cannot afford new specs.  We can give these to them.

I have been working with Ivy Low on the collection of old specs.  So far, Ivy has collected 15 pairs of old spectacles from her family.  We have just started this project, and if you or your family members have some unwanted old specs, please contact Ivy Low or myself here.

I am targetting one hundred pairs of old specs, and once we reach this number, I would give them to a couple of old folks groups in Thailand.  You are invited to join me, once we fix a date.

Ivy Low and Terence Seah

Hi I am a new member, 62 years old, retired, likes fishing and good food. Hope to meet some of you out there. Thanks Joseph Tan Mobile 93756335 E-mail: ongpam@yahoo.com.sg Tel 65603365

Posted here are the details of the Dinner and Dance 2007.  Click here for:

1. Invitation card.
2. Program
3. SHC Song – by composer and musician Ronald Wi and singer Clara Chay

The song is ready.  Give the song a go.  It will be released for the first time, during the D&D.

Dolly Lim

In 2006. Patrick Yeo was the Event Organiser for the SHC Annual Games Day, held at the Changi Beach Club.  This year, we will hold the same event on a Saturday.  Whether it will be held on a morning or afternoon depends on the venue.  We are looking for a Country Club with facilities to hold this event.  Likely, located near reservoir grounds.

Soon, we will look out for this year’s Event Organiser.  Meantime,  please put this date in your diary.  And we will start to create the registration list.

• Venue:  Not confirmed, but likely a Country Club facility. You are welcome to suggest.
• Date/Time:  Sat, 20 Oct 2007, Time: morning/afternoon (not confirmed)
• Concept:  Entrance fee:  Free.  Simply share and pay for the game.
• Event Organiser:  The person has not surfaced yet.  Let’s look out.
• Committee members: Welcome volunteers.
• Games:  (a) Mahjong, (b) Bowling (c) Scabble.  Other games can be arranged.ci
• Registration:  Starts now.  Please use this forum to register.  No emails please.

Participants:  Patrick Yeo, Loh Yew Kwong, Joy, Terence Seah, Clara Chay, Suzhang, Mary Tan, LH Jie, Lisa Ong, Steven Chan, Lee Ah Nee, Dolly Lim, Shirlena Tham, Molly Chua, Fong Cheong Kong, Maureen Tay, Sue Chan, Catherine Yeo, Eileen Lee, Caroline Gee, Jessie Tan, Leong Kim, Catherine Yip.

Patrick Yeo has volunteered to be 2007 SHC Games Day Event Organiser.  All those, who would like to help, please raised your hand.  Thank you.

Closing date: 31 July 2007.

To meet the requests of SilverHairs who are into Charity and Social services, we have a category called "Charity and Social services".  Please use it if you are into volunteer services, and wish to share with other SilverHairs the joy of volunteers, social work and charity functions.

Many have asked who is Ah Liu?  I have met him once.  He is 5.6m, a hopeless beer drinker, has a mole on his left ear, smart, terribly engaging, and very human.

On this forum, you can see he writes well, seems knowledgeable on everything from books to tree climbing, probably a Hokkien, and sometimes, he appears to be out-of-the-way in his thoughts.  But, the reality is he is very engaging, sharp and supportive of the Silverhairsclub.

I have yet to understand him.  I hope you will find some time during the D&D to meet him.  He wears a ring on the middle finger.  Cheers and have fun.

Terence Seah

Song title:  Yes, We are Silver Haired (Jingle).  Click here to hear song.

Hi everyone,

I’m Eileen Lee and am a new member to the club. Am looking forward to meet each and everyone of you at the D&D on 24 Mar. 

Very nervous and excited at the thought of meeting members whom I have not seen or heard.

Nevertheless, I am going to enjoy myself on that night.  See all of you there!

Regards

Nowadays I have little time to read fiction, so no more the 396 pages of Forsythe or King and no more the lost sleep from trying to get to the end of the book. Yes, is it because that I feel there’s little time for vicarious pleasures in reading novels? Instead, I gravitate towards non-fiction works; no, not really, just books that tell you, teach you rather: like "How to Live Life like a Millionaire with Whatever You’ve Got in What Time You’ve Left, But Were Afraid To Ask".

Anyway, I’ve just read The Number by Lee Eisenberg (Clara, you can get it at the library) and it’s a book about The Number. So what’s that?

It takes some ploughing into the book, but The Number is just the "amount" of money that you feel you’d need to live the rest of your years after retiring. Reading it you’d come to the conclusion that Americans are very secretive about revealing the amount that they really want and Lee spends quite a bit of verbiage to explain this phenomenon. I cannot explain this except that Americans just want to be one-up on their neighbours. So if Jacko next door is seemingly richer, then Richie has to up his ante even on the retirement sum he thinks he’ll need in 30 year’s time!

I don’t have that problem: I need $20 million when I retire. However, I’ll settle for $2 million! See, the Chinese don’t have that hang-up.

So I doggedly plod on through the book… until page 228 when the whole message is summed up in the questions posed by George Kinder who is a so-called Life Planning Coach. These new-fangled descriptions of financial planners or insurance agents…

Kinder asks 3 questions to his clients and advisors, telling them to write their responses.

Question 1: If you had all the money you need, what would you do? How’d you live, etc.

After a time, he’d get to the next question.

Question 2: You have all the money you need, but your doctor tells you that you have a rare disease which would result in your sudden demise in 5 to 10 years, but otherwise you’ll feel fine, what would you do, etc?

Again he waits for the quick written responses.

Question 3: You feel fine, but you only have 24 hours to live. What did you miss? What did you get not to be? What did you not get to do?

So, the first two questions dealt with material wants but the third question is qualitative. And it is this third question that should determine what The Number should be. At least that’s how I see it.

Beyond this, Lee presents his views rather irreverently, slightly humourously. He delves into selecting the financial advisor, broker, fund, blah and finally gives a worksheet to work out your sums for retirement.

It’s just another thought for all of us to think about our retirement years.

  Click link to view photos   http://www.silverhairsclub.com/SHC/walking070310/

Great Weather.  A challenging walk and thankyou to all who have emailed and all                                            who supported the walk. No serious casualty except a lady trip over a small branch.   No                                  serious injuries and no chance for lau hero to flex muscles.  No see ice cream pedlar                                                or hor hia ti (heavens know what’s tis??).   Disappointed – No early release for                                                      them for good behaviour.  So, in conclusion, what works here does not apply in Hades.
All of us hungry after the climb and ended off with dinner at the shophouses                                                        behind the BT shopping centre.   Pleasantly surprised to see SMLee (in maroon shirt).

 At first glance, mistook for Ah Liu who might have joined to check on his hor hia ti.                                                 Sorry folks if you have missed this walk.    Next walk on   April 14 W. coast or BV canal walk.  Charles,Chris,vw                                                                                                                                                

There will not be any "lesson" this Saturday due to the Cycling Activity @ ECP.  However, those who want to practice their dance steps, can still come to Far East Square – Metal Gate from 7.30pm onwards.  This will be the last Saturday night practice before the D&D.

After the D&D, there will not be any more "lesson" on Saturday night or posting of Dance List.  Those who are still interested in coming to the jam can check on the Line Dance Society website for details.

On behalf of the SHC Line Dance Group, thank you all who read and commented on our notices, and especially to those who came to watch or join us during past Saturday nights. 

Bye for now!  

Sat, 17 Mar 07 from 4 p.m. at East Coat Park

Recreational Park). Rented bicycles are abundantly available at reasonable rates. Activity will not be cancelled even if it rains but will be brought indoor to turn into chitchat session.

We will go for a dinner to celebrate post-CNY and the 1st anniversary of Cycling group after the session. Please come and join us.

Rain or shine, we will definitely be there 4 U.  Look forward to seeing you guys.

Who Are Coming –

Yew Kwong, Jade, Lily, Margaret Tian, Eva Tang, Eileen Ang, Serene Low, Dolly & …

Hi, my name is Joyce Kwik and I’ve just joined the club today.  I look foward to participating in some of the activities.

Hi 11 Money "Gots" still mia (missing in action)

Anne Pereira,   Anthony Sam,   Catherine Lai,  Chee Swee Fong,  Leong Feh Tuck Peter,   Linda Tan,   Patrick Yeo,   Roy Restan,  Thomas Kuan,  William Lam   &   Yvonne Ang

We have received a number of suggestions and ideas on how to improve the SHC website. 

Some of the complaints include difficult to register, the password never come, the text colours are too light, very difficult to find a posting, and not beautiful.

Some of the latest recommendations include taking out the "Guest" user and closing this website, password control to only registered members.

Tell us the type of changes you would like to see on this website, give us your recommendations.  We are taking orders now, on this website.  Give us a whack.  Order close 30 June 2007.

Some of us have been thinking how to write and share with other SilverHairs their interests.  Many SilverHairs would like to meet other SilverHairs with the same interests.  But, some of us are just shy, and not so sure where to start. Well, we shall make it easy for some of you.

Send an email to Vishal at Vishal@SilverHairsClub.com with your mobile telephone number.  Tell him you have some thoughts and ideas, and would like to share with others your ideas and interests.  We will call and talk with you, do a short write up for you on this website, and invite similar like-minded SilverHairs to share their thoughts with you.  Strictly for SilverHairsClub members only.

Your interests and thoughts can be on retirement plans, hobbies, going concerts, starting a small bread shop, joining travel, etc, etc, etc.

If you can do so yourself, do share with us and write your interests and ideas on this website.  Don’t be shy.  You can do so anytime.

This coming Saturday, the SHC line dancers will be late due to their participation in the monthly walk.

They will be going to F.E. Sq. only after their walk and dinner.  Therefore, there will not be any lesson this Saturday.  Also, there will not be any posting of the dance list as – request will be made on ad hoc basis as and when required by SHC dancers.

The jam will start as usual at 7pm, Far East Square, Metal Gate.  Dress colour code : White.

Terence, It was a pleasant surprise to see you on Sat. and new comer Dave.

Dave, it was your first time – so, don’t be too hard on yourself.  "Rome was not build in one day."  Continue to come and join in the fun and exercise.

There was another new comer – a lady who came late.  She came at the end when you guys have already had your "lessons and practices on the dance floor".

A reminder for anyone who wish to join us on Sat.  "Lesson" at 6pm followed by "dancing" from 7pm onwards.

Details of venues and timing for Sat. and Wed. nights line dancing have been posted previously in this website, so I will not repeat it here.

Hope to see more new faces joining us either on Wed or Sat.

Some 25 years ago, I was in London, and on a number of weekends, I used to visit the discotheques at Leicester Square.  With the coming of the D&D, I suddenly got into the mood this morning to share with you two songs, which I had linked to YouTube.  The first time, you listen to it, the quality is not good.  On your speakers, and listen to it the second time.

1. Dancing Queen – by Abba.  Click here.
2. Saturday Night Fever – Dancer John Travolta.  Click here.

Feel free to share your favourites, before the D&D.  Share with fellow SilverHairs your mood. 

Terence Seah

We did a summary of SHC membership.  Thought it is good to share with you.  Due to difficulty of collecting response, I would give an accuracy of +/- 5%.

Membership composition:
– Total registered – close to 3,000 with a mix of Chinese, Indian and Malay.
– to the best of our knowledge, 100% are over 45 years.
– 85% are still actively employed or engaged in own business.
– 15% are retired or not working.
– 60% are females and 40% are males.

Language:
– English is commonly used.
– 10% speaks mainly Mandarin, and not comfortable to join SHC activities because English is our common medium.

PC and internet fluency:
– 40% have no access to a PC at home, or their kids occupy most of the computer time.
– 60% have access to internet at home/office. 
– at least 50% are not comfortable with PC and internet.
– about 80% prefer phone and SMS communication.

Reasons for joining SilverHairsClub:
– a high 85% join with the aim of finding new friends, although we are not clear about the remaining 15%.
– common reasons for joining include friendship, finding travel partners, find healthy activities and sharing retirement issues.

Interesting perceptions about the SilverHairsClub:
– each month, we encounter about 5-10 queries if SHC is linked to any government agencies, in particular RC groups.  We try to stay as an informal social club.
– prior to joining SHC, common queries include "whether SHC is a dating club?"  However, after going through the SHC website, and when told SHC is not a dating club, these group still decide to join SHC.

Feedback:
– More than 80% of members prefer SHC to remain independent, simple and free and easy.
– some 5% prefer an organised structure, with a management structure or committee.  SHC operates by events.  Each event is led by an Event organiser, with a small adhoc committee.  All are volunteers.
– there are suggestions for a membership subscription of $1-2 per month to help with expenses.  SHC has taken the decision, no subscriptions will be collected.
– SHC receives strong support from members for its one single objective of providing a platform for SilverHairs, over 45, to meet new and more friends.
– Many members have accepted our taboos on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling and MLM during club’s events.

We would like to  your feedback to this summary.

Terence Seah

We are having the 3rd SHC webchat session on Sat, Mar 17, 1400 – 1600 hrs.  For those who have never joined our activities, please come and join in.  For details, click here.  Read also what Yew Kwong has to say, from his MacDonald Cafe, East Coast.

A number of SilverHairs have had discussions about what life will be like, during our SilverHairs years.  One conclusion.  The internet will help us keep in touch with one another, even if we are overseas.  So, give this SHC webchat a go.  See you then.

Terence Seah

The response to the SHC D&D at Serangoon Gardens Country Club ballroom has been more than overwelming.  Even I am surprised at the numbers.  Many members have not met one another, yet we are all looking forward to the friendship among SilverHairs.

Event Organiser Dolly Lim has refused to let me know the program for the night, so I cannot tell you too.  The organising committee has promised an exciting evening, but like all SilverHairsClub events, we try to do everything ourselves, at the best we can.  So, be prepared for some surprises, little faults and missed timings.  I am over 50, and there are many of us over 45. So, come and enjoy the company of other SilverHairs.

Strictly for SilverHairsClub members only.  Read all about the D&D here.

Terence Seah

The idea of going out for an overnight outing in Batam, Johor Bahru, Pulau Ubin or at one of Singapore’s 7 islands has been raised a number of times, but we have never kicked it off.  One idea include going to Batam or Bintan for a 2-day overnight with games, health exercises, investment chats, etc.  Another idea was to Johor Bahru to a resort, and include games, eats, interaction, relaxation, retirement discussion.  So far, these are week-ends and supposedly very relaxing.  The aim is to increase interaction opportunities and knowing one another better.   Ok, we now set our minds to going to have one of these events.

Tentative, I have set a date for Sat/Sun 7/8 July 2007.  Please put your ideas or suggestions here.  There is no bad idea.  And, if you can come, simply register your name here.  And, I am on the lookout for SHC overnight Event Organiser too.  Raise your hands please.

If you know of a place, a hotel, a resort, a camp area with food, less than SGD 55 per pax, please share with us all.  Nasi lemak and teh tarik will do. 3 star lodgings or bungalows will do.  Domitories are ok, as long as one dunlop and one pillow per person.  No need for hot water.  One or two cockcroaches no problem. Hopefully, can bring bicycles along.

Let’s start.

There is a suggestion to go Batam, Comment 14.

Terence Seah

Opportunity to go for a photo shoot, commissioned on behalf of MCYS.
· Building strong bonds within the extended family
· Promoting active ageing among seniors and encouraging active participation
in economic, volunteering and learning activities

1,   Working professionals 50s-60s, basketball coach mentoring  students.
2.  Chinese man, 30s: to act as son to the Chinese man (preferably with resemblance to the “father”)
3.  2 Chinese women, 50s-60s: as working professionals and volunteers, preferably 1 nurse
4.  1 Chinese woman, 30s:  as daughter to the nurse (preferably with resemblance to the “mother”)
5.   1 Indian man, 50s-60s: as working professional and volunteer
6.   1 Indian woman, 40s-50s:  as dance instructor,  eg. waltz, salsa, folk dance. Preferably slender.
7.  2 Eurasian women, 50s: as sisters. 1 will be a dance student learning waltz, salsa, folk dance. Preferably slender.
8.   2 Malay men, 50s-60s: to act as brothers

Shoot dates: Mar 13 Tues, Mar 14 Wed, Mar 15 Thurs.  Alternative dates:  Mar19,  Mon, Mar 20,Tues
Talent fees: $75 for full day (8hrs), $50 for half day (4hrs).  Talents are to be engaged on a half day or full day basis.

Photos
1.  2-3 recent photos (full-face, full-height). Email photos in jpeg files.
Pls send 2 photos at a time, less than 2 mb)
2.  Basic info (name, contact numbers, email, occupation, age, height, weight, hair length, eye colour).

I think it would be nice if a number of us take part.  If you like to participate, please email or call me at 9489-4360 from today to Tue Mar 6 for the contact.  You may also add a comment here.

Terence Seah

Hi everybody,  this is a reminder.  The SilverHairsClub is strictly for members. Over 45s, and no discussion on politics, sex, race, religion, direct selling or MLM.

External websites will be deleted.  If you wish to include a website, please seek clearance from the site administrator. 

You are advised not to leave your telephone number, email address or contact address on this website.

We encourage creativity and thought provoking discussion, but please be sensitive in your posts or comments.  Business ideas and investments discussions are also encouraged; however you are advised to exercise discretion and caution.

To aid in your search, please use the "Categories" feature.  You may also use "Search".

Terence Seah

Dance list for this Sat. 3 March public line dancing posted under Line Dancing category.  Those who have the time, come and join in the fun and exercise.

Also included other line dance news.  Check it out! 

Sat, 17 Mar 07 from 4 p.m. at East Coat Park

Meet at the rear of McDonald Marine Cove (former East Coast Recreational Park). Rented bicycles are abundantly available at reasonable rates. Activity will not be cancelled even if it rains but will be brought indoor to turn into chitchat session.

We will go for a dinner to celebrate post-CNY and the 1st anniversary of Cycling group after the session. Please come and join us.

Rain or shine, we will definitely be there 4 U.  Look forward to seeing you guys.